Every parent hopes that their baby is intellectually superior, tries everything to help the baby improve IQ, and hopes to make the baby smarter through the intervention of parents.
Part of the child's IQ depends on the innate, the other part depends on how the acquired parents raise the child, the intervention of the parents has a great effect on the child's IQ development, 400,000 people have shown that the child's birth order may affect the child's emotional intelligence.
Dutch psychologist Belmont once did such a study, the number of people involved in the study reached 400,000 people, the purpose of this study is to prove that birth order and children's IQ have no relationship.
Through research, Belmont came to the conclusion that the child's IQ is related to the birth order, and the IQ of the first child born in the family is much higher than that of the child born later, that is, the eldest has a higher IQ than the second child.
Some people have raised objections, in China, most of the family's children are "old fools, old two fine", this is also the traditional concept of China, simply put, that is, the boss is relatively honest, and the second is more intelligent, this result is completely different from the results of foreign countries, why is this so?
In fact, the experimental results are correct, because Belmont's experiment is the result of the study in the Netherlands, the first born child is the first child of the parents, but also the child born when the parents were the youngest, at this time, the parents' bodies are the best, the genes are also the best, some parents have a second child, may be old to get a child, in the genes, and the first child is not comparable.
When the first child is born, the parents are still novices, and they put a lot of love and energy into the first child, the expectations for the child are also very high, the child gets good educational resources, and the IQ will naturally become higher.
In our country, not all families are "old fools, old two fine", the reason why there will be big fools, the old two fine is actually related to China's family education model.
In our country, some families have the idea of son preference, if the first child is a girl, the family may not attach great importance to this child, and are not willing to invest in the child, if the second child is a boy, the child is very spoiled, what is good to give to the boy, the boy gets the best educational resources, it seems that the natural IQ is higher than the sister.
Some parents will go out to work to make money when Dabao is small, there is no effort to accompany Dabao, and when the second child is born, the family economy is rich, everything is getting better, they will think of giving the second treasure that owes the big treasure, giving the second treasure more patience and love, and cultivating the second treasure better.
Do not favor a certain child, give the same love to Dabao and Erbao, if parents prefer one of the children, the other child will be very hurt, their thinking will be affected, the parents' differential treatment of the child's impact is very large, and some may affect the child's life.
Colleague Kobayashi is the eldest daughter of the family, she also has two younger brothers, of the three children, the parents are more partial to the two younger brothers, what is good to the younger brother, she always only has to look at the share, the parents always educate her to let this brother.
She did not feel the love from her parents, in order to compete with her brother for favors, she scratched her arm, but her parents only scolded her, did not care and love, accompanied by more and more worries, over time, she became less and less talkative, sitting there silently all day, her parents felt that she was stupid and unwilling to spend time cultivating her.
Today, she is also a little transparent in the company, does not talk much, and is very introverted.
Parents should teach according to their aptitudes, do not force two children to be the same, children are good at different things, does not mean that the child's IQ is low, the difference between Xiao Wang and his brother is one year old, the younger brother is better at science, Xiao Wang is good at liberal arts, but parents think that boys choose science The future will be better, they feel that the same is their own children, the second treasure will learn, why dabao does not work, forced the child to transfer to science.
As a result, when the younger brother took the college entrance examination, he became a college entrance examination, and the older brother was only admitted to a junior college that was not in the flow, in the eyes of all relatives and friends, the older brother was not as smart as the younger brother, but the older brother's results in liberal arts were very good, and even the teacher felt that the child was a pity.
Parents want to make two children as good, they must give two children the same love, teach according to their aptitudes, and do not give too much pressure to their children, and do not let the gap between two children be too large for their own reasons.