What would you do if your child was criticized by a teacher at school?
Whatever the reason, I think most parents will be particularly upset, after all, their children are their own hearts, and no one is willing to let their children be wronged.
At this time, what parents say and do has a particularly great impact on their children!
Some parents will be very nervous to ask their children, why did the teacher criticize you, what did they say, did they criticize others?
Some parents will directly swear and degrade the teacher to comfort their children.
Other parents will call the teacher and ask for "justice" for their children.
Of course, there are also some parents who do not ask, think that it is too normal for their children to be criticized by teachers, do not pay attention to the children, let him adjust himself, digest himself, and make a tantrum for a while.
In fact, the above several practices, although they cannot be said to be completely wrong, are not good solutions. Moreover, in high probability, children will hate teachers because of this, begin to hate school, hate learning, and their grades will slowly fall. If it is serious, the personality will also be affected, and it will become silent from then on.
What should parents do after a child is criticized by a teacher?
This is the case that a mother shared with me, she only said one word to her daughter, and her daughter never liked school, did not like teachers, did not like learning because she was criticized by teachers.
Daughter: "Mom, the teacher criticized me." ”
Mom: "Really?" (Mom laughed)
Daughter: "Of course it's true, Mom, why are you still so happy?" ”
Mother: "Of course I am happy, I know the teacher too well, the general teacher has who in his heart, he will criticize whom; who cares in his heart, he will criticize whom; who feels that there is room for progress, he will criticize whom, the teacher criticizes you, must care about you, think you have room for progress!" 」 ”
The daughter listened to her mother's words, and suddenly her mood became better, but she felt as if she had been praised, saying that she would work harder in the future.
The mother said that I am cultivating the child's "teacher-oriented", otherwise once the child begins to resist the teacher, there will be various learning problems in the future. So, I didn't ask the child teacher we criticized her, because I didn't want to guide the child and the teacher to opposite roles.
The mother did not fall into the well and said that it must be because you made a mistake and you did not obey, so the teacher criticized you, so that the child would feel that the parents did not understand her, and guide the child and herself to the opposite side, resulting in the child not willing to say anything to the parents in the future.
Being criticized by teachers is a normal thing!
Most children are criticized by teachers during school, which is a very normal thing, and parents do not need to amplify things. You also don't need to question whether the teacher's criticism is right, because this is the teacher's own way of education, and it will not change because of your questioning.
As long as the child is not deliberately physically punished, humiliated, or isolated by the teacher, you can think of it as a small bump in life. You know, being criticized is the norm, never being criticized is the norm, because as long as it is a child, it will make mistakes, and no child will always not make mistakes.
Children from kindergarten to primary school, junior high school, high school, college, need to go through a long time, during which they may meet good teachers, may also encounter bad teachers, these must let children learn to accept.
Remember, as a parent, you must cultivate your child's "teacher-oriented nature", and never let your child and the teacher stand against each other, and only your own children will be hurt in the end.
From a psychological point of view, if a child has never been criticized in kindergarten or primary school, and when he is in junior high school, he is suddenly criticized by the teacher, guess what will happen to the child? Children who are in the rebellious period of adolescence may actually choose to drop out of school, with even more serious consequences.
Therefore, no matter from what level, the child is occasionally criticized by the teacher, which is really good for the child's growth!
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