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When children grow up to a certain age, they will encounter people and things that fascinate them, and they will begin to have a vision of the future and begin to have "dreams".
In front of adults, these dreams are sometimes divorced from reality, such as visiting a non-existent planet; sometimes they are very "similar", such as growing up to be a scientist and a doctor; sometimes they are very "mediocre", such as growing up to drive an excavator, being a commissary owner...
In short, dreams that are not "reliable" in the eyes of adults have endless charm for children.
Recently, there is such a mother and son in Suzhou, Jiangsu Province, and the dialogue between them about future dreams has touched the hearts of many netizens!
Son: What if I am admitted to Tsinghua?
Mom: Then Mom is very proud of you.
Son: What if I am admitted to Peking University?
Mom: I'll be very proud too.
Son: What about me getting into sweet potatoes?
Mom: If you roast sweet potatoes that are sweet, sweet, soft and delicious, I think it's okay and I'll be proud of you.
Son: I'll be a roasted sweet potato owner from now on.
Mom: Hahahahaha that congratulations to Xu Guoguo for having a new wish.
In the past, in order to motivate children to learn, people often used the words "study not hard, grow up and sell sweet potatoes" to "intimidate" children.
And this mother faced her son's dream of roasting sweet potatoes, not only did not immediately veto or reprimand, but sincerely responded to her son and gave encouragement and affirmation!
In the eyes of this mother, Kao Qinghua Peking University is a beautiful dream, and "roasted sweet potatoes" are also proud of their children.
Because no matter what the child does, as long as he is serious and hardworking, he is shining and is worth encouraging.
Mom's heartwarming response also touched many netizens:
Some netizens said that the mother's emotional intelligence is very high, in the face of the future blurted out by the son, the mother's sincere and serious response will not hit the child's self-confidence.
Some netizens also said that it is good for children to have such a mother, do not require children according to their own standards, and do not discriminate against any profession.
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The reason why netizens are so warm and touched is also because in real life, many parents may be angry and reprimanded or blocked when they hear their children's "unproductive dreams".
"Is this your dream?" "This dream is too out of the ordinary, it is better to listen to the mother, become a..." "Child, your dream is too ordinary, change it as soon as possible." ”
Parents like to rank their children's dreams, what they recognize is good, and what they don't recognize is not good.
But in fact, dreams should not be treated differently, and there are no ridiculous dreams in the world.
Parents habitually criticize their children's dreams and make children evaluate others in this way, they will think that dreams can be criticized and blamed by outsiders at will, but everyone's dreams should actually be respected.
Telling children that dreams are not high or low, you can let them look at others with an equal heart and avoid being harsh and mean.
Many times, the child's behavior is a mirror of the parent, when your child makes uncomfortable behavior, we as parents, in addition to timely education, but also to re-examine themselves.
We can understand the wishes of parents to "hope to become a dragon", but parents should know that children's dreams should be in line with their age, be imaginative, and be constantly changing.
They may say they want to be teachers today, tomorrow they want to be ice cream sellers, the day after tomorrow they say they want to be stars...
For children's changing "dreams", parents should do more to accompany and encourage.
If parents are impatient, rudely interrupt, or even impose their dreams and expectations on their children, this will make the children feel devastated and under excessive pressure.
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So how should parents treat their children's dreams?
There are no limits to the child's dreams
When children talk to their parents about their dreams, parents should make good use of the "blank effect" and be the guide of their children rather than the decisive person.
In daily life, many parents like to make decisions for their children, they think they know more than their children, but parents can not limit the child's imagination space, which will make the child lose more opportunities for independent exploration. As the saying goes, "Three hundred and sixty lines, and the deeds are out of shape."
In terms of children's dreams, parents should relax the constraints on their children and give their children free space.
Take care of your child's dreams
In daily life, parents should discuss their dreams with their children, encourage and support their children's dreams, and take the initiative to care for their children's dreams and help their children grow together.
Help your child concretize their dreams
Parents should appropriately guide their children, so that children can refine and concretize their dreams, and put them into action step by step. Because, many times, due to the young age of children, they always have all kinds of nonsensical ideas in their heads, and their dreams always change.
At this time, what parents have to do is to help their children find his hobbies and strengths, and then guide them to let their children step by step towards his dreams.
Let your child enjoy the joy of success
Parents should help their children create opportunities for their children to enjoy the joy of success. Everyone's dream cannot be realized overnight, and every small success of a child will bring him confidence and motivation.
Write at the end
Dreams are indeed important, they are a direction and goal in our lives.
In the face of children's dreams, what we have to do is to become children's dream keepers - it is enough to listen, treat, respond carefully, and give children enough respect and space.