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In the last freestyle ski slope obstacle course final, Gu Ailing won the silver medal and added another medal to this Winter Olympics! The whole process is amazing, and it is really a sight to behold a powerful heart!
In the first round, Ailing played steadily and scored 69.90 points, ranking third.
By the time of the second round, there was a mistake and slipped on the ground. He scored only 16.98 points and even slipped to 11th.
The pressure at this time must be very large, and I squeezed a handful of sweat for her in front of the TV. However, Ai Ling did not see any loss and made a cute grimace at the camera.
Unexpectedly, in the 3rd round, she adjusted out of the mistake in time, and completed a series of high-level actions in one go. In the end, the counterattack was successful, and he got a high score of 86.23, which was only 0.33 points from the 86.56 points of the first-place Swiss player Greymode.
The old mother with the two babies has a little time to sleep badly, but recently she can't help but stay up late to see Gu Ailing! Be a fan of her strength.
I didn't intend to write about her, after all, almost the whole network is writing about her these days, and it is estimated that everyone knows Gu Ailing's life experience thoroughly. At the age of 3 months, he followed his mother to the ski resort; he began to ski at the age of 3; he could skate everywhere in the forest when he was 4 years old; the coach proposed that Ailing receive professional training at the age of 8; and since the age of 10, Ailing Has been winning various championships...
In addition, all-around, high school graduates early graduation were admitted to Stanford... Isn't that what is a life of opening and hanging?! No wonder some people on the Internet jokingly asked: "It is always said that If God closes a door for you, he will open a window, which door did God close for Gu Ailing?" Seeing Gu Ailing's decathlon, many people have difficulty jumping out of their own thinking, thinking that this must be a child who is big by chickens. Some people even say that "Mother Gu is the ceiling of the chicken baby world". In fact, in my opinion, Gu Ailing's success is precisely due to her mother's "no chicken".
Before Gu Ailing's final jump last week, she called her mom:
"I also called my mom to say I was going to do this, my mom advised me not to take risks, her opinion is that I can do another (right) safe action, but I feel that if I don't try it, it is not a complete me, I want to show myself the best side, I have that mentality in the game is not to win others, I want to win myself." 」
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At the last moment, Mother Gu's choice is still "not chicken", and it is good to get a silver medal. People did not say, "This is a rare Winter Olympics in Beijing, and if you miss this time, you may not have a chance in this life."
Nine times out of ten, the parents of the chicken baby will choose to scold, "What are you thinking?" Don't fight now and when? Have you suffered all these 18 years in vain?"
So, Gu Ailing has always been enjoying the game and enjoying and loving what she is doing. This is not the chicken doll pushing doll that ordinary people think, because the chicken is not out of the chicken to love.
Today I will analyze, what did Mother Gu do right?
Try it widely, find what you love" You have to try it again, the worst result is that you don't like it, but if you particularly like it, then you are making money. ”
This is a sentence that Gu's mother said to Ailing since she was a child.
So in the 18 years that are neither short nor long, Ailing has tried a wide range of hobbies, basketball, tennis, rock climbing, running, diving, piano, dance, drama, equestrianism...
Even she herself quipped, "I live a different life at the same time, as if I have secretly lived for more than 60 years... ”
I think one of the goals of childhood should be to try widely and find what you love, because only love can inspire a person's unlimited potential. And what is what you really love, you must only be inspired if you have encountered and experienced that feeling. As Jobs once said, "When you find your passion, your heart will tell you." ”
In Gu Ailing's eyes, the most important thing is to find what you love, but at the same time, you must challenge your own boundaries and not be afraid to try new things.
Be yourself and become a strong backing for your children It can be said that Ailing is definitely goal-driven, whether in learning or skiing, she has a strong and firm goal. Even when he was 6 years old, he decided to go to Stanford when he grew up;
Since the age of 13, Ailing has decided to participate in the Beijing Winter Olympics in 2022 and greet everyone with Chinese.
And these two most important goals in life are actually formed under the subtle influence of their mothers. Love skiing is also because her mother loves to skate, Ailing was taken to the ski resort by her mother when she was 3 months old. Gu's mother said: "I just want to slide, and here comes a person who can skate with me, and it is better than me." ”
I wanted to go to Stanford because my mother had graduated from Stanford. You know, this kind of goal that children actively form under the influence of the environment is not the same thing as the goal that is pushed or deliberately infused by their parents, so the internal driving force they can stimulate is completely incomparable. Gu's mother also said that to create an atmosphere for the child, the child will naturally join if he likes it, and he does not have to force it if he does not like it! Parents who really understand their children are good at "creating atmosphere", and silence is better than sound; and people who think they understand education blindly think of chicken babies.
