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Classmate Rosie was often unhappy and complained about various trivial matters in the family. As a friend, I often have to help her analyze things and enlighten her depressed mood. It wasn't until I had dinner with their family that I realized that the matter itself was rosie's emotions, not her husband's intimacy and the children's disobedience.
During the dinner, Rosie's daughter said: "Mom, we have all grown up, you don't have to be a full-time mother anymore." The child was well-intentioned and wanted her to have her own time and do what she liked.
As a result, Rosie thought the child looked down on her staying home all day before saying such a thing. Even counting the husband's not. As a result, a meal, in addition to Rosie's voice is more painful, we are all extremely embarrassed, a meal to eat a mixed taste.
Some people say: "Mom is a barometer of a family", the joys and sorrows of the whole family are directly related to mom, after experiencing Rosie's affair, I think this sentence is a very accurate description of the importance of a woman to the family.
Mother's emotions can affect the child's personality
If dad is the pillar of a family, then mom is the needle of the sea god, determining the temperature and happiness of a home.
Since ancient times in our country, fathers have borne the livelihood of the family, most of the time is on the go, and there is not much thought spent on educating children. Children's dressing and eating, reading and learning, ideological trends, etc., contradictions in family members, all kinds of complicated family chores, etc., all need to be adjusted by the role of mother. If mom doesn't have good emotions, the family will be in turmoil.
A mother of two children who often chatted with me confessed after a party: "As a mother, I can deeply appreciate that my emotions can drive the emotions of a family, especially in front of my children. As a mother, she can't control herself, and she is like a neuropathy, sometimes when the child is upset, she will even yell loudly, scaring her husband and children, none of them dare to squeak. ”
As a mother, I can feel her emotional helplessness. But also understand that emotions will be infected, when the mother's emotions are presented to be happy and gentle, then the husband and children will feel gentle and happy; if the mother's emotions are tense and irritable, then the family's emotions will also become nervous.
Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology in Taiwan, once mentioned in her speech that in the process of human evolution, the emotional energy of mothers is far greater than that of men, and mothers are like the souls of the family, mothers are happy, the whole family is happy, and mothers are anxious. It can be said that mom is a home reassuring pill.
Mothers are the soul of the family, and every word and deed is subtly affecting the growth of children. According to research and investigation, the mother's emotions play a key role in the future growth and character cultivation of children.
Mo Yan, the winner of the Chinese Nobel Prize in Literature, once said that the person who has the greatest influence on himself in his life is his mother, and he is very grateful to his mother, who is strong and optimistic, bringing a beam of light to his unhappy childhood self. In his article "Mother", he wrote: "What makes me unforgettable is that my mother, who is full of sorrow, actually hummed a small song when she was working hard. What an optimistic mentality, it is precisely because the mother still maintains a good mood in the face of difficulties that she can achieve the later Mo Yan.
Teacher Yin Jianli, a childcare expert, said: "The three points of temper you throw at your child will cause seven points of harm."
Emotionally stable mothers teach that children are also emotionally stable, and those children who lose their temper, yell and even commit crimes must have an emotionally unstable mother behind them.
Mother is the source of children's sense of security, emotional instability will make children become suspicious, anxious, unconfident, no matter how much achievement can not control their emotions, this is the impact of mother's emotions on children!
In the same way, the emotions of husbands and other family members will also be affected by their mothers. We often say that the greatness of maternal love lies in her acceptance and breadth, and a good mother is the blessing of the family, and she will make a home full of happiness and happiness.
Lovers love themselves first, and mothers do a good job of sorting life
According to the United Nations Population Fund, 10%-15% of mothers worldwide are mentally disturbed.
I asked some of my female friends around me, how can you keep a good mood? The answer is basically: the husband is considerate, and the child is obedient. In most women's cognition, husbands and children are important people in their hearts and the source of bad emotions. In fact, the most important person for women should be themselves. I myself also very much agree with pipa sauce's division of life order.
In a variety show to talk about the topic of life ordering, the choice of papi sauce is: yourself, partner, child, parents.
She explains: "First of all, you spend the longest time with yourself. For the rest of my life, I spent with my partner. Children and parents, you just accompany them for a while, and the rest of the way is still their own way."
I think every mother should have this kind of cognition, not selfishness, but self-love before they have the strength to love others more. Spend some time every day, used to manage your own emotions, for example, reading a favorite book, running for half an hour, going to a favorite place to walk, buying a bouquet of flowers, etc., this is the love of life, but also the source of women's good emotions.
It is also said that a woman's happiness depends on the man, and the harmony of the relationship between husband and wife in the family comes from the mother, but depends on the father.
Oh, yes! Mom has to manage the family, to take care of everyone, she faces too many tedious things every day, and it is very normal to complain. If Dad doesn't give any help or even listen to Mom's thoughts, then a home is absolutely messy.
Dad loves Mom, is considerate of her hardships, is willing to listen to her troubles and helps regulate her mood, and bears the cumbersome things in life, so that Mom can maintain a good mood. A good family life must be that the father loves the mother, and the mother loves the father, so that the family is balanced and full of love. In a family, every word and deed of a parent will have a long-term impact on the child.
The father takes care of the wife, and the child will also treat the other half considerately in the future. On the contrary, if the father does not care and be considerate of the mother, the child will also not care about and love the mother, so how to keep the mother in a good mood?
It is impossible for us to expect the child to be completely obedient, "disobedient" is because the child has his own thoughts and personalities, and needs to be correctly guided to become an empathetic person, and this still requires the mother to have good emotions for education and guidance. So, how important a woman's good mood is, the performance of family members will give the answer.
Pillow Parenting Message:
I am also a mother, but also often because of emotional distress and want to lose their temper, my secret is to first let yourself calm, keep sober thinking, and then go to eat a big meal, in exchange for a good mood, after all, only the mother has a good mood, in order to make the family have happiness!
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