Wen丨 education old scalper (original, welcome to reprint and share)
"What if I get into Tsinghua?"
Then Mom will be proud of you
Admitted to Peking University?
I'll be very proud
What about sweet potatoes?
If you can roast sweet potatoes soft, sweet and delicious, I think you will be proud of them! ”
Kao Qinghua or roasted sweet potato, your mother will be proud of you, such a family education is enviable
Each of us is familiar with the desire to be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, and it can even be said that it is one of the wishes that must be made on the road to growth.
But such a four- or five-year-old child in the video may only know that Tsinghua Peking University is a very good school and needs to work hard to get admitted. But in his eyes, roasted sweet potatoes also require effort to roast them fragrantly and sweetly.
Both Kao Qinghua and roasted sweet potatoes require effort, so in the hearts of small children, the difficulty of these two can be directly drawn equal.
In the face of such questions from children, what will the average parent do?
"Mom, my wish is to take the Qinghua Exam!" "Great child, go to school, read more books to get into Tsinghua."
"Mom, I want to roast sweet potatoes in the future!" "Where there is a good roasted sweet potato in Tsinghua, it is only people without culture who will roast sweet potatoes, we study hard and work hard to go to Tsinghua."
This is the practice of parents today, just tell their children that the goal of Kao Qinghua is good, and roasting sweet potatoes is unambitious. There is no process of encouraging children.
Tell the child that the goal of Tsinghua is good, then the child can really be admitted to Tsinghua?
The parents in the video, she is not encouraging how ambitious the child's goal is, but encouraging the child to make an effort.
"If you can roast the sweet potato well, I will be proud of you!" Let the child know that even if it is roasted sweet potato, it is necessary to make an effort to bake it is soft, sweet and delicious.
Supporting a child's dreams is far more important than planning his future.
In such family education, when you forget to pick up your child, you can also apologize to your child, which is also putting yourself and your child in the same position. This is the real "friend" with the child.
Ask some parents, when they do something wrong, have they ever apologized to their children?
And this parent, just a little late to pick up the child, is also apologizing to the child and asking for the child's forgiveness.
With such a "friend", it is difficult for children not to forgive.
"Aren't adults afraid of hard work?"
"Of course you're scared?"
"So it doesn't matter if we're lazy sometimes."
Winter cold weather, many adults can not get up in the morning, everyone wants to be lazy, she told the child, adults are also afraid of hard work.
In fact, this invisibly shortens the distance between children and parents. We are all afraid of hard work, in fact, we are the same people. So occasionally when you can't hold on, you can steal a little laziness, which is a normal phenomenon, it doesn't matter.
"You don't need to be too good to know."
As with roasted sweet potatoes, accept the child's ordinariness. You can expect from your child, but you should also pay attention to your child's pressure.
Accepting the child's ordinariness does not equate to mediocrity.
Every child carries the sustenance of parents, as if it is a work that parents have made with their lives. Parents have worked hard to urge their children to learn a variety of cram classes, thinking that this can help their children's lives.
But have parents ever thought that this is just to alleviate their inner anxiety?
Parents are too worried about their children's future, screwing themselves, and making children nervous.
Many parents will disdain the ordinary and look forward to their children's success every day, but are parents not an ordinary person? Why the ordinary self must ask the child to succeed.
Although most children have high hopes, most of them grow up doing ordinary work. From an early age, he was taught to be a person who was not willing to be ordinary, not only did he not have the ability to be unwilling to be ordinary, but also did not have the ability to obtain happiness from the ordinary.
Ordinary does not equal mediocrity.
People who can be responsible, studious, passionate, and persistent, they are extraordinary in themselves.
Every child is a flower seed, don't watch others bloom, your own one is not moving and is in a hurry. Believe that each flower has its own flowering period.
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