A writer once said, "The laughter in the crowd cannot hide the sorrow in the silence." ”
In the long river of time, no matter how much prosperity you have experienced, you will eventually have to go alone.
In a flash, it is a person to middle age. If you don't hold fast to time, what do you take to create happiness in life, and what do you use to support your family?
Don't think about anything, be realistic, and learn four ways of living: be patient with things, be cruel in heart, be steady in your words, and save money.
01
Things can be endured, the wind and waves are calm.
You and I are mortal, and we cannot, like the sages, see through and let go of everything.
All you can do is try not to cause trouble – take a step back from the sea and the sky, and endure the calm of the wind and waves.
During the Western Han Dynasty, Sima Qian was born into a family that loved to learn. He experienced folk life from an early age, went to Chang'an with his father, and asked the celebrities of the time for advice.
Just when he was studying seriously, because he talked about some of his own views on the "Li Ling Incident", he angered Emperor Wu of Han and was sentenced to palace punishment.
The seven-foot boy who has been greatly wronged, how can he not be angry? However, Sima Qian, in his grief, continued to read and wrote the "Records of History".
Mr. Lu Xun praised him: "The great singing of historians, the departure of no rhyme." ”
As the saying goes: "If you can't bear it, you will plot big." ”
Everyone has emotions, but we must be the masters of emotions, not to vent emotions at will, let alone bring emotions into social interaction.
If you get angry at others, you will only make things worse and lose the opportunity to cooperate and win-win. No one wants to cooperate with an angry person.
If you're really angry, yell at an empty place, or try to calm down, read a few books, and look at the moon in the sky.
If you have time, go to the street in the early morning to see, you will find that there are always people, in order to live, wearing stars and wearing the moon. Sanitation workers, sweeping the streets with brooms, people rushing by, carrying luggage, the lights in the hospital, always on, and people are trying to fight with the disease.
No matter what is good in this world, we cannot avoid the chaotic life of soldiers. Bear with it, feel at ease, things will always have a clue.
02
The human heart can be fierce, self-reliant and self-reliant.
As the saying goes: "It is better to rely on the sky than on others, and it is better to rely on others than on oneself." ”
When you reach middle age, no matter how short you are, you must live like a mountain. Because you are the pillar of the family and the mainstream of society.
The skin of the body is subject to the parents. You can't make yourself taller, but you can make yourself stronger, and the realm of being a human being is your real height.
In this life, the strongest opponent is not others, but oneself. If you are a little yourself, then you can rise higher and higher.
In the "Warring States Policy", it is written: "Those who are of the highest virtue are not in harmony with the customs, and those who have achieved great achievements do not seek the masses." ”
The most important thing in life, don't discuss with everyone, you have to make your own decisions. Where fate goes, you decide. The advice of others is important, but others will not fight for you, nor will they take the place of you.
With a fierce force, he forced himself to study and start a business, and when he could not bear it, he responded fiercely to others and showed his true ability.
Use "fierce" to the extreme, and you will find that many people do not succeed, not because they do not work hard enough, but because they give up after taking ninety-nine steps. You can't just tell yourself when you can't get it up – there's one last step.
When people reach middle age and you are not cruel, then society will be cruel to you and will force you into a corner.
03
Words can be spoken steadily, and disasters are far away.
Bing Xin wrote in the article: "In the silence, it is full of triumphant songs of victors. ”
People who insist on silence feel very special and reliable when interacting with people.
If you live in a busy city, you will find that the most difficult thing in life is not to face traffic jams, disputes, and make money, but to "make peace in the middle of trouble".
Many middle-aged people, after some efforts, have achieved little success, but he is very arrogant, a few words, he ruined his future, fell short.
When Zhu Yuanzhang was down, there was a man named Guo Decheng who defected to him and had always been in a low position and was unwilling to become a high official. When the Ming Dynasty was founded, Zhu Yuanzhang gave Guo Decheng a lot of wine and money, and he could sit back and relax in the second half of his life.
One day, Guo Decheng got drunk and said, "What I hate most in my life is messy hair, if only I could shave my head." ”
A heartless word made Zhu Yuanzhang furious. Because when he was young, in order to survive, he had to become a monk.
In order to find a way out, Guo Decheng shaved his hair and laughed at himself, only to avoid a disaster.
The ancients said, "Dragons have scales, don't anger the scales." ”
In real life, anyone has "reverse scales". If you don't know how to control your speech, then you're probably going to anger others. Show off yourself, bring jealousy; belittle others, hide anger; speak clearly, bitterly force people; expose scars, and be painful; gossip, provoke trouble... Talking less is wise.
04
Spending money can save money and live happily.
As the saying goes, "If you have grain in your hand, you don't panic in your heart." "When people reach middle age, 80% of their confidence is given by money."
Many people complain that it is too difficult to make money. However, they did not think about it, how should the money be spent when it is in hand? Instead, it is simply to use money to maintain a living.
Truly far-sighted people will guard their money. Even if you only have ten dollars in your pocket, you can make a business. Let's say you spend a few bucks to buy a few balloons, blow them up, tie them with rope, and sell them to children.
A friend of mine, who works in Shenzhen, earns about 12,000 a month, but he has no savings all year round. His money is spent on rent, beauty, fitness, travel, child support, etc.
If he knows how to save money, then the house can be smaller, the place is slightly more off, the beauty can be omitted, and the fitness can go to the park. In this way, you can deposit at least three thousand or more per month.
It is difficult to make money, and spending money is like a rush into the sea.
When people reach middle age, the real life without discounts is to cut the door hard and pave the way for future life.
05
I have seen a cartoon: a middle-aged man, pulling a scooter, going to the door with parents and children, house cars, cityscapes, work...
When people reach middle age, we must live as our own ferrymen, and we must also learn to ferry people.
Bear with it, things will be easier to handle; the heart will be fierce, the strength will be there; the words will be reliable, the circle will be harmonious; money will be saved, and there will be hope for the future.
In this way, we can be worthy of our hearts and not fail others.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.