"Dear" to be continued: another archetypal character, Du Xiaohua, is still running on the road to find a son

Source: Workers Daily

On December 27, 2021, Sun Haiyang, one of the archetypal characters of the movie "Dear" and a 14-year-old son-seeker, said on Weibo that Sun Zhuo, a child who had returned to Shenzhen with him, had found a satisfactory school in Shenzhen, and the family would live together from then on. A 14-year-old quest for a son came to a successful conclusion.

The happiness of others reflects Du Xiaohua's loneliness - of the 4 archetypal characters who lost their children in the movie "Dear", he is the only one who has not yet found the child.

I saw that the friends who were running together on the road to find their children found their children one by one, and their sons did not know where they were. For the scene of Sun Haiyang and his son's reunion, it is the scene that Du Xiaohua wants to see the most, but the most dare not watch.

Whoever finds the child, the "friend of the victim" must celebrate

After knowing the news that Sun Haiyang had found Sun Zhuo, Du Xiaohua failed to catch up with their first confession. But after learning the news that Sun Haiyang was going to take Sun Zhuo back to his hometown in Hubei to see his grandparents, Du Xiaohua immediately drove from his hometown in Shangrao, Jiangxi to Jianli, Hubei Province, which was their agreement - no matter who found the child, their "friends" who were looking for relatives would have a meal together and celebrate.

But from the moment he got on the highway, Du Xiaohua's tears never stopped, and the tears were for himself and for Sun Haiyang. He and Sun Haiyang have gone out together many times to find a son, and the bumps and tortures on the road are only truly understood by their parents who are running on the road to find a son.

The more sad you are, the more you can't break free. Du Xiaohua simply released the song "Baby Where Are You" in the car, making the tears flow painfully and happily, and letting the emotions of the five tastes and miscellaneous tastes completely vent.

After driving for more than 8 hours, Du Xiaohua finally rushed from Shangrao, Jiangxi to Sun Haiyang's hometown in Jianli, Hubei Province.

Seeing Sun Haiyang and Sun Zhuo's father and son, Du Xiaohua did not know what to say. Sun Haiyang probably didn't know how to comfort this old friend who hadn't found the child yet, and he was also silent. In the end, Du Xiaohua took Sun Zhuo's hand and carefully examined whether his body was intact. In his heart, these abducted children are just like his own children, and these parents are most worried about whether their children are healthy and safe.

Du Xiaohua's unfinished tears continued to flow, and he asked Sun Zhuo: "Child, where have you run all these years?" Do you know how hard I had to find you before with your parents? ”

Sun Zhuo replied to him very politely: "Uncle, I'm sorry, I really didn't know that you were looking for me all these years, if I knew that you were looking for me, I would definitely look for you." ”

Perhaps afraid of the child's embarrassment, or perhaps afraid of arousing the sad things he and Sun Haiyang have done over the years, the relatives of the Sun family persuaded the three of them to leave.

But for Du Xiaohua, the only way to untie the knot is to find his son, who has been lost for more than 10 years. For a moment, he even hoped that the Sun Zhuo who would be found was his son Du Houqi. Of course, in the face of reality, he can only face the joy of his friend Sun Haiyang and his own sadness.

One more shot, one more hope

Whether it is going to Jianli, Hubei Province, or following Sun Haiyang to Shandong, where Sun Zhuo was abducted, Du Xiaohua has an idea - Sun Haiyang's finding of Sun Zhuo has become the focus of the news, and while the reporters are visiting Sun Haiyang, Du Xiaohua also has the opportunity to stand in front of the camera and repeat the story of the lost son he has told countless times. Du Xiaohua believes that every time he speaks, the possibility of retrieving his child through the media and even more social forces will be a little more.

