Author: Insight Muye
The weak are controlled by emotions, and the strong control emotions.
Ma Dong once said in an interview with Xu Zhiyuan in "Thirteen Invitations":
When recruiting and evaluating employees, the most important quality is "things first".
What does that mean?
Ma Dong explained: "Since you come to work, then your life is another matter, don't bring too many emotions in your life to work when you work. ”
Indulging emotions at work is an unreliable performance, and no one will pay for your emotions except yourself.
No matter how much difficulty you encounter and how much humiliation you have suffered, the moment you step into the company, you must put away your emotions.
Not bringing emotions to work is the self-consciousness that adults should have.
01
Daniel Gorman, the father of emotional intelligence, once said:
"Of the determinants of a successful life, IQ contributes up to 20 percent, and the remaining 80 percent is determined by non-intellectual factors."
Of these 80% non-intellectual factors, the ability to manage emotions is very important.
At work, people who can't stay stable can't do things well at all.
Meet a friend who works as a project lead at an advertising agency.
Two days ago, a friend complained to me about an employee in his department.
At that time, he received a project, distributed the task to colleagues according to the custom, and agreed on a deadline.
As a result, when the deadline came, everyone else went to the conference room to prepare for the meeting, but one girl was missing for a long time.
She didn't answer the messages, didn't answer the phone calls, and other colleagues didn't know where she had disappeared.
It dragged on for nearly half an hour before she pushed the door in, her face melancholy.
The part of the plan that she was responsible for was perfunctory and could not be used at all.
Everyone can only cooperate on the spot to complete the part of the work that originally belonged to her.
Afterwards, a friend called the girl to the office to talk.
It turned out that she had been breaking up with her boyfriend these two days and was in a low mood.
The half hour after disappearing was when I ran downstairs to talk to my boyfriend on the phone.
The people I am most afraid of encountering at work are people who work with emotions.
Not only does it affect individual productivity, but it also slows down team collaboration.
Richard Templer wrote in The Law of Minimalist Work:
"In the workplace, colleagues can quickly lose confidence in someone who can't handle and control their emotions well."
Really good people, deal with things first, and then deal with emotions.
Going to work without emotion is the greatest respect for work and colleagues.
02
Do you have any feelings like this:
With cheerful people, it is easy to be in a sunny mood, and with pessimistic people, you will also become pessimistic.
In other words, emotions between people are contagious.
A nurse at a hospital has told a personal experience of herself on the Internet.
When she went out in the morning, she was in a bad mood because something had happened at home.
At noon that day, it was her turn to be on duty, and she and another colleague were the only ones in the department.
At that time, there were many hospitalized patients, a little busy, but there were still many new patients who came to go through the hospitalization procedures, and family members also came to consult various things, and the whole person was busy and dizzy.
She was also busy, becoming more and more irritable.
At the moment when she was completely overwhelmed, she slammed the liquid bottle on the treatment table and shouted, "Annoyed! ”
The colleagues on the side were startled by her sudden voice and shouted at her:
"What did you fall?" Have you done this to nurses, and can you afford to make a mistake? ”
At that moment, she was stunned, and she was instantly awake.
If she gives the wrong medicine to the patient because of her bad mood, it is a medical accident.
If the patient is allowed to feel her bad emotions, it will have an impact on both the patient's physical recovery and the satisfaction of the medical staff.
So, she forced herself to calm down, take a break, adjust her state, and then go to work.
Then she found that the things that were originally annoying were nothing more than the daily routine of her work, and it was the bad emotions that made her feel unbearable.
Rob White once said: "At no time should one be a slave to one's own emotions, one should not subject all one's actions to one's own emotions, but should in turn control one's emotions." ”
A truly mature person should have the ability to brake in time for bad emotions.
03
Recently, in the chase variety show "Heartbeat Offer 3", there was a scene that touched me very much.
Wang Rui, an intern medical student, was severely criticized by the doctor during the operation because she did not meet the requirements.
At that time, the hospital equipped medical students with an instrument room in which they could practice their practical skills in surgery.
But Wang Rui rarely went to the equipment room to actively practice practical skills.
Therefore, in the spot check link, Wang Rui's unsatisfactory performance was once again criticized by the doctors who led the teaching.
Wang Rui, who could not hold back his emotions at all, hid in the locker room and cried.
But after crying, she quickly picked up her emotions and returned to her workstation to work.
The reason why I am so emotional about this scene is because in her, I see the shadow of myself when I first joined the work.
At that time, like all newcomers, I was always criticized by the leadership.
When I'm in a bad mood, I'll hide in the bathroom and stay for ten minutes.
After the mood eases, I will return to the workstation to continue to work.
People are not grass and trees, who can be ruthless?
It's normal to have emotions, what's important is the ability to regulate them.
After someone is scolded by the leader, they can quickly pack up their mood and get back into work; some people are immersed in complaints.
Sometimes what hinders a person's progress is not the innate potential, but the lack of understanding of controlling and managing emotions.
04
Napoleon had a saying that goes:
"A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take down a city."
People who are really powerful often deal with things calmly and calmly, do not like color, and are not angry at the form.
Zhang Yiming, the founder of ByteDance, has a rationality and restraint similar to that of a "robot".
Zhang Yiming's roommate Liang Rubo said that since he went to college, he had never seen Zhang Yiming in a state of chicken blood, not too excited, not too depressed, and his emotions would always fluctuate only between these two lines.
Even when he encounters strong winds and waves, he is also very restrained, and it is difficult to see the negative emotions in him.
Behind the emotional stability is strength and pattern.
So-called, the weak are controlled by emotions, and the strong control emotions.
Good people are not without emotions, but manage emotions.
One of buffett's secrets to keeping his investments winning is never to bring emotions to work.
He said that as an investor, the behavior of emotional out-of-control behavior is very irrational, and the consequences will be extremely severe, and it is most important to maintain rationality and stabilize emotions.
Kazuo Inamori also said:
"Success don't have senseless emotions. Even if you complain more and suffer more grievances, the most important thing at the moment is to do a good job first, and after doing a good job, you can vent your emotions and adjust your mood, which is the mentality that a mature person should have. ”
Imagine if you were a leader, would you hand over the job to someone who is uncertain, or someone who is stable and reliable?
Go without saying.
Please mute your emotions at work, and you will get more opportunities than others.
05
The Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe told a simple story in "Blunt Force".
There are two colleagues in the company who are scolded by the leader to the point of bloodshed.
A colleague was very sensitive, felt very faceless, could not get rid of the shadow of being scolded, and chose to leave.
Another colleague acted as if nothing had happened and was able to work hard as usual.
Some people think that he lacks heart and eyes, but he only has a "blunt feeling" about the so-called loss of face.
People with strong blunt feelings will not indulge in negative emotions for too long, they will quickly forget the unpleasant past and focus on the present.
360 founder Zhou Hongyi once said:
"When people are young, they should still be slow, let their hearts become rough, and be able to withstand all kinds of exercise and pain."
When you keep your senses blunt and reduce your emotions, everything will naturally go smoothly.
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