If you could choose, Grandma and Grandma, who would you choose to help with the children?
For this question, I estimate that 90% of mothers will choose grandma. After all, the child's grandmother is his own mother, and he will think about it for his daughter. Unfortunately, the cousin is far married, the brother's second child is still small, seeing that the maternity leave is over and going to work, the cousin can only discuss with the cousin, ask the mother-in-law of the hometown to come and help.
My cousin thought that the mother-in-law had also retired from the teaching position, and there should be no problem in parenting. Who knows, the mother-in-law brought a large stack of books as soon as she came, and the cousin was dumbfounded: the mother-in-law loved to read books, and she knew. However, she was invited to come with a child, and she was like this, did she want to read in another place and provide for the elderly?
In the beginning, the mother-in-law just read a book while the child was asleep. As the child grows up day by day, the mother-in-law is no longer just reading books by herself, in addition to taking the child to do outdoor sports in the morning, she will also pull the child over to watch together, not only to see, but also to talk, a lecture is an afternoon.
The cousin quietly asked the cousin-in-law: "Our mother is not enough as a teacher, and educates the children as students, right?" If this continues, the child will not become a nerd, right? In fact, the cousin just felt that the mother-in-law was lazy, that is, she had passed the addiction of returning to the podium and had lost time.
The cousin suggested to the mother-in-law: "You still take him to play games!" He couldn't understand that! ”
Who knew that the mother-in-law was not happy: "Since you handed over the child to me, you must believe me, and I can still harm the child?" ”
Even the cousin-in-law said that the cousin was troublesome, and the cousin held his stomach. However, the mother's mother could not come, and her two children were busy with work, and the nanny was not at ease. I had to continue to have my mother-in-law take the child.
In the blink of an eye, it is time for children to go to kindergarten. My cousin was so worried that she couldn't sleep all night. You know, when the children of colleagues enter the kindergarten, almost all of them are crying and making trouble, and some cannot adapt after 1 or 2 months.
The cousin was worried that her children were doing the same, thinking about what to do.
Who knows, on the day of entering the kindergarten, the child was happier than anyone, and he said goodbye to his parents happily and went in with the teacher. It's like coming home. But let the cousin is very lost, in vain at the kindergarten door to guard a morning, afraid that the child will not adapt.
What is even more bizarre is that the child looks forward to going to kindergarten every day, and gets up early every day to urge his cousin. Even on weekends, children have to go to the kindergarten door to have a look, and each time they proudly say, "Mom, this is my kindergarten." ”
Once, the child's face was full of allergies and pimples, the school doctor asked to go to the doctor, do not enter the kindergarten that day, as a result, the little guy angrily asked the school doctor: "I originally came to kindergarten, how can you not let me in?" "The cousin was embarrassed to take the child home, so that the child was left at home for half a day, and when the pimple on the child's face disappeared in the afternoon, he was immediately sent to the kindergarten, and the child showed a smile.
The child's performance in kindergarten is also very good, not only has a strong adaptability, the ability to communicate and deal with problems is also very good, and the self-care ability is the best among the children. The kindergarten teacher also likes this bright and lively little boy very much, she sees her cousin often picks up and drops off the child, believes that the cousin brings the child well, and invites the cousin to share the experience with the kindergarten parents many times.
But what experience can my cousin have? Usually, the mother-in-law takes the child, so the cousin went to consult the mother-in-law. The cousin's mother-in-law smiled and said: In fact, it is mainly because the child reads more relevant picture books, so that the child knows the separation early, relieves the separation anxiety, and cultivates the child's adaptability.
It turned out that when the mother-in-law came, she was afraid of not taking the child well, and she read a lot of early education in the past 2 years. Later, she also took her children to read picture books and read picture books. Especially in the first six months of the kindergarten, almost all the children read are picture books in the kindergarten.
As an old teacher, the mother-in-law attaches great importance to reading itself. Therefore, the purpose is to let children have a concept of separation early, alleviate separation anxiety; have understanding and expectations for kindergartens, and at the same time teach children some skills necessary in kindergartens, so that children have a sense of belonging to kindergartens, and cultivate super adaptability and communication skills to deal with things.
Why is it so important to read the kindergarten series picture books? The mother-in-law said 2 reasons.
01. Why can reading a series of picture books in kindergarten alleviate separation anxiety?
Mother-in-law said that the child's psychological development has 4 key periods, 0-1 years old is the sensitive period of mouth, hands, legs, this stage of the child to self-centered, mainly through the body to perceive the outside world; 1-2 years old is the sensitive period of space construction, this stage of children have a strong interest in space, like to measure space with their legs, like to damage, mess things, need parents to guide and sort out; 2-3 years old, the concept of permanent object is not yet perfect, there is an impression of the mother in the heart, but the mother will cry as soon as she leaves, which is often said to be separation anxiety After the age of 3, the concept of permanent object and cause and effect has been perfected, knowing that the mother leaves in the morning and will return in the evening; at the age of 5-7, the critical period is over.
Our child has just turned 3 years old to go to kindergarten, is in the critical period of 2-3 years old, if you do not make psychological assumptions early, he will show serious separation anxiety under self-protection.
The kindergarten series picture books that the mother-in-law shows to the children have a theme story that specifically deals with the scene of separation, "I am not separated from my mother".
Through the story of the puppy's reluctance to be separated from the mother, through the teacher's enlightenment and the help of the game, the smile finally bloomed again, so that the child realized: separation is normal, the mother leaves, and the mother will come back. So as to correctly understand separation and alleviate separation anxiety.
02. Reading a series of picture books in kindergartens, why can you cultivate adaptability?
Children will encounter many things in kindergarten: kindergarten is different from home, they have to do their own things, they will encounter difficulties in daily life, they need to control their temper...
And these, kindergarten series of picture books have, children can see different stories through different protagonists, will follow the worry, will also follow the release, if you can read the picture book to change the name of the protagonist to the name of the child, the child can resonate more, but also from the common reading to learn the way to deal with things.
In addition, shun shunli to go to kindergarten is only the first step for children to take, and whether children can stay in kindergarten and want to go is the key to kindergarten.
Picture books also have the theme of teaching children to make friends, through making friends with different children, let children understand the diversity of the environment and people, but also lay the foundation for future interpersonal relationships.
The kindergarten series picture books prepared by the cousin mother-in-law for the children are in line with the psychological development level and cognitive behavior characteristics of 2-6-year-old children, with the real story as the carrier, the daily reading time, so that the children can know and become familiar with the kindergarten in the process of reading the story, and help the children prepare for entering the kindergarten.
The relevant knowledge covers the various situations that children will encounter in kindergarten, and the language is funny and humorous, which can help children solve various problems encountered in kindergartens, such as: how to cope with difficulties, how to control their temper when friends get along, etc.
Let the child understand the kindergarten in advance, but also learn the way to get along with others in advance, let the child take fewer detours, let him learn to understand, self-confidence, and bravery, let the child be a better self, and let the parents worry less.
If there are children who are about to enter the kindergarten at home, parents who are worried that their children will have separation anxiety and are not adapted to kindergarten life suggest that they buy a set of picture books for their children to read together; children who have already entered the kindergarten can also have an in-depth understanding of their children's kindergarten life through this book.
We can't change a child's life, but we can influence the child through books to make him better.