Only wide can accommodate people, only thick can carry objects.
In the "Song Dynasty Factual Garden, Ancestor Hadith", it is said: With generosity and compatibility, all things are beneficial.
If a person has a broad mind and can be inclusive, then all things in heaven and earth can coexist harmoniously with it.
Living one's life is a process of constantly seeing heaven and earth, seeing sentient beings, and seeing oneself.
If you can tolerate the diversity of the next world, you can withstand the ups and downs of fate. On the contrary, they can only bend to the square inches they have surrounded.
Only by being tolerant can we win the hearts and minds of the people
Xue Xuan, a famous thinker of the Ming Dynasty, once said: Only wide can accommodate people, and only thick can carry things.
Those who can tolerate people, whether they are proud of the spring breeze or the tiger falls in Pingyang, there is always no shortage of people around him who support him.
You know, the sea of people is vast, there are humble gentlemen, and there is no shortage of treacherous villains.
Those who tolerate others can always see the difficulties of others and understand the hardships of the world.
For those who have hurt themselves, they can still laugh and pass, which is a very high level of cultivation. The late Qing dynasty politician Zuo Zongtang, untamed and unruly, was notoriously violent. He especially liked to scold people, and even Zeng Guofan, who promoted him, was not spared.
Zeng Guofan had the grace of knowing Zuo Zongtang and should respect it. But Zuo Zongtang was arrogant and did not take Zeng Guofan in his eyes. He repeatedly scolded Zeng Guofan at home for "blackmailing", and the tutor Fan Geng went from being embarrassed when he first listened to it, to finally becoming bored. However, in the face of Zuo Zongtang's insults, Zeng Guofan laughed.
He once spoke highly of Zuo Zongtang in his recital to the Xianfeng Emperor: "Gangming is patient and hard-working, and Xiao Chang is a soldier. Kuniyuki has Zuo Zongtang also. ”
The gentleman is not extremely heavy, and the chest swallows a hundred rivers. Zeng Guofan can tolerate people's arrogance, and finally won the admiration of the people of the world.
At that time, the two "Zeng Zuo" who were also the "four famous ministers of the late Qing Dynasty" ranked Zeng Guofan in front of Zuo Zongtang, and for this reason, Zuo Zongtang was very dissatisfied. He asked his attendants, "Why are people called 'Zeng Zuo' but not 'Zuo Zeng'?" The attendant said bluntly: "Zeng Gong often has Zuo Gong in his heart, and Zuo Gong does not have Zeng Gong." Those who can tolerate people, because they can accommodate a hundred rivers, the people's hearts are impressed.
And those who are blind will repay, and they will lose money because of their private morality, and many will keep themselves away from them. There is a way that there are thousands of worlds, each with its own fragrance.
Whether they are clothed people or in high positions, everyone's ability is limited. Only by seeing others, accommodating others, asking for advice from capable people, and paving the way for the weak can the road under our feet become wider and wider.
The real strong ones are all loud voices, and the elephants are invisible. They do not lie in the past achievements and blame others, nor do they denigrate and denigrate for their own selfish desires.
Only by being able to accommodate things can we accomplish things
As the saying goes: generous quantity makes things happen, and trees can shade them.
Indeed it is. Those who achieve great things must be good at accepting and tolerant, able to fight in setbacks, and grow in suffering.
Life is a sea of seas, mountains and rivers are long. Only those who can withstand the baptism of wind and rain can have hard armor and cut through thorns on the road of life; those who are devastated by things will only sink deeper and deeper, and eventually lost in endless grief and resentment.
The Historian Sima Qian of the Western Han Dynasty, after the death of his father Sima Tan, succeeded to the post of Taishi Ling, and in accordance with his father's last wishes, he was determined to compile a history book that "no ancients before and no one came after". However, things are unpredictable.
The general Li Ling went out to attack the Xiongnu, and after encountering an ambush, he was outnumbered and surrendered in defeat. After the news reached the imperial court, the Manchu Dynasty Wenwu was impeaching Li Ling's actions. Only Sima Qian stood up and spoke to Emperor Wu of Han, saying that Li Ling was loyal and loyal, brave and good at war, and was a general who was loyal to the country, and that this surrender would be a stopgap measure, and he would definitely choose the opportunity to return to the Central Plains one day.
