Recently, a mother complained to me that since the child went to kindergarten, getting up early seems to have become her daily problem as a mother, and every time she wakes up, she is challenging her emotional limits!
Why does the child have the gas to get up?
Many parents like to use simple and rough methods to wake up their children, this way of waking up will cause children emotional anxiety, irritability, inattention, slow response and other neurological or psychological problems, known as "killing wake-up", for a long time to wake up children, children of course, children are easy to get up.
The following ways to wake up your child are even more undesirable:
1. Yelling style
Many mothers see their children lying in bed, especially when they are in a hurry to go to school, they will become very grumpy and easy to yell at their children. As everyone knows, this way of waking up the child will not only ruin the child's beautiful morning, but also make him feel very depressed throughout the day.
2. Beat type
Some parents will also choose to push open the door directly and hit the child's ass a few times, although it will make the child wake up immediately, but this behavior will make the sleeping child frightened. In addition to being frightened, some children will subconsciously "fight back", and it turns out that this method of waking up children will make children very timid, and others are more likely to be frightened.
3. Pull away the quilt type
Such a way may make the child suddenly wake up, but the sudden drop in temperature may make the child catch a cold. Even if the child sits up in this situation, the body will be very uncomfortable, and the brain will become more chaotic.
4. High frequency noise
Some parents will choose to use a noisy way to let the child wake up from sleep, although it can achieve their own goals at that time, but it is easy to scare the child. Waking up in this noisy environment will also make the child's mood very anxious and uneasy, which will have a negative effect on his day's study and life.
Correct way to wake up your child:
1. Inform your child in advance the night before that he needs to get up at about what time
If the next day is school day, set an alarm for the child the night before, and let the child know what time he needs to get up, so that he will not delay the school curriculum. If it is a rest day in itself, then the child can be allowed to sleep appropriately for a while before waking up.
2. Gentle call-and-wake-up call
Parents can touch the child's face, let the child have the consciousness of getting up, slowly call his name, let him wake up more comfortably. In this way, the child who is awakened will not be particularly irritable and will not be frightened.
3. Prepare plenty of time
In order to allow children to reasonably release their "getting up gas", parents may wish to leave their children with sufficient time to get up, and can choose to make breakfast first, and then ask their children to get up. If the child does not get up successfully at one time, he can call again at intervals of a few minutes, and there is no need to make the process particularly tense and urgent.
4. Create a good wake-up environment
Mothers want to make their children get up more smoothly, may wish to think about the environment when they wake up, such as letting the aroma of rice drift into the child's house, letting the aroma of flowers and vegetation drift into the child's house, opening the curtains and opening the doors and windows, so that the child can breathe fresh air and feel the sunlight. The child's mood remains wonderful and happy, and getting up naturally becomes a positive thing.
Calling the child up is a technical job, a little inattentive, parents and children will be annoyed, complaining to each other, a good day starts from the quarrel, in order to avoid this situation, parents also need to be skilled to wake up the child. Try these tips for the little new mother:
1. Morning wake-up ceremony
Before the baby goes to bed, we often have a sense of ceremony, turn on the night lights, tell bedtime stories, change pajamas, etc., to give the child a psychological preparation process. It's the same with getting up, it requires a sense of ceremony.
Open the curtains, the light has a wake-up effect on the human body;
Play a fixed early rise to a pleasant sound; tell the baby: "This music is specifically for the baby to get up." ”
Giving the baby such a sense of ritual every day can make the baby form a cognition, he will know that pulling the curtains and listening to music in the morning is the time to get up.
2. Gently stroke and massage the child
Babies lie in bed, parents should not vigorously slap their children. You can gently rub your baby's hands, stroke the soles of your feet, pinch your ears, push your back, rub your little belly, and help your intestines wake up.
Give the baby a gentle morning touch, which can wake up the baby at the same time, but also soothe the baby's emotions.
3. Use toys as incentives
Kimi, where Daddy goes, is also a kid who gets up a lot. However, Kimi's father, Lin Zhiying, will carefully hand the toy to the child every time, and Kimi will obediently stop crying.
Children for their favorite toys will have a complex, after waking up the child, the child is still a light sleep, parents can take the baby's favorite toys as a tool to motivate the child to get up.
For example, many children like the Smurfs and can use it to compete with their babies: "The Smurfs have woken up!" If you don't get up, you're going to fall behind! ”
In this way, when the child hears it, he will consciously want to compete with the toy, which is also a good way to wake up.
4. Take advantage of the awakening effect of aroma
The good smell is easy to stimulate the human brain, and the perceptual machine of the brain can also be awakened. Therefore, you may wish to put the aroma of fragrant food such as breakfast and milk aroma within the range that the child can smell, so that the tempting food aroma can gently transmit the signal of "it is time to get up and eat" to the brain through the child's olfactory system.
A day of great energy for children starts with a good morning. If the way mom and dad wake up their children is too rough, it is only natural that the child has the gas to get up.
Therefore, the best way to wake up a child is to be gentle and patient, let the child feel safe enough, and use pleasant stimulation to convey the signal of "waking up". I believe that time can change the child's bad habit of getting up, and cultivate a good sleep habit, parents and children work together!