In the book "Little Women", there is a sentence that appears: "A girl wants to see the world in order to decide what kind of life she wants to live." ”
Indeed, a person who has not seen the world, their vision is often very short, especially women, it is easy to put the hope of life and the way out of the future in marriage.
In marriage, the most taboo thing is not not not to love, but to love blindly, because blind love will hurt others and hurt themselves, and have nothing to do with the happiness they desire.
Some people say that since love is easy to pass away and marriage is fragile, it is completely denied and all abandoned.
People who have such thoughts are either unenlightened or they are too deeply hurt. Whether it is the former or the latter, it is a manifestation of unconsciousness.
Life is hard, and love is the only thing that can save us, whether it is our own love or the love of others, so don't doubt love, don't doubt love, you can't meet a good ending, but because you haven't met the right person.
And sobriety, that is, not blind, not blindly follow, when encountering things, can calmly deal with, in the face of choices, can have their own thinking.
Truly blessed women are living very soberly.
In the book "Sometimes There Is a Woman", there is such a sentence: "I long to be collected for the rest of my life, properly placed, and carefully preserved." Lest I be frightened, lest I be bitter, lest I be displaced, lest I have no branches to rely on. But the man, I know, I have always known, he will never come. ”
If you want to live the life you want, if you want to get the happiness you want, you must carry the weight forward, step by step, to the future.
We all know that there is a difference between men and women, which is not only the difference in physiological structure, but also the difference in the level of thinking.
As a result, many women, because of their delicate bodies than men, mistakenly believe that they should be a "flower" that should be well taken care of, even in adversity, they only fantasize about the appearance of a Prince Charming to save themselves and get themselves out of the fiery life.
But in real life, where there are so many Prince Charming, where there are such clever fate encounters, where there are such lucky lifetimes.
In fact, whether you choose to get married and have children, or choose to stay single, how life is lived, it depends on yourself, whether you are constantly transforming yourself, whether you continue to achieve yourself.
Truly blessed women live very soberly because they know how to work for themselves.
I remembered a high-achieving student who had reported on the Internet, who should have embarked on a flower road life after graduation, but because he could not adapt to the interpersonal relationships in the workplace, he demoted his identity again and again, and finally, he quit the road of urban struggle by marrying a rural man.
After marriage, she was almost reduced to a tool for giving birth to children, and usually could only do some unskilled odd jobs to subsidize the family, but she still could not get rid of the torture of poverty.
In fact, fate is not that she did not have the opportunity to turn against the wind, and it can even be said that in the eighties and nineties, high-achieving students, opportunities are everywhere, but she did not seize it once, and when she encountered a little difficulty, she only thought of escaping.
It is most appropriate to describe the majority of her life as "mourning her misfortune and angering her indisputable".
If a woman places her hopes in marriage and men, then she will completely and completely give up on herself, and in the end she will lose completely.
The more difficult the environment, the more we should rely on ourselves and face the difficulties, in order to achieve the counterattack of life, and blindly avoidance will only make the problem accumulate more, and will only make the situation more difficult.
Truly blessed women live very soberly, because they know how to face difficulties.
ZHANG Xin, CEO of SOHO China, has said:
"Any choice has advantages and disadvantages, and women should especially be clear, what kind of choice can maximize their own interests and minimize the disadvantages? If you want to understand, don't hesitate, give up when you should give up, and shoot when you should shoot. Wisdom in marriage is actually the wisdom of trade-offs. ”
A person, if he is always hesitant, is often because he has not mastered the things in front of him, and he is not clear about the direction of future development, so he wanders in different options.
When encountering problems, we must be clear about what we need, especially in marriage and love, and start towards the goal in order to make the most appropriate trade-offs.
As we all know, fish and bear paws can not have both, too much hesitation will only waste time, only before choosing, weigh the pros and cons, in order to minimize their losses.
Some people choose love, even if the life is stretched, still feel happy and at ease; some people choose wealth, even if there is no love, still live a wonderful life.
Whichever choice you make, it means that you have to give up something else, so when making a choice, the most taboo thing is not to choose something different from others, but to choose something unwilling.
To put it bluntly, it is not sober enough, does not understand what they ask for, and is not responsible for life.
Truly blessed women live very soberly because they know how to make trade-offs.
For the rest of your life, may you and I live soberly, not trapped in the heart, not chaotic, striding forward, and embarking on a happy ending.
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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