There is a Chinese proverb: Raising or not teaching, the father's fault.
The family is the child's first school, and the parents are the child's first teacher and the most important teacher. Parents have the most profound influence on their children's education.
The greatest dereliction of duty of parents is to push all of their children's education to the school
In today's society, many parents spend most of their time and energy on promotions and salary increases, and entrust their children's education to schools. I often hear parents say this: "Teacher, I have handed over the child to you, you have to bother more!" ”
Parents think that sending their children to school, having a teacher to educate, do not need to participate in their own, in fact, this concept is very wrong.
I once saw a case online: a 15-year-old boy and two accomplices beat and illegally detained a 14-year-old girl for 50 hours, and during these 50 hours, the boy's family never contacted him, and it was a weekend.
In the later investigation, the police found that the boy's grades were not good, he went to a skills training school, began to smoke, drink, and did not go home at night, but in the eyes of the boy's parents, he felt that his son's grades were not good, but he had been relatively well-behaved, and he lived in school for weeks after going to technical school, and the teacher would manage it, and he did not need his parents to worry.
Even if the child is under the supervision of the teacher at school during the week, the time of the crime is a weekend, and it is a full 50 hours, the parents do not have a phone call, and the "heart" is so big that this is completely the dereliction of duty of the parents.
There is a saying that excellent children have their own excellence, and problem children have similar problems.
The child is a mirror of the family, the child has a problem, the most important education is actually the child's parents.
The biggest dereliction of duty of parents is to think that the tree is naturally straight, and to let go and indulge in their children
Last week, when he took his kids out to dinner, while waiting for a meal, a little friend was running around in the restaurant while his parents just sat there playing with their phones and didn't stop it at all.
The waiter came to hope that the child's parents could manage a tube, the restaurant was crowded, afraid that the child would fall, or bump into the waiter who delivered the food. But the mother said, "It's the nature of the child to be active, and it's good to wait until he grows up." ”
This pair of parents believe that the child's nature is greater than everything, and they do not know that the laissez-faire nature without rules is the greatest harm to the child.
When the school started in September, there was a classmate in my son's class who did not do any homework. The child's parents said in the group that learning is the child's own business, the child needs to be responsible for his own learning, and they never make it mandatory. And they also feel that when the children are older, they will naturally understand things and will recognize these problems.
Isn't this very similar to the saying we often hear: The child is still young, and when he is older, he will understand things?
At first glance, it sounds very reasonable, but it actually sucks. Many parents believe in free-range breeding, more is laissez-faire, is indulgence, let the children repeatedly foul, and finally even break the law.
The famous educator Ushinsky once said: Once you develop a good habit, you will enjoy the interest it brings you all your life. Conversely, once you develop a bad habit, you spend your whole life paying off the debt it brings you.
The family is the best school for a child in his life, parents are the best teachers in this school, and raising children is the greatest responsibility of parents.
The greatest success of a parent's life is not how brilliant the career is, but the education of the child.