Many 40- and 50-year-old mothers are more interested in the two-child and three-child policies than young mothers, and even some aunts who have entered 60 years old also want to fight for their lives, and the reasons behind this are also various.
A few days ago, a 60-year-old aunt in Anhui gave birth to a hot search on the news, and when I saw this hot search, I sighed that this was the news, and I didn't expect that similar things happened next to me.
To make a long story short, two days ago I went back to my hometown to visit my mother, and found that the aunt of the neighbor's family often took a child out for a walk, which was also very embarrassing, because I thought it was her eldest daughter's son, so I didn't think about it and said, "Take your grandson out for a walk, how old is the baby?" ”
She looked embarrassed and then replied, "This is my son, born more than two months ago." This answer made me suddenly do not know how to respond, can only smile awkwardly, and then quickly express congratulations. After returning home, he talked to his mother about the encounter, and only then did he learn from his mother that the daughter of the original mother wanted to marry far away, but the mother did not agree, and the two people quarreled because of this problem.
During the quarrel, her eldest daughter said, "You are not worried about the pension problem, you just have another son to give you a pension, anyway, you can't count on me." Just because of this sentence, the 60-year-old aunt went to the hospital with her husband the next day to do a check-up, hoping to fight a second child through the way of test tubes.
At first, the aunt only ran to do the test tube on the gas head, and there was no strong idea in her heart, until she heard from the doctor that the two of them were in good physical condition and could have another child, which completely stimulated her idea of a second child.
However, the good times are not long, whether it is the process of her pregnancy, or after childbirth, she has not received much blessing, and the eldest daughter even threatened to break off relations with her, and even said that she will not help raise her brother in the future, saying that "whoever gives birth, who is responsible for raising, and when she is old, don't expect her to help, she will not bring this oil bottle." ”
The eldest mother was angry with the eldest daughter and cut off contact with her, until now I don't know whether it is lucky or unfortunate, maybe having a second child is for multiple children, there are more guarantees. But because of the birth of a second child, the result is the loss of another child, and the younger child has to start raising again, is this ending really better? Presumably, only the parties concerned know about it.
For advanced childbirth, it is best to discuss with the whole family
Many people may feel that childbearing is an individual's right, but in essence, this statement is relatively one-sided, especially for those elderly mothers. Because if they really decide to have children at an advanced age, then they have to consider who will take care of them later and whether it will cause trouble for other members of the family.
Just like if there is already an eldest son in the family, then we must consider what if it is still a son who is born? After all, there are many problems to be faced in this situation. For example, my colleague, she and her boyfriend have been together for nearly five years, originally planned to get married, as a result, her boyfriend's parents have a son, and the conditions in the family are only average, and the parents have no job, which means that he will have to rely on him as the eldest son to bear the responsibility of raising his brother, and at the same time give his parents a pension.
As soon as the parents of the colleagues saw this situation, they no longer agreed to this marriage, afraid that their daughter would be wronged when she married, after all, it was a living "drag oil bottle", and no one wanted to be a "pick-up man".
Therefore, if you want to have children at an advanced age, you must consult with the whole family, listen to the opinions of others, see what they think, can not blindly fight for their own lives, and wait until the child is born, raising, taking care of and other issues in front of you, will inevitably breed more contradictions.
What problems should senior students pay attention to?
Of course, if all the conditions are met and you have a strong desire to procreate, then you can also try, but the first thing to consider is your physical condition. It should be clear that most elderly women will have a much worse health after giving birth, because childbirth will damage the vitality, and young people recover faster, and older women will naturally recover very slowly, and may even leave a body of illness, and they will not have the energy to take care of Hazi in the future.
Therefore, we must put the physical condition in the first place, but also consider that if you really can't take care of the child later, whether there are other people in the family who can help take care of it, otherwise it will be a great tragedy for the child.
Of course, the material conditions are also fundamental, if there is no stronger material conditions, the elderly childbirth will basically be very hard, whether it is the care of the child after childbirth, or the child's rearing, education and other issues, it will cost more money, which is a very realistic problem.
Conclusion: Advanced childbirth needs careful consideration, can not make decisions at will, blindly fight, not only irresponsible for themselves, but also irresponsible for their children.