Lu Xiaoman, one of the four beauties in the early days of the Republic of China, had 3 men in his lifetime, namely Wang Geng, Xu Zhimo and Weng Ruiwu. Lu Xiaoman lived with Wang Geng for 5 years, from the age of 18 to 23; with Xu Zhimo for 5 years, from 23 to 28 years old; and with Weng Ruiwu for 30 years, the longest time.
Lu Xiaoman, the head of the four beauties of the Republic of China
So who is Lu Xiaoman with whom he has love? Who is she happier with?
The truth is very cruel, she is not happy with anyone, because Lu Xiaoman is an extremely selfish person, she only thinks for herself, never for others.
First, Lu Xiaoman hurt Wang Geng first, and even his mother Wu Manhua could not forgive her.
One day in the summer of 1922, a grand wedding was held in the Beiyang government's "Naval Club", and hundreds of Chinese and foreign guests congratulated the newlyweds. Among the nine female ministers, there are Cao Rulin, Zhang Zongxiang, Ye Gongqiu, Zhao Chunnian, Sun Baoqi and other daughters of the elites and celebrities in the capital.
The heroine Lu Xiaoman's father, Lu Ding, is the vice president of the Ministry of Finance, is a famous and prestigious family in Changzhou, Jiangsu Province, and the man is a young talent who graduated from the United States Military Academy at West Point and has a long future.
Lu Xiaoman's wedding photo with Wang Geng
Lu Xiaoman is the only child in the family, her parents are enlightened people, some people say that this is an arranged marriage, but I think Lu Ding and his wife did not and could not force their only daughter, Lu Xiaoman himself should be very satisfied with Wang Geng at that time.
At that time, everyone was optimistic about this marriage, and the male protagonist, Wang Geng, also worked hard, and soon achieved senior positions such as major general police chief in Harbin. But their marriage still went wrong.
Because although Wang Geng was born in the family of an official eunuch in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province, his family has declined after the death of his father, so he must struggle and strive to move upwards. In this way, he spent very little time with Lu Xiaoman, although he loved Lu Xiaoman very much, and every month he gave a large amount of the ocean to Lu Xiaoman to spend casually.
In this time when ordinary people seem to be very happy, the scumbag Xu Zhimo appeared, he had just abandoned his wife and young son in London, and returned to China to pry Lin Huiyin, the girlfriend of his brother Liang Sicheng. Because Liang Qichao was so strict that he could not hook up with Lin Huiyin, the empty and bored Xu Zhimo quickly hooked up with Lu Xiaoman, the wife of his brother Wang Geng.
As a result, Lu Xiaoman beat up her and Wang Geng's only child in her belly (which caused her to never have children again), and let her father Lu Ding force Wang Geng, who was in prison, to sign a divorce.
Lu Xiaoman, who was incomparably rich and wealthy, decided to leave Wang Geng on the grounds that he had no love with Wang Geng.
Wang Geng's life, which was rising rapidly, was devastated and suddenly fell rapidly (Wang Geng finally died in Egypt, Africa).
Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng
Second, is there real love between Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo?
Lu Xiaoman should have truly loved Xu Zhimo at first, and without considering the need for money in life, Xu Zhimo's sweet words made her fall quickly without a moral bottom line.
However, Lu Xiaoman's marriage to Xu Zhimo, in addition to her mother Wu Manhua's resolute opposition, Xu Zhimo's father Xu Shenru also resolutely opposed.
Stills of Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo
Liang Qichao even scolded when witnessing marriage: "Xu Zhimo, you are an impetuous person, so that you can't do learning, and being a person is even more a failure, divorce and remarriage is proof that you are not dedicated!" After scolding the groom, he scolded the bride again: "Lu Xiaoman, I hope that from now on you can abide by the way of the woman, review your personality and behavior, divorce and remarriage are all caused by the fault of your character, I hope that you will not make a mistake and mistake yourself and mislead people..."
Of course, Xu Zhimo's literary friends Hu Shi, Cai Yuanpei, Yu Dafu, Xu Beihong and others, all of whom enthusiastically praised the "great and passionate love" of these two people.
Love is wonderful, if you don't need money as a foundation.
Lu Xiaoman is accustomed to a princess-like life, she frequently goes in and out of various banquets, dance halls, theaters, happy to play cards, listen to plays, dance, hold horns, for 200 silver dollars a month in Shanghai Xiafei Road Garden Villa rented a building, raising drivers, cooks, personal servants and many maids, spending money like dirt.
Socialite Lu Xiaoman's life schedule is reversed, she does not get up until 12:00 noon every day, and only wearily leaves various social places and takes the car home at dawn in the early morning.
After Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo got married, they spent five or six hundred oceans a month in Shanghai, which is equivalent to the current yuan difference of more than 80,000 yuan.
Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo's former residence in Shanghai
Of course, this does not include Lu Xiaoman's subsequent listening to the words of the albinist Rui Wu and becoming infected with opium.
However, in Lu Xiaoman's view, this was extremely common, because she had always lived like this.
After marriage, Lu Xiaoman slowly forgot what she said about love and Xu Zhimo.
