Recently, the People's Daily reported on family education, I don't know if everyone has paid attention? The report tells the story of an anxious doctoral father educating his children. At the same time, it is also the epitome of thousands of anxious parents.
After graduating from Dr. Mao in Nanjing, he married Ms. Zheng. After marriage, she had a son and a daughter. Don't look at Mr. Mao as a Ph.D. graduate, but the anxiety about parenting is no less than that of ordinary parents. Every day, he would force his 7-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter to learn high mathematics and literature.
You should know that high mathematics and literary language are high school and even college courses. Children under the age of 10 are sure not to learn. As a result, in the process of educating his children, the anxious Mr. Mao often uses insulting language and even beats. Faced with such a ridiculous way of education by her husband, the wife could not stand it and applied to the court for habeas corpus.
Advanced education is tantamount to seedling growth
Many parents are always worried that their children will lose at the starting line, and often have the idea of "advanced education". As everyone knows, advanced education is harmful to children and has no benefit.
1. Advanced education ignores the physiological characteristics of children
Children's cognitive development is regular, the way of thinking of children aged 5 to 10 is still in the stage of concrete operation, and logical thinking and abstract thinking have not yet been established.
The thinking of 7- to 8-year-olds is at the level of intuitive image. When doing math problems, I often have the habit of breaking my fingers and drawing small sticks. Because it's intuitive and easy to understand.
From the age of 8 to 10, thinking ability begins to transition from intuitive image thinking to logical thinking and abstract thinking. Mental arithmetic skills begin to increase as you do math homework.
2, advanced education, stifling children's interest in learning
Advanced education is literally meant to allow children to learn knowledge beyond their own cognition. When learning these "advanced knowledge", because the child's brain way of thinking is still in a low stage, it is impossible to understand and master these knowledge contents.
Learning again and again, failure after failure, over time will greatly reduce the child's self-confidence, not only the difficult knowledge has not been learned, but also the loss of interest in learning.
3. The wrong way of education is not conducive to the healthy development of children
When children receive "advanced education", it is normal to "not understand" and "can't remember", but parents do not think so, and verbal abuse and beatings will become very common.
Parents use a rough education method, which does not help to improve their children's learning ability in the slightest, but will make children fear learning, and even develop bad habits of violent problem solving.
Let children fall in love with learning, the right thing for parents
1. Find the "Recent Development Zone"
When improving their children's cognitive ability, parents should follow the laws of children's cognitive development, understand the child's existing level, and find the child's "recent development area", that is, the level at which the child may develop.
For example, 8 to 10-year-old children are in the transition period from the specific operation stage to abstract logical thinking, logical thinking and abstract thinking are the child's "recent development area", and parents should pay attention to the cultivation of these two abilities.
2. Apply what you have learned
When the child finishes learning the knowledge, the parents should help the child create a situation of using the knowledge, and only "useful knowledge" is willing to learn.
For example, if your child learns addition and subtraction in mathematics, we can take our child to the supermarket and let the child help you calculate how much to pay and how much money to retrieve.
3. Develop good study habits
When children are in school, developing a good learning habit is the primary task of learning. When a child develops good study habits, he not only learns easily, but also parents are not so anxious about parenting.
So what are good study habits?
1. Learn with a plan
After the children go to school, many parents suffer from "assistive disorder". In fact, parents should be clear about one thing, homework is the child's homework, not the parent's, parents should return the "heavy responsibility" of writing homework to the child.
Let the children make their own "plans" for writing homework, what homework to write at what time, and make it special. In the early stage of this habit, the child may have various problems and repetitions, and parents should be gentle and persistent, and never give in.
2. Correct learning style
In terms of learning knowledge, parents should let their children learn the four-step learning method of "prep, study, review and summarize". Pre-study helps children have a preliminary understanding of new knowledge and find knowledge points that they "don't understand". During the class, the child will listen attentively to the teacher's explanation of these knowledge points.
After class, children should also do more exercises to facilitate children's memory and improve their proficiency. After each exam, parents can summarize with their children, find loopholes in knowledge, and quickly check for omissions. When children develop these habits, it is difficult to think badly about grades.
3. Scientific memory methods
Learning is methodical, memory is skillful, and children who memorize by rote cannot have excellent grades. Parents should teach their children scientific methods of memory from an early age. For example, the use of Ebbinghaus forgetting curves, spatial memory methods, image memory methods, etc. I will not repeat it here, and interested parents can buy some related books.
The last sentence summarizes that the child's cognitive ability is regular, and any advance learning beyond the law cannot help the child win at the starting line, but only let the child lose the hope of "winning" before starting.