During the Republic of China period, the affair around the talented Xu Zhimo was always enjoyable, and among the three women who intersected the most, Zhang Youyi was an inspirational model for divorced women to improve themselves, and Lin Huiyin was a career woman with both talents and appearances.
And only Lu Xiaoman's wind evaluation has always been bad, when she was married and Xu Zhimo had an extramarital affair, she caused a lot of criticism in the society at that time, after Xu Zhimo's plane crash, Lu Xiaoman did not have any of his own income, relying on men's decadent life experience, but also criticized by the world.
Compared with Zhang Youyi, Lu Xiaoman is a famous lady from a famous family, compared with Lin Huiyin, his parents are cultivating it as a social celebrity, but Lu Xiaoman has walked out of a completely different life path from Zhang Youyi and Lin Huiyin.
The only fifth daughter of the family's nine children who grew up was loved by thousands of children from an early age
"Miaoyin Guanyin, Sanskrit Sound Sea Tide Sound." Victory over the worldly sound, is therefore necessary to always read. Don't be suspicious of your thoughts, Avalokiteshvara is pure and holy. On the 19th day of the ninth month of the lunar calendar, the day when Avalokiteshvara became enlightened, on this day, Buddhist monasteries hold solemn ceremonies, and the karma is very special.
On November 7, 1903, it was exactly the nineteenth day of the ninth lunar month of that year, on this day, a baby girl was born in a family surnamed Lu in Kongjia Lane, Shanghai, and she was nicknamed "Little Guanyin" from a young age.
The Lu family is a family with many disasters, Lu Xiaoman's mother Wu Manhua gave birth to a total of nine children, the other eight children have died one after another, only the fifth daughter Lu Xiaoman survived easily, but she was also weak and sick from childhood, and this illness also accompanied her.
For the weak wind of the beauty, Xing'er in "Dream of the Red Chamber" has a fascinating metaphor when chatting with You Erjie: "Afraid of the anger is big, blowing down the Lin girl; the gas is warm, and afraid of blowing the Xue girl." ”
Lu Xiaoman, who is "completely comfortable without half a day", is like the sentimental and sickly Lin Daiyu, delicate and abnormal, his parents are afraid of falling in their hands, and they are afraid of melting in their mouths, just like the flowers in the greenhouse, they are loved and cared for by their parents.
The cultivation of celebrities is predestined from birth, and the family where Lu Xiaoman was born is a big family with both wealth and fame. Lu Xiaoman's grandfather, Lu Rongchang, served as a court doctor in the late Qing Dynasty, and moved from Changzhou to Shanghai during the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom.
Although the Lu family was wealthy, they were very generous, often providing relief to disaster victims, and were very popular in the local area, and had also received a personal plaque from Li Yuanhong, president of the Beiyang government.
Lu Xiaoman's father's name is Lu Ding, the original name is Lu Zifu, because he has been very intelligent since he was a child, every time there is an exam, he will definitely pass the exam, and the family will change his name to Lu Ding, which is also hoping that his life will be stable and stable.
After Lu Dingzhongju was sent by the Qing court to study at Waseda University in Japan, he was a proud disciple of the famous Japanese minister Itō Hirobumi, and during his study in Japan, Lu Ding joined Sun Yat-sen's alliance association, and was friends with the Kuomintang elders Zhang Taiyan and Wu Yuzhang. When Yuan Shikai was restored, he was arrested along with many members of the League.
During the Period of the Kuomintang Nanjing Government, after the recommendation of fellow villager Wang Xunzhi, he entered the Ministry of Finance, and with his outstanding professional ability, Lu Ding served as the director of finance, counselor, and taxation department for more than 20 years, and has always been a high-ranking and powerful person.
After resigning, Lu Ding also financed the establishment of the "China Savings Bank", and also created a "zero deposit and take" method of saving money, the most important thing for bankers is money, which alone is enough to make the world envious, because Lu Ding's position in the political and business circles made the Lu family a famous family at that time.
Lu Xiaoman's mother, whose name was Wu Manhua (吴南华), nicknamed Mei Shou (梅寿), was also a native of Changzhou, the eldest daughter of Wu Qihe of the Three Situs of Changzhou White Horse, and the ancestor Wu Guangyue (the master of the Zhongchengdi of the Wu clan of Changzhou), who served as an inspector of Jiangxi in the Qing Dynasty.