Soon, Li Ling's surrender to the Xiongnu was "solidified" by the general Gongsun Ao, and Emperor Wu of Han, in anger, annihilated the three clans of Li Ling, and Sima Qian was also implicated and imprisoned, suffering a cruel "punishment of corruption".
Sima Qian, who was greatly humiliated by this, did not collapse, he knew the heavy responsibility, worked harder, and devoted all his energy to the creation of history books. In the end, it took fourteen years to complete the historical work "History".
"History", which pioneered the general history of China's chronicles, is listed as the first of the "Twenty-Four Histories" because of its rich and informative historical materials. Lu Xun once commented that "The Chronicle of History" is "the great song of historians, the departure of no rhyme." There is a way that once the sea was vicissitudes, the mulberry fields are still the same, except for the Wushan Mountain, the clouds are light and the wind is light.
Most people's lives are full of ups and downs, if they let their quagmire sink deep and cannot extricate themselves, entangled in past grievances, honors and losses, they will only be unable to see the direction of the road ahead, and eventually stumble on themselves.
Those enviable successes are only more open-minded, less obsessive, more calm, and less flustered than others.
Only by being able to speak can we act steadily
I once saw a buddhist short story: HanShan and Shide are two famous poets and monks in the history of Buddhism.
One day, Han Shan asked, "How should some people in the world slander me, deceive me, insult me, laugh at me, belittle me, despise me, and deceive me?" He replied, "Just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few more years, and you will see him." I thought so.
He who has a broad heart will be a good man, and he will not be compared because of the quarrel of words. They tend to have a compassionate heart that cares for all beings.
During Wang Anshi's change of law, Su Shi, as the backbone of the old party, was ostracized and later thrown into prison because of the "Wutai Poetry Case". After more than four months in prison, Su Shi lived in Huangzhou as a deputy envoy to the regiment, a petty official with no real power and under supervision.
From a leader in the literary world and a taishou of the dynasty to a man who spoke softly and no one cared about it, Su Shi fell into a low point in his life. Despite this, he maintained his demeanor and did not anger others because of the injustice of fate.
One evening, Su Shi paced home with his friends, and a drunk man approached him. Passing by, the drunkard lost his balance, causing Su Shi to dodge and fall to the ground. When the drunk man saw the situation, instead of apologizing, the evil man complained first, scolding Su Shi for not walking for long. Su Shi, who was nearly 50 years old, fell to the ground for a long time before he eased up. The friend was angry and tried to argue for him, but was stopped by Su Shi. He looked at the drunk man next to him and smiled, "People here don't know me, it's really interesting, I can open up a new world." ”
The Tao Te Ching says, "Faith is not beautiful, and good words are not believed; the good do not argue, and the debater is not good." ”
Not arguing is tolerance, which is the cultivation and virtue of establishing people in the world.
When people reach middle age, their hearts become more and more mature, they have seen the ups and downs of the world, and they do not care about the gains and losses in front of them. After all, life is to walk its own way, eat your own food, and have nothing to do with others.
Allowing others to put their beaks on their beaks and keeping their original intentions is not only to forgive others, but also to spare themselves.
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Liu Xiang, a literary scholar of the Western Han Dynasty, once said: "The mountain sharp is not high, and the water is narrow and not deep." ”
The mountain is too steep to be too high, and the water surface is narrow and not too deep.
The reason why Everest is the roof of the world is because of the vastness of the foothills.
The reason why the sea is deep is because the smoke is vast.
People's minds should be like Mount Everest, like the sea, swallowing down mountains and rivers, in order to be high and wide.
Can tolerate people, out is admired, in the high friends full of seats;
Can tolerate things, retreat is the sea and the sky, and advance is flat and green;
Can tolerate words, code of self-cultivation, attack is in full swing.
May we all become broad-minded people, so that the road of life is like a stone, lush and fragrant.