Still struggling with whether to divorce the girl, today's article, you must read it carefully, I believe it will definitely bring you inspiration.
Everyone also knows the divorce data in recent years, a large part of the divorce is because of family trivia, mainly some small frictions in life, most of them are some insignificant small things.
Now a lot of chicken soup is emphasizing the feminist rights of egoism, telling women not to wronged themselves, to be brave to leave bad people.
I have to say that all the problems cannot be considered from a single perspective, which will only make you ignore the truth of the facts.
I'm not against leaving men with problematic character, extreme personalities, and bad habits, but many divorces end up being a pity, just personality incompatibility.
Of course, personality incompatibility is indeed very painful, but have you ever thought that personality incompatibility is really just a one-sided reason, and what is the problem behind the personality?
Is it because neither of them is willing to compromise and give in, so there is a statement of personality incompatibility?
Everyone must realize that divorce is really easy, you can pat your ass and leave, but will you be able to live well if you remarry?
You know, the probability of remarriage encountering more problems, let me list it:
The first question: the problem of children
Many remarried couples will face the problem of having children on both sides, and many female friends will hope that after the marriage of two people, the man can treat his children as if they were his own.
I have to say a very harsh reality, which is that it is almost impossible.
I have encountered a case before, the woman and the man have been married for 10 years, when the children of both sides are in college, the man sells a house for his children to study abroad, but the woman's son, the man is only willing to pay a few thousand yuan, so that the boy went to an ordinary vocational school.
This wife is mentally unbalanced because of this matter, and counsels me if I want a divorce?
This kind of thing is actually quite common, but I ask you, do you think this situation is divorce, or do you want to continue to live?
Let's not say anything big truth, from the perspective of simple human nature, the current husband is good to your children, that is love, according to conscience, he can raise his children without beating or scolding.
Don't be too demanding, there is blood and no blood, how can it be the same?
I think what this wife really wants should not be her current husband, but her ex-husband.
After all, her current husband is willing to sell his house to let his son go to school, and her ex-husband, the biological father of her son, has any way to support his children?
If you are powerless as a mother and the child's biological father sits idly by and places the blame on her current husband, isn't this moral kidnapping?
If you have any views, you can leave a message in the comment area to discuss it together.
The second question: economic problems
Most people go through the process of property division after their marriage ends.
There are many men who leave the house after divorce because of guilt, leaving most of their property to their ex-wives and children.
At this time, the woman married in the past, and it was a little unwilling to have nothing, but the other party did not have good conditions for the time being, which caused some second-marriage families to be very difficult in the early stage of reorganization.
If you work together, it's okay, if the woman always feels wronged and unfair, the result of the last marriage will be worse than the first marriage, not to mention all kinds of chickens and dogs.
This is also a very common situation in my counseling, where conflicts break out because the partner's income has to go to the ex, and the marriage is also in jeopardy.
The third question: the problem of parents
This is a very real problem, and it must be paid attention to before the second marriage.
In the eyes of the parents of the second-married family, it is inevitable that some people will have a comparative heart to compare with the son-in-law or daughter-in-law in front.
Unless the ex is very bad and their relationship is very poor, it will be easy for parents to compare your shortcomings with the strengths of the ex and finally pick and choose you.
Especially in the case of children, the elderly will always feel that it is still good to kiss, so in fact, there is no comparison at all.
The result is that the more you get along, the more you get stuck!
The fourth problem: children's psychological problems
After a failed marriage, there are many things that are not easy for us adults to digest, and it will naturally be more difficult for children.
Although it is said that the parents are not good for the child, if they only want to squeeze each other for a breath in their hearts, they must make a win or lose, which is equivalent to artificially causing harm to the child.
And after the divorce to take away the child, you can not guarantee that the next real heart to him, you do not take away worse, stepmother or stepfather can not be good to your child, it is difficult to say, in short, left and right are difficult.
Fifth question: disillusionment
If you fail in your first marriage, you will think that the person you chose is wrong, but more often because you have not learned to get along with your partner.
Once the divorce is easy, it will be easy to ignore this problem, and when you get married for the second time, you will wake up, where the first marriage was planted, and it may be the same place the second time.
Eventually, you will find that you used to envy those couples who were very beautiful after the second marriage, and they may not be really beautiful.
It's just that they feel that it is humiliating to divorce too many times, so they have to seek perfection and compromise, and perform a peaceful and beautiful performance.
Having said these points, I don't know if everyone will feel the same way, I have never felt that divorce is the best choice for both parties to disagree with each other, I can only say that divorce is the easiest way to deal with it.
It seems like divorce solves all the problems, but after the divorce to face a variety of new problems, you will find that the head is bigger.
Although I do not advocate not divorcing for the sake of our children, I think all of us parents should learn to manage marriage well for the sake of our children and their own happiness, and give their children a harmonious and warm growth environment.
The family is happy and harmonious, this is the biggest success of our lives, do you agree?