There is a popular saying on the Internet that "you can't make money with your children, and you can't lose money to lose your children", which is also the most important reason why contemporary "generation-skipping parenting" has become mainstream.
Many parents feel that in the first three years, the child will not say more, there is no learning pressure, it is good to bring it to the elderly, not to tighten. But I don't know that the "first three years" are very important for children!
Why is the "first three years" important?
The path of children's psychological development can be divided into four stages: emotional upbringing (0-3 years old), character development (3-6 years old), ability development (6-12 years old), and adolescent education (12-18 years old).
The first two stages are the basis of education in the last two stages, and the impact on children is also the most important. In addition, children have 37 sensitive periods between 0-7 years old, and 20 between 0-3 years old, which shows the importance of the "first three years".
Newborn babies don't know everything, but newborns are the most sensitive. Having just arrived in this "new world", everything around him is foreign to him, but he can perceive everything around him and remember the smell, voice, and appearance of the person who takes care of him.
By 4-6 months, the newborn will begin to "recognize people", and the "attachment relationship" will also begin to form from this time. The child derives emotional satisfaction from the "attachment relationship", and on this basis, slowly expands the family, friendship and future love.
Second, how to accompany children in high quality for the "first three years"?
Before the first 3 years of the child, we should focus on cultivating the following abilities of the child:
1. Feel safe
Italian educator Montessori pointed out: "The more children who receive a full emotional response from infancy, the more they will grow up to feel safe and truly independent." ”
A sense of security is the foundation of a child's mental health. The first 10 months of a child's birth are the golden period for cultivating a sense of security, and it is recommended that they be raised by their parents themselves, not arbitrarily handed over to the previous generation.
During this period, parents should give their children as much "quality" companionship as possible. For example, parent-child reading, playing games, telling stories, going out with your child, etc.
2. Behavioral habits
Good habits benefit children for life, and good habits also need to be cultivated. Children before the age of 3, because they do not have the ability to distinguish between good and bad, the demonstration of the outside world, whether good or bad, will be fully absorbed, at this time, parents consciously cultivate children's good habits, children will learn very quickly.
3. Language proficiency
Before the age of 3 is a sensitive period for children's language development, and it is also the time when children's language development and learning ability are the strongest.
No one is born to speak, but constantly adapts, imitates, and practices in the environment. Therefore, it is recommended that parents talk to their children more to stimulate their children's hearing and brain development. When the child can speak, praise the child more, let the child make progress in the praise, and improve the language ability.
There is an old saying in China, called 3 years old to see the old, who to take the child before the age of 3, what kind of environment to live in, what kind of education, etc., to a large extent determines the child's future personality, character determines the fate. Therefore, I hope that parents will cherish their children's "first three years" and accompany their children to grow up healthy and happy