Text/Gardenia
Recently, I was pulled by my friends to help introduce people, and I inquired around to find that there were so many leftover men and women around me.
In-depth understanding can't help but make people feel that the original simple love marriage is so difficult. Some people have no chance of falling in love because of a single working environment and too few people of the opposite sex around them. Some people miss a good fate because they are too introverted and wooden.
We often say that when it is time to shoot, the shot is to show the true colors of the boy. When you meet the girl you like, you must take the initiative to let the other party know your intentions. Yet there are too many men who simply fail to see the opportunities women give themselves with action cues.
In the face of feelings, some women are too shy and do not understand the expression; while some men are too dull to be easily perceived, and the window paper that was originally broken at a poke may become an iron wall.
These men and women are like tracks that can't be connected, and they need the right opportunities to intersect.
A woman may not express her love directly for fear of rejection, but she will take the trouble to create some opportunities for you to understand her intentions.
So, if you don't want to continue to be single, start here: polish your eyes, read a woman's cues, and make yourself successful.
When a woman offers you three opportunities, it's clear that she's looking at you.
Give you the opportunity to help her
The first person a woman thinks of when she encounters difficulties is often someone she trusts and wants to rely on.
When she asks for your help frequently, she is telling you that I want to rely on you.
Sister-in-law and brother-in-law are prime examples. The two of them are colleagues in the same unit, at first the two are not familiar, and then the sister-in-law took the initiative to find her brother to help, which opened this fate.
My sister-in-law told me that she had always been paying attention to her brother and had a good feeling for him. But because my brother is introverted and has very few words, he can't find an opportunity to get close.
It wasn't until later that she heard that someone was introducing someone to her brother, and she was entangled in her heart, and she really didn't want to miss it, so she began to take the initiative to approach her brother. And the way she used it was to ask her brother for help.
The two people naturally became acquainted with each other, and the younger brother also discovered many advantages of his sister-in-law, which formed a good relationship.
Fate is sometimes so wonderful, if it were not for the active approach of the sister-in-law at that time, the story behind it might be another version.
A woman takes the trouble to give you a chance to help her, just to let you know that you can be her hero.
Not every woman can do the Purple Xia Fairy in "Journey to the West", but every woman will long for a hero in her heart.
When she stands next to the water dispenser that has bottomed out, the one who does not hesitate to change the bucket is you; when she forgets to bring an umbrella when it rains, the one who raises the umbrella above her head; when she encounters a bottleneck in her work, the one who gives pertinent advice, why not be her hero?
The woman who asks you for help is not incapable of solving problems, but wants to take this opportunity to tell you that I am willing to let you be the person I can rely on in my life.
Give you the chance to pay for her
Ma Yili once said in an interview that every time she went out to eat with her classmates, her father would bring her enough money and told her not to let the boys pay the bill. Ma Yili also joked that later he developed the habit of paying bills, no matter who he ate with, he would always rush to pay the bills.
There are certainly not a few fathers like Ma Yili's father, and there are more and more independent women like Ma Yili who rush to pay the bill and are unwilling to let men pay.
Therefore, when a woman asks you to dinner and is willing to accept your payment, it is definitely not to take advantage of you. She actually wants to tell you that I am willing to go further in my relationship with you.
Although a relationship cannot always be measured in terms of matter, a relationship without a material basis is also vulnerable. A woman who is willing to spend money for you and accept that you spend money for her is clearly telling you that she is willing to share each other's life with you.
A female friend around her talked about her experience of blind date, she said that every time before going to think about it, if you feel dissatisfied, you will take the opportunity to go to the bathroom to pay for the meal, do not want to eat other people's meals in vain.
If you feel that the other party has closed their eyes, they will be paid by the other party, and when they leave, they will tell the other party that the next time they must invite me to create a second chance to meet.
It was also the second opportunity she created that allowed her to establish a relationship with her current husband.
So whether you are willing to accept your payment or not, in fact, hides women's thoughts and hints.
The woman who is willing to pay you a chance is not to take advantage of you, she is actually telling you that I am willing to have more involvement with you. Because for a person who is completely insensitive, women don't even bother to give the energy to look at it.
Give you the opportunity to meet your friends and family
I once saw a saying like this: "When a person says that he likes you, but never takes you to see the people around him, most of them are just for the sake of having an affair with you." ”
I agree with that statement.
Conversely, when a woman takes you to meet her friends or even family, she is actually telling you that your relationship with her is not ordinary.
At this point you might say, what if she just treats me like a buddy? What if I take the initiative to confess, and then I don't even have to do it with my friends?
At this time, you only need to distinguish with a little effort, and you will understand whether you are unique in her eyes.
When you meet with her friends, will her friends ask you this and ask, and whether there is always eye contact between them, as if to say, "How's it going, it's not bad?" ”
Let you meet her friends, on the one hand, so that you can integrate into your circle of friends and present her real life to you. On the other hand, it is also to let your friends help you refer to it and determine if you have the same feelings for her.
It's even more obvious if she's willing to let you meet her family, and you must be the most special presence in her heart.
When a woman gives you the opportunity to meet relatives and friends, please understand that the monologue in her heart is actually telling you that I am willing to let you integrate into my life and understand all of me.
Don't say that you can't read a woman's heart, in fact, a woman's heart is the simplest, when she likes a person, she can't hide it at all.
A woman who takes the initiative to give you a chance, in fact, the subtext is "I do".
Give you the opportunity to help her, the subtext is to say "I am willing to expose my weaknesses to you";
Give you the opportunity to pay for her, the subtext is to say "I am willing to accept your offer";
Give you the opportunity to meet friends and family, and the subtext is to say "I'm willing to let you fit into my life".
When a woman takes the trouble to hint to you, she is telling you that you are not simply friends, but can go further into a relationship.
When you receive these signals, please start your action and let her know that you actually like her.
Vast sea of people, countless men and women, it is not easy to meet, the two loves are even more precious, please do not easily miss the woman who is willing to take the initiative to give you a chance.
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