It is very important to have a goal in life, it can give you motivation like a bright light in the distance, guiding you in the direction of moving forward. But the most feared are the kind of parents who don't get it themselves and then impose their dreams on their children. Realizing dreams for others is a weight that a child cannot bear (think of Zheng Shuang's mother). Mother Gu said to Ailing, "You don't have to thank me when you grow up, you don't owe me, I just thank you." "This is what we often call unconditional love— the mother's love that does not carry any kidnapping, so that the child can go forward without scruples."
In the documentary, Mother Gu has always looked at Ai Ling with gentle eyes and a happy smile, a person's natural state cannot deceive people, sometimes watching her mother and daughter interact, my heart will be warmed.
There are also many kinds of gentleness, and this kind of gu mother gives the child a sense of strength. I remember when I saw Ai Ling fall off the railing and fall into a temporary amnesia, someone on the barrage wrote: "If I fall, I guess my mother will break the skis." ”
Skiing is an extreme sport, it can be dangerous at any time, how can Ailing's mother not be worried! To tell the truth, in order to become the needle in The Sea God in Ai Ling's heart, even if she carefully hides her worries, as a mother, I can feel her every heart-wrenching look and body language. , 00:34, but I knew that Ailing's love of skiing must have infected her. Protect your child in a safe area, reduce the chance of encountering danger, and be a strong backing for your child, so that she can bravely chase her dreams. Which one needs a strong heart more? The answer is self-evident. When she saw that Ai Ling had done herself, from the joy of her heart, Mother Gu's eyes always flashed with tears of pride. Of all the documentaries, the one she says the most is, "I'm so proud of you!" (I'm so proud of you)"
Bypassing the inner volume, another way In my opinion, the reason why Ai Ling can reach the current height, in addition to her talent and her own efforts, the more critical point is that Mother Gu used her unique and keen vision to find another way for her and chose a path that few people take.
Ailing was a long-distance runner and dreamed of running into Stanford.
Later, deciding between long-distance running and skiing, she chose to ski. This was undoubtedly an extremely correct and wise decision! Compared with long-distance running, skiing is much less niche, has far fewer competitors, and is easier to stand out.
Choosing to represent the Chinese team is also a very discerning choice.
If she represents the U.S. team at the Winter Olympics, even if she wins the gold medal, she may only get a 5-minute interview on TV, far less attention and influence on skiing in China.
But in China, the treatment is completely different, skiing is still a weak project in China, and it is necessary to recruit talents. The Beijing Winter Olympics are a combination of time, place, and people, and it is a great opportunity for Ailing, who is in the midst of a colorful year, to show off.
Representing China to win the gold medal, she instantly became the brightest rising star in the skiing industry, getting opportunities that a large number of skiers could not have, and receiving endorsements has been soft.
The decision was made as early as 2015 when Beijing was identified as the host city of the 24th Winter Olympics, and the 13-year-old set the goal of "standing at the Winter Olympics in Beijing and greeting everyone with Chinese", which shows how far-sighted Gu's mother is (and how well she usually does a good job in the cultivation of Chinese culture).
Of course, to say this is not to deny Ailing's talent and talent, but to say that if she chooses to roll in, Ailing may also succeed, but it must not be able to compare with her current height. She may be a great skiing genius, but not the superstar she is today.
Choice is more important than effort, and Gu Ailing is the best example.
Those parents who see Gu Ailing's resume and secretly vow to be more inward-looking and harder, your education direction has been wrong from the beginning.
Gu Ailing chose the free skiing project and chose to represent China, all of which chose the easy mode in her options, and this easy mode that followed her heart made her now!
The more mainstream the option, the more involuted and the hardest. Most parents choose the hardest model simply because they don't have the courage to let their children take a path that fewer people take.
So don't say anything more about "Mother Gu is the bearer of the chicken baby world", people have never been on the chicken baby road, but choose to play another game.
What an ordinary person can learn is probably to learn that Gu Mother should treat her child's interests and specialties with respect, as well as constantly improve her vision and ability, and give her children valuable and far-sighted guidance when they encounter major choices in life!
Yo-Yo Mama in Germany on February 15, 2022