Generational parenting affects the quality of children's home education, and I do not approve of it.
How should the elderly treat their children? Is it a win-win situation?
I combined my personal experience and gave the elderly two sincere suggestions.
First, with grandchildren, don't shout out loud and endlessly.
Second, respect for the parenting style of small couples, in principle, more praise should be given.
The elderly are very important to children.
Moms are nagging, either urging homework, or forbidden to watch TV, or they can't eat snacks before dinner.
And Dad was always busy at work, and he didn't care about things at home.
When the child wants to say to his father, "Dad listened to me, today our classmates invented a very fun game..."
Before he could finish speaking, Dad had already replied, "Well, awesome, I'm gone and I'm going to work." ”
The elderly often become the only safe haven for children's minds.
We wish the elderly a long life, because they are middle-aged and the big back of our small family.
But at this time, the grandparents may be losing some social status, while losing some of the ability to work, and their bodies are not as tough as before.
Their identity and authority have been greatly challenged.
Sometimes, Grandpa would loudly reprimand his grandchildren:
Still watching TV, homework done?
Throwing around all day, didn't your teacher educate you?
Don't know how to say hello, so rude, your mother doesn't educate you?
Old people, when you have grandchildren, don't shout out loud and endless.
Because even if you don't reprimand loudly, everyone will respect Grandpa, think grandpa is very important, and become an amiable and respectable grandpa.
Young mothers take children for the first time, their hearts are full of uneasiness, and if the elderly always give verbal denials, they will completely close their hearts.
Even if the elderly have no malice, denial will make young mothers feel hurt.
For example, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the confinement is tense, and many people jokingly call the mother-in-law an "artifact of returning milk":
Why are you crying again just after you finish milking? Is it not enough milk, how pitiful the child is, quickly fill the child with some milk powder!
Why is the child crying again, you have to take good care of the child, don't always let him cry.
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These accountabilitys are meaningless and only make moms feel guilty and angry.
At this time, first of all, we must give full affirmation and praise to the efforts of the daughter-in-law.
For example, if the child has been crying, you don't worry, you say that you haven't slept well at night, it's really not easy.
Or tell your new dad, don't always work overtime and come back to help your daughter-in-law, be nice to her.
Even if you and your son do nothing, this unconditional support will make your daughter-in-law feel:
Although it is quite tiring, it still has to work hard.
With the support of grandma, the mother's mental state is very stable, the mother is not anxious, and the child will grow up smoothly.