When watching their pregnant belly grow with time, many expectant mothers are full of expectations for a new life.
In addition to expectations, expectant mothers can't help but feel a little uneasy and uneasy, and these uneasiness, on the one hand, comes from the fear of the childbirth process, on the other hand, from the worry about confinement.
I often hear people say: "Moon and son, do not wear the sky together." "Many originally happy marriages are buried in the disharmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during the confinement period, so it is understandable that the mother-to-be is worried."
So, how to sit in a comfortable confinement has become the most worrying thing for many expectant mothers.
The traditional way of confinement is generally for the mother to sit at home and be cared for by the mother-in-law. Although the traditional confinement method is economical and less expensive, it has many drawbacks.
Many pregnant women even buried the "confinement feud" with their mother-in-law because they did not sit well, and there were also cases of postpartum depression.
Most young mothers are even more disgusted by the fact that the confinement is taken care of by the mother-in-law, so why do they resent the confinement method of the mother-in-law taking care of the confinement? The main reasons are the following reasons, let's take a look.
Why are so many mothers reluctant to let their mother-in-law take care of the confinement?
Reason 1: The mother-in-law's concept of parenting is relatively backward
Xiaohui originally got along with her mother-in-law in a relatively harmonious way, but because of an experience of confinement, she and her mother-in-law became "enemies".
The thing is this, Xiaohui after experiencing a 4-hour labor process, finally successfully laid down her daughter, looking at her daughter's cute face, Xiaohui was full of joy.
But the mother-in-law did not say a word, staring at her granddaughter's face, thoughtful. It turned out that Xiao hui's mother-in-law was angry because she saw that the bridge of her granddaughter's nose was a little collapsed. The whole family is high nose bridge, how can it give birth to a child with a collapsed nose bridge?
The mother-in-law had some doubts in her heart, but she did not dare to speak directly, only to see that she kept pinching the nose bridge of the little baby, trying to "pull out the seedlings to help grow" and let the little granddaughter have a straight nose bridge.
Seeing the mother-in-law pinching the bridge of the newborn baby's nose, Xiaohui naturally disagreed and took the baby into her arms.
At that time, it was three volt days, the weather was sweltering, and Xiaohui's mother-in-law was afraid of the cold, so she wore several clothes for the child inside and out, and the baby was heated out of a rash, no matter how Xiaohui dissuaded, the mother-in-law did not think so, convinced that she had given birth to multiple children "experienced".
In this way, the war between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law intensified, and there was a great friction between the backward parenting concept of the mother-in-law and the child-rearing concept of Xiao hui, and Xiao Hui's mood was greatly affected.
Reason 2: The traditional confinement method has less maternal care
The traditional method of confinement is criticized because during confinement, women receive less care. The family's focus is on new life, and the mother has become a ruthless "feeding machine". If there is not enough milk after childbirth, the mother may also suffer from various sneers.
Xiaohui was originally relatively thin, and she did not have much expectation for her breastfeeding at first. Who knows, just after giving birth, the mother-in-law opened Xiaohui's clothes and ordered Xiaohui to breastfeed.
Originally breastfeeding is a warm thing, the mother-in-law's strength but let Xiaohui feel embarrassed, see the baby in her arms desperately sucking but still can't drink milk, the mother-in-law is even more sneering at Xiaohui, Xiaohui's heart is full of shame and anger.
Even if breastfeeding is possible, many mothers are still not exempt from verbal attacks from their mothers-in-law. If the child is unwell, the quality of the mother's milk will be the brunt. It can be said that the mother who sits in confinement at home accumulates all kinds of resentment and anger in a month, and this resentment may be unforgettable for a lifetime.
Due to the many drawbacks of the traditional way of confinement at home, a new type of confinement method has quietly emerged, which has been sought after and favored by many young mothers. It can be said that under the new way of confinement, the new mother can bid farewell to the "moon feud", and there is no contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
A "new type of confinement" method has quietly emerged, so that Bao Mama really bid farewell to the "confinement feud"
This new type of confinement method is to sit in the confinement center, and if you want to know the advantages of this "new type of confinement", Xiaohui's girlfriend Yuanyuan may have a say. When Xiaohui's girlfriend was 5 months pregnant, she set up a confinement in the confinement center early.
Because of Xiao Hui's poor confinement experience in front of her, Yuanyuan did not want to repeat her mistakes and let herself be angry during the confinement period. Xiao hui's girlfriend gave birth as scheduled, and the one-to-one sister-in-law of the confinement center had been waiting in the hospital in advance, and under the three-day escort of the sister-in-law, Xiaohui's girlfriend Yuanyuan was escorted to the confinement club.
This month's time, for the circle, is really like a white colt crossing the gap. People say that the moon mother-in-law discord and other contradictions, Yuanyuan is not encountered. And her own baby is also taken care of very thoughtfully, and she doesn't have to worry about it at all.
Of course, the benefits of confinement in a confinement center are not just that the mother feels relaxed, but also these advantages:
Advantage one: three meals at three o'clock on time, with reasonable and nutritious
The older generation's understanding of the confinement meal is actually somewhat unscientific, and the traditional view is that in order to make the mother produce milk as soon as possible, the meat soup should be drunk immediately after childbirth.
Many pregnant women are suffering because they drank too much greasy meat soup after childbirth, resulting in problems such as milk blockage after childbirth.
Confinement in the confinement center can avoid such a "dilemma", but also enjoy the scientific diet of the confinement center, not only good taste, but also allow women to quickly recover their bodies and avoid obesity.
Advantage 2: The mother becomes the "protagonist" of confinement
In the traditional confinement method, the role of the mother is often overlooked, which is also the root cause of many women's postpartum depression. Confinement in the confinement center, pregnant women can enjoy the treatment of "the stars holding the moon", which has attracted much attention, and there will be special personnel to carry out personal hygiene care every day, so that pregnant women can enjoy more comprehensive care during confinement.
Do you like this new type of confinement? What other advantages do you think are in this way?
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