Since the implementation of the national two-child policy, many mothers are actively preparing to have a second child. Xixi's mother thought that the eldest had just entered the kindergarten middle class, and it would be better to bring the child after two years of primary school, and the colleague let the grandmother relieve her body slightly, and then she would not be late to ask for the second child. After all, since the beginning of Sisi's mother's pregnancy, Grandma has been busy with her life in front of and behind her, and she has not been less affected. However, a "strange thing" happened recently that made Sissi's mother very helpless and surprised.
Things started two months ago during the New Year's holiday, when Sisi's mother prepared the luggage and New Year goods of the three people to return to her mother-in-law's house for the New Year, and she had not returned to her mother-in-law's house for four years. The reason is simple, just because the mother-in-law found various reasons not to bring her children, so she had to call the child's grandmother to help. However, Grandma's health is not as good as Grandma's, and she has been tired and sick several times during the period of taking the child, and the whole person has lost a lot of weight. In this regard, Sissi's mother left a deep complaint about her in-laws' family, and has been taking the child's young age as an excuse not to return to her in-laws' house for the New Year.
Four years later, Sisi's mother somewhat opened her heart knots, and the child began to mention her grandparents, making her feel that she should not affect her experience with the child. For the sake of her child's spiritual health, she decided to take her child to see her grandparents every New Year's Day.
But I didn't expect that the child did not feel strange when he first saw his grandparents, and after a few days of getting along, he followed his grandparents to relatives and became closer and closer. What I didn't expect was that before Sisi's mother took the child on the train, the child actually ran to hug her grandparents, saying that she would come back to see them next year, hoping that they would pay more attention to their bodies. The child's reluctance to separate makes Sisi's mother confused and twisted in her heart.
Then Grandma also felt sad in her heart, seeing that the child had a smile and a very close look after connecting to the video of Grandma, and could not help but feel that the hard work over the years seemed to be unable to withstand the grandmother's side for a while. While Sisi's mother comforted her grandmother, she also wanted to know why the children who grew up around her were close to their grandmother. In fact, there are three main reasons.
First, it is related to the age of the child
When grandma helps her children with children, the children are generally very young. After some children go to kindergarten, grandma will no longer be around to take care of them. Even if there has been a grandmother to take care of, from birth to understanding in the years, at least three or four years of time is vague memory, during this period of grandmother's dedication and love, for the child and the grandmother who does not participate in its growth in the emotional gap is not too big. When the child contacts the grandmother after understanding things, if the grandmother is very close to the child, the child will naturally have a sense of closeness with the grandmother.
Second, it is related to traditional concepts
Traditionally, it pays attention to returning to the man's home during the New Year's Festival, especially the New Year, and the thirtieth and first grades are generally spent at the grandmother's house. Coupled with the fact that the child's surname follows the father, when parents explain these traditional concepts to their children, they invisibly let the child feel a sense of belonging and closeness.
Third, it is related to the degree of love of grandma
Grandma brings up the eldest child, in the daily education of the child, the grandmother hopes that the child is not easy to understand the mother, grow up to know filial piety to the mother. Therefore, when the child is disobedient and makes mistakes, the grandmother often stands on the side of the child's mother and does not protect it. However, grandmothers who do not often meet with children will often show a doting side. Children will feel that grandma loves them more than grandma and will be closer to grandma.
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In fact, children brought up by grandma and hard work, no matter what the reason, grow up close to grandma, as they get older, they will slowly find that they love grandma more. Because companionship is the basis for establishing feelings, Grandma takes care of the child for a long time, and the two people must have more deep feelings than Grandma, so the child's closeness to Grandma does not mean that the grandmother is emotionally alienated, and Grandma does not have to feel cold about it, and all love and hard work will not be in vain.