The Man character in Lu Xiaoman's name is taken from her mother, and her talent is more inherited from her mother. Wu Manhua was well read of poetry, especially proficient in ancient Chinese, and when Lu Ding was a teacher at the Beizi Belle School, Wu Manhua also helped her husband correct the homework of these wang grandchildren.
In addition to being good at articles, Wu Manhua also has a very outstanding specialty, that is, gongbi painting, Lu Xiaoman has particularly liked to draw since he was a child, and he was also influenced by his mother.
When she was six years old, Lu Xiaoman followed her parents to the ancient capital of Beiping, where she studied at the primary school attached to the Beijing Normal School for Girls, and her mother personally taught her to write poetry and paint.
In November 1913, Yuan Shikai ordered the dissolution of the Kuomintang, and Lu Ding went to work with the party constitution, and Lu Xiaoman, who was only nine years old, knew how to remind his father to take the party constitution and hide it.
The police went to Lu's house to search and asked Lu Xiaoman, "Where are your father's letters?" Lu Xiaoman replied unhurriedly: "Father's letters and official documents are all placed in the office." ”
The policeman asked her again: "What about personal letters?" Lu Xiaoman asked rhetorically, "Aren't you all turning it out?" A little girl who is only nine years old can silence the police questions, which shows Lu Xiaoman's agility.
After graduating from primary school, Lu Xiaoman studied at Beijing Girls' First High School, and at the age of fifteen, he entered the Sacred Heart Academy founded by the Christian Church, which was a famous aristocratic school in Beijing at that time, and the children of rich families who could study here were all the children of rich families, and the three sisters of the Song family, Xu Guangping, Bingxin and others all graduated from this school.
In the Sacred Heart Academy, Lu Xiaoman learned English, physical education, piano, oil painting and other modern courses, the students here take fashionable English names, speak fluent English, and cultivate good social skills, which are the necessary conditions for becoming a celebrity, and also the "weight" of marrying into a good family.
Lu Xiaoman learned Chinese painting from her mother and oil painting in school, and she was very talented in painting, and a foreigner who came to visit the Sacred Heart Academy once bid two hundred francs for a painting by Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman's parents also invited her to a special foreign teacher, so that she is familiar with foreign Chinese, in addition to painting, English, she will also recite, act, can write a beautiful fly head Xiaokai, live a goddess of the literary and art circle.
Gu Weijun, the foreign minister of the Beiyang government, asked the Sacred Heart Academy to recommend a beautiful girl who was proficient in French and English to participate in the work of receiving foreign envoys, and Lu Xiaoman, who was only 17 years old, became the best candidate, and her three-year diplomatic career made her an assistant to Gu Weijun, the first person in Chinese diplomacy, and also became the earliest woman in China to get involved in the diplomatic field.
Lu Xiaoman's beauty and cleverness made Gu Weijun praise him, and he said to others when he landed: "Lu Jiansan's face is not smart at all, but his daughter Miss Lu Xiaoman is so beautiful and smart." ”
General Xiafei of France saw that China's honor guard was messy and questioned China's military training methods, Lu Xiaoman replied with a smile: "Because you are a famous hero in the world today, everyone can't help but be excited to see you, so the movements can't be neat." ”
When foreign guests criticized the poor literary and artistic performances, Lu Xiaoman said: This is a program unique to our country, but you just can't understand it. It can be seen from this that Lu Xiaoman, as a diplomatic reception, is very qualified and decent, and she maintains the dignity of the country in a smile.
Being able to cope with diplomatic occasions freely, but also thanks to one of Lu Xiaoman's major strengths, is to dance, she likes to dance, but also good at dancing, people as its name, Lu Xiaoman's figure is beautiful and agile, is a dancer born with infinite charm.
Lu Xiaoman, who has unlimited scenery, has many suitors around her, and her reputation is getting bigger and bigger, and tang Ying, a famous beauty in Shanghai, is called "Southern Tang and Northern Land".
The life cultivated as a celebrity only aims to marry people, and has never thought of relying on themselves
Xu Zhimo's hair-tie wife Zhang Youyi recalled the situation when she first met Lu Xiaoman: "When I finished eating, I saw that Lu Xiaoman was indeed very beautiful, she had soft hair and a pair of big winks. ”
The beautiful Lu Xiaoman has no shortage of suitors around him, but in Lu Xiaoman's many pursuits, Lu Ding and his wife finally chose Wang Geng. Wang Geng was a teenager and the Lu family was rich, and in the eyes of outsiders, this marriage was also a good couple.
After graduating from Tsinghua University in 1911, Wang Geng studied at the University of Michigan and the West Point Military Academy, and wang Geng, who graduated from West Point in 1918, was the 14th among the 137 students in the whole class.