"My hometown is in Baini Village, Huaiyu Township, Yushan County, Shangrao City, Jiangxi Province. My son's name is Du Houqi, born on April 16, 2005. On March 6, 2011, he mysteriously disappeared in front of the wooden cabinet factory in Dingdulong Guicun Nancun, Xingsheng Town, Qingshan District, Baotou City, Inner Mongolia. At the time of his disappearance, he was 1.18 meters tall, with a thin body and a long round face. Outgoing, but a little timid. There is an old scar in the corner of the right eye and a new scar on the bridge of the nose. The old scar in the corner of the right eye is estimated to remain permanently. Scars on the bridge of the nose may slowly disappear with age..."

This "notice of searching for a son", Du Xiaohua memorized it very well. But the pain in his heart was only understood by him.

During the time when the child was just lost, Du Xiaohua and his wife went crazy looking for it. Latrines, wells, ditches, and even freshly turned soil, they had to find a hoe to cut open and take a look. I heard that the eagles circling in the sky may have found food on the ground, and they even rushed to the ground where there were eagles in the sky to find it. But the son was like a stone sinking into the sea, without any information. The wife soon couldn't hold on, didn't eat or drink, and lay in bed as if she had died. Du Xiaohua also wanted to die, but he had to hold on to find the child.

Over the years, except for Hong Kong, Macao, Taiwan, Hainan, and Tibet, he has not been there, and Du Xiaohua has all gone to find children in other parts of the country. Many of the bridges in the movie are the real experiences of him and Sun Haiyang looking for children together. Sometimes in a village, they use a foreign accent to inquire about children, and the people in the village huddle together, and if they want to cover for buyers, they have to use all kinds of wisdom to maneuver. It is through these primitive ways that they have also rescued some of the children who have been trafficked.

But China is too big, Du Xiaohua's son Du Houqi was lost in Baotou, he now goes to Baotou every year to find a son, the local police are also helping him actively search. But where the children are located, no one can say. Just like Sun Haiyang had always speculated that Sun Zhuo might be abducted and sold to the Chaoshan area of Fujian or Guangdong, he had also gone there many times to look for it, but no one knew that he would find it in Shandong.

A "nurturing grace" cannot wash away years of pain

Up to 10 years of searching, anyone will be physically and mentally exhausted. Du Xiaohua is also. More than once in the shot, he bows to the imaginary buyer, hoping that they will return Du Houqi to him. If he can get his son home smoothly, he can not blame the past.

He's not even like other parents who haven't found their children yet. "If you buy an abducted child or a child of unknown origin, tell us the child's information or the public security organ as soon as possible before the public security organ finds you." If it was told to us by the police or before we found it, I promise not to blame the past. But if the public security organs find out first, I'm sorry, we will definitely investigate in accordance with the relevant laws. Du Xiaohua said.

What kind of scenario would it be like to find a child? Du Xiaohua did not dare to think, nor did he want to think about it. The turmoil that Sun Haiyang's family has experienced in the past few days is clear to Du Xiaohua. Sun Zhuo's willingness to return to his biological parents is a great blessing for the parents of the child-seeking circle.

"In fact, those who find children, children can return to their biological parents, less and less. Many of us families have found a wall in order to find children, and some children, back to their biological parents' homes, as soon as they see the scene of poverty in the family, lift their feet and leave. Du Xiaohua said.

Guo Gangtang, the prototype in the movie "Lost Orphans", found his son Guo Zhen, But Guo Zhen did not return to his biological parents. Guo Gangtang could only agree to the child's two sides of the move, "when relatives go." Du Xiaohua was happy for Sun Haiyang, but he could not help but hate the traffickers and buyers from this: "Your happiness is built on our pain, how many years we have torn our hearts and lungs, how many years of wading through the mountains and rivers are not your 'nurturing grace' can wash away ..."

Du Xiaohua even dusted off the scene of Sun Haiyang and Sun Zhuo's family reunion, and he fantasized that the day he and his son were reunited, he didn't know what it would be like. He just grew more and more eagerly every day: My dear son, hurry home!