Xu Zhimo, who was deeply distressed, wrote a letter from Beijing to Lu Xiaoman in Shanghai: "After I got married for a few years, I couldn't even keep a chance to talk to you alone. There's not a day where you're not dating, we don't even have a "private life", and by recently I've been partially numb and don't yearn for that worldly happiness anymore. ”
Is this the so-called love of the two people who swore a mountain alliance in the first place?
Lu Xiaoman
Xu Zhimo's father, Xu Shenru, was a huge rich man in Zhejiang, and because he was dissatisfied with Lu Xiaoman's marriage with Xu Zhimo, he cut off financial support for Xu Zhimo after his marriage.
The lives of Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo immediately became embarrassing.
In order to make money, Xu Zhimo let Lu Xiaoman splurge uncontrolledly, and he had to hold classes everywhere at Guanghua University, Soochow University, Shanghai Law School, Nanjing Central University, and even Peking University at the same time, and in his spare time, he had to desperately write poetry and earn all his money.
In order to save money, Xu Zhimo often lowered his proud head and put down his face to rub the free plane between Beijing, Shanghai and Shanghai and Shanghai.
Just when Xu Zhimo was desperately trying to earn money outside, he found the unbearable situation between Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu.
Don't know if this is retribution?
It was Xu Zhimo himself who brought Weng Rui into the house with the wolf, and how similar it was to the situation when Wang Geng took Xu Zhimo home to meet Lu Xiaoman.
Xu Zhimo wanted to make one last effort to save his "love", and he begged Lu Xiaoman to leave Shanghai with him and go to Beijing, but lu Xiaoman resolutely refused, just as Lu Xiaoman refused to come to Shanghai with Wang Geng for Xu Zhimo.
Under such pressure, a generation of great poets have never created such great poems as "Farewell to Kangqiao" and "Sayonara".
Xu Zhimo, who was almost desperate for life, flew back to Beiping in 1931, and the plane crashed over Shandong, killing the once most talented poet of the Chinese generation, which also drew the end of his "love" with Lu Xiaoman.
Third, Weng Ruiwu took care of Lu Xiaoman for 30 years, and even went to jail for her, what was he for?
After Xu Zhimo's death, Weng Ruiwu took over Lu Xiaoman in an all-round way.
Weng Ruiwu was also a second-generation official, and his father Weng Shouqi served as the prefect of Wuzhou in Guangxi. Therefore, Weng Ruiwu had the conditions to learn calligraphy and painting with Uncle Zhao, learn poetry with Zhou Yi, and sing Peking opera and Kunqu opera, Mei Lanfang appreciated him very much, and he also studied Traditional Chinese medicine tuina with Ding Fengshan.
Weng Rui noon
Such a talented person is exactly the type of Lu Xiaoman who "appreciates the most love", just like when she first appreciated the love Xu Zhimo.
At this time, Lu Xiaoman, who had no source of income (Lu Xiaoman's father Lu Ding also died a year before Xu Zhimo's crash), all the expenses needed to be borne by Weng Ruiwu.
However, Weng Ruiwu's own family has his wife Chen Mingliu and five children, and he still has to support his brother's widow and widowed sister-in-law's family, plus Lu Xiaoman's side, the burden of the three families is really heavy.
However, Weng Ruiwu has always been very optimistic and upward.
As long as there was no money, Weng Ruiwu sold the countless calligraphy and painting antiques handed down by his ancestors, and he himself, like Xu Zhimo, did 5 errands in 5 places.
What do you say this Weng Ruiwu is for?
At the beginning, it was definitely for Lu Xiaoman's beauty, which is a common disease of men. But what about after Lu Xiaoman grew old and faded?
I think Weng Ruiwu transformed passion into a kind of family affection, as a responsibility, this responsibility, Weng Ruiwu has been taking on for 30 years, until 1961 Weng Ruiwu himself died of illness.
Lu Xiaoman and Weng Ruiwu, some people say that there are very husband and wife elephants
Sometimes, people are such a strange animal.
I originally wanted to scold Weng Ruiwu for a few words, and then I thought, forget it, among Lu Xiaoman's three men, he is the least famous, because Lu Xiaoman has also been in prison once after liberation, and his family has been in conflict for a long time, he should be the most difficult man.
On April 3, 1965, Lu Xiaoman died at the age of 63 at Huadong Hospital in Shanghai, wearing an old cotton jacket full of holes.
Because there were no children, Lu Xiaoman's ashes were not known where they were.
Conclusion: If Lu Xiaoman can be responsible for Wang Geng and not cheat and not divorce, what will happen to her future? After marrying Xu Zhimo, what would happen if she lived in the room like other professors' wives?
Lu Xiaoman has acted willfully in the name of love all his life, harming others and harming others, and as a result, who is to blame?
So in the end, I would like to say, "Poor children and rich women", this is a fallacy. The question of treating the education of children is not a question of poor and rich support, but a question of correct upbringing. Give them a correct three views, a sound personality, and that's what matters most. I just don't know, do Lu Ding and Wu Manhua have a little remorse for doting on their daughter Lu Xiaoman?