After graduating and returning to China, Wang Geng served in the Beiyang War Department and was later promoted to major general. Lu Ding and his wife held a huge wedding for their 19-year-old daughter at the "Naval Carnival", and the pomp and circumstance were sensational, and Cao Rulin's daughter, Zhang Zongxiang's daughter, Ye Gongqi's daughter, and Zhao Chunnian's daughter were all female ministers of the wedding.
After marrying Wang Geng, Lu Xiaoman was not happy, born sociable, she did not want to be locked up in a cage like a canary to teach her husband and son, she wrote in her diary: "They (mothers) seem to be the great happiness of fu Rongzigui, and personal joy, happiness, sorrow and anger are not a problem, so it is no wonder that she cannot understand my pain." Lu Xiaoman pursues romance, while Wang Geng is a very enterprising person, a mind is focused on work, he himself has no time for entertainment, let alone time to care about Lu Xiaoman's joys and sorrows.
In this marriage, Lu Xiaoman did not feel the feeling of being pampered and pampered, all she felt was loneliness, and her heart naturally accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction. When he met the romantic poet Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman realized what it was like to be truly in love.
She wrote in "Ai Mei Xiao Za": "Because my delicate nature does not allow me to confide in my true feelings, I sing like a drama in front of people with my neck straight, and I absolutely refuse to let a person know that I am a frustrated person and an unhappy person." This life lasted until I accidentally met Shima, and let his radiant eyes shine through my inner heart, recognizing my hidden pain. Xu Zhimo was the one she hoped to really understand and care about her, Wang Geng was busy with official business, Lu Xiaoman wanted to go out to play, and Wang Geng, who was unsuspecting, would let Xu Zhimo accompany Lu Xiaoman out to play. One is a talented man, the other is a beautiful young woman, often go out to dance together, go sightseeing together, and naturally produce love.
Once, Lu Xiaoman did not listen to Wang Geng and went out to dance with his companions, and Wang Geng scolded Lu Xiaoman. Lu Xiaoman ran home to complain to his parents, saying that he would never go back to the Wang family to marry, and his father approved of his daughter's divorce from Wang Geng when he heard it.
Xu Zhimo also invited Liu Haisu to set up a banquet as a lobbyist, and Liu Haisu said at the banquet the theory that marriage should be based on feelings, and Wang Geng heard the voice outside the words and began to seriously think about the relationship between him and Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman's married life is all dancing, drinking, playing mahjong, visiting the theater, after marrying Wang Geng, and after being with Xu Zhimo, sleeping until noon every day, buying beautiful clothes, eating delicious food, spending five or six hundred oceans a month.
Originally, Lu Xiaoman's life was designed according to the script of living a rich wife after marriage, but she and Wang Geng had a disagreement and divorced, and after marrying Xu Zhimo, Xu Zhimo went to class to make money in order to support his wife who spent a lot of money, and soon died of a plane crash.
She has lived in a honeypot since she was a child, and her parents have only raised her to marry a good family, and has never taught her to go out on her own to earn a living. Lu Xiaoman, who only knew how to rely on men to live, lost the source of her life, so she lived with Weng Ruiwu, who massaged herself and treated her illness, and smoked opium in order to alleviate the pain.
Lu Xiaoman said to his friend: "Drinking ginseng soup is useless." Eating supplements, useless. Rui Wu persuaded me to take a few sips of opium smoke, saying that it was really magical, and after a few sips, I was full of energy and all diseases were gone. ”
Weng Ruiwu and Lu Xiaoman agreed on three chapters of the law, not officially married, and Weng Ruiwu did not abandon his wife. Hu Shi once asked Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu to break off relations, Lu Xiaoman refused, she had no love for Weng Ruiwu, but she lived with him for more than 30 years, just because she needed his care, because she needed a man to rely on.
Lu Xiaoman, who lost Xu Zhimo, is unfortunate, and Lu Xiaoman, who only knows how to rely on others to survive, is decadent, but it is also the luck of her life to have such a man who still takes care of her even after she is old and old.
The favor of her parents made her and hurt her, because from childhood to adulthood, she was never taught how to survive on her own, and she never needed to survive on her own. Lu Xiaoman and Lin Huiyin are also famous ladies cultivated by rich and noble families, lin Huiyin, who is spiritually independent, has achieved himself with his career, but Lu Xiaoman, who is not mentally independent, has spent his life in the cycle of relying on men.