On the road of parenting, parents have stumbled all the way, and they will always have questions about whether they should "often praise the child or criticize the child".
Children scold more, may make him form an inferiority, cowardly psychology, but if the praise is more, they may also become arrogant, so no matter which parenting method does not feel right.
Probably for most parents, now abide by the "happy education", so they will not criticize the child, more inclined to praise the child This method can not only make the relationship between parents and children harmonious, but also enhance the child's self-confidence.
But will the children who are praised really develop towards the children that their parents expect? For some younger children, they may not know what it means to praise them, and how can they get better and better at praising this method of education?
Stanford did a study on the method of praising children, he said: In life, parents habitually say that words such as "you are awesome, you are so smart" will only make children feel that they are simply liked by adults, and they do not feel encouraged because of their efforts and hard work.
Don't praise the child "you're awesome"! Professor Stanford: Please praise your child in the following 7 contexts
1. Praise your child's progress
Parents don't always put their eyes on "other people's children", I always listened when I was a child: you see how other children are doing, which is particularly hurtful to children's hearts.
To learn to discover the advantages of their children, the child's biggest enemy is not others, but himself, so as long as the child has a little progress every day, parents can give them encouragement, so that the child will be better and better every day.
2. Praise your child's bravery
For children, trying "bravery" is a very valuable quality, so when children need the courage to try, parents must unconditionally encourage their children and respond positively.
For example, if the child wants to challenge the very high aerial rope bridge, the parents can praise the child, and they will challenge the difficulty of fear of heights because of this encouragement, and can move forward in a very high place.
3. Praise your child for your care
Children are not as careful as adults, so when children know how to help parents remember the number of things, parents should praise children in time for being very careful.
4. Praise your child for your good attitude
Whether it is in study, work or life, a person's attitude will determine quality. So when children are very active in using an attitude to complete a task, parents should not forget to affirm their good attitude at this time.
5. Praise your child's sense of responsibility
Responsible children, the future will have great achievements, they will be very organized, this is the basis for children to do everything well, so parents must praise the child's sense of responsibility.
6. Exaggerate the child's perseverance
"There is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of people with hearts", as long as you have perseverance, then you will be able to overcome it in the end, so when the child is persistent and persistent in a thing, parents must praise the child in time.
7. Praise your child's enthusiasm
"Giving people roses, leaving incense in their hands" is a traditional virtue of our Chinese nation, so when children are enthusiastic in the face of others, parents should encourage them to help others.
At the same time, children will also know that there are many ways to break through difficulties, and everyone's strength is stronger than their own weak strength.
Praising the child is not just a good word, the most important thing is that parents should make the right praise for the child's efforts, praise is also a "technical work" for parents, praise is correct, the child benefits endlessly, the praise is not right, will affect the child's life.
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In addition: a large number of readers have not developed the habit of liking, I hope that everyone will light up "like" and "watch" after reading to show encouragement! It is really not easy to stick to the output for a long time, and I want to give up many times. Persistence is a belief, and focus is an attitude.
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