Grandma Zhang Wenjing negotiates all stages of marriage: see which one Ming Gong can stick to
Coinciding with the new yuan, because the unit was on the wrong peak holiday, Zhang Wenjing returned home, just today the weather is sunny, the sun is shining, basking in the yard, very warm. Taking advantage of the cold day, Grandma brought a plate of raw peanuts from the back room and asked Zhang Wenjing to peel the peanuts. First, wait for the New Year to fry peanuts (screening in advance); second, it is for the next year's peanut seeds. Generally in this atmosphere, the elderly will begin to pull, pull some gossip, nag home.
Perhaps zhang Wenjing reached the age when the male eldest married the female eldest, and her grandmother began to talk about the marriage between men and women. Grandma said, don't pick and choose, the passion and joy at the beginning will become flat in the end, only the other party is down-to-earth, and the good life of the duty will be obtained. Grandma also said that all couples have to go through every stage, just like the tang monks and apprentices learn the scriptures, breaking through many barriers and difficulties.
Grandma stated the eight stages that couples have to go through:
1. Passion period: marriage is sweet;
Whether it is a couple who have been in love for many years and get married or a small couple who have met and recently combined, after they are really married, through the world's perception and cognition, they will feel fresh, feel happy, and feel happy. If nothing else, at first, the 100% experience was amazing. You love me, I love you, Honey Snow Ice City Sweet Honey.
2, the run-in period: 1-2 years, conflict and disappointment, easy to lead to rupture;
Marriage to about 2 years, after the practice of time, each other has become very familiar with each other. At this time, whether men and women begin to dislike each other's shortcomings, or even will infinitely enlarge each other's shortcomings, if at this stage, it is not good for each other to see each other. It is whether it is possible to tolerate the other party's bad, if it can be tolerated, then continue, if it is contradictory, then it is very likely to be separated.
3, rebellion period: 3-7 years, endless quarrels, 7 years of itch, many in this period of dispersion;
If it is 6 years and 7 years, almost a broken jar is broken, and many people cannot hold this threshold. If the husband and wife go out together during this period, ordinary people will look at it as two mouths. After several years of triviality and unbearable between husband and wife, there is gradually a husband and wife phase.
4. Cooperation period: 7-13 years, couples who have passed the rebellious period begin to learn and work hard for the family together;
If you span 7 years, the next step is real cooperation. So-called, sincere cooperation, the golden stone is open. Couples at this stage have a common goal, raising and educating children is the main need, creating more wealth for the family is the first priority, and everything else must make way for this goal. Practice has proved that only when the goal is the same can we be firmly united. The relationship between husband and wife at this stage is stable, unless there are very few cases, such as the other party's cheating, if it is normal, it is generally fine.
5, the reorganization period: about 15 years, love and marriage into family affection, no one can replace;
At this stage, the children have grown up, and some even have families. The passion between husband and wife is definitely gone, and some is family affection. They will wait until the other person goes home. When the other party is not around, they will also have a relationship from the heart and care for the same thoughts as relatives. At this time, the husband and wife are each other's trust and sustenance.
6. Crisis period; after 20 years of marriage, changes, parental illness and departure, children's work problems;
If there is any risk, it must be at this moment. After the changes of relatives and children, many husband and wife relationships can not continue, and some couples are secretly tolerant until now, which is really to the limit. It turns out that the elderly and children are taboo, if the children grow up and the elderly leave, it does not matter.
7, the perfect period: 30 years after marriage, a perfect life, "wife";
30 years of marriage intact is really enviable and desirable. At this moment, both husband and wife will go to the park together for a walk, go to the supermarket to buy vegetables together, help the children take care of the grandchildren, etc., and really accompany each other, how good.
8. Consummation period: 50 years after marriage, golden marriage.
This must be a model of a white-headed and old man, and it is also a realistic portrayal of the case of respecting each other and raising eyebrows. Saying anything else makes no sense, this is love. Pure love, no doubt.
After Grandma said this, Zhang Wenjing thought about it. In the middle of the night, Grandma touched Zhang Wenjing's head and asked: What kind of marriage do you want for the child? Zhang Wenjing smiled and replied with her mouth: Of course, I want to have a successful marriage
Dare to ask Ming Gong? How far have you all become lovers now?
The text is repeated, not a criterion, is a brief narrative, there is no scientific basis for Ha, for reference only, figure a music. A certain person thinks that deep love is not as good as long-term companionship, and there is no need to say much about love. Since we are in love, we will go to the end of the universe, and the sea will never change.
What do you say?
Forest Thursday, December 30, 2021 20:45 PM at Gaomidian North, Daxing District, Beijing
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