Love is beautiful, but, man, not necessarily.
Many times, girls always meet people in the process of love, a true heart to feed the dog, for example, some girls love a person to death, but the other party is hot and cold.
It is not uncommon to learn after a year and a half of being together that the other party is married or has a girlfriend. There are also girls who like middle-aged uncles, like the mature charm and thoughtfulness of each other, and like the appearance of that person spoiling you into a little princess.
The men and women in love are always extraordinarily sweet, but once this stage has passed, all the contradictions will emerge, and you can't help but think, does he really love me?
If he really loves me, how can he bear to lie to me? If he really loves me, how can he be willing to hurt me? Sadly, he doesn't love you.
It is precisely because you don't love, so you don't care, don't care, don't take the initiative, don't refuse, don't pay.
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In love, why do girls always meet people who are not "good"?
First of all, it needs to be noted that always meeting bad people does not mean that you are not good, at most it is just bad luck.
I remember a little girl who complained to me that she fell in love with the owner of the shop, he was very kind to her, helped her arrange accommodation, and took good care of her at work.
Promote her to management, give her a salary increase, etc., in her opinion, he is the noble man in her life, and in this way, the two people will be together.
As time passed, she slowly discovered that what he had promised in his mouth would definitely be divorced, but it would take time, and after the divorce, the house and car deposits were given to his ex-wife.
With his ability he would soon give her everything better, at first she believed and chose to wait silently, but day by day, year by year.
She found that he could not get married at all, and those so-called mountain alliances and sea oaths, sweet words, were just a game and a dream.
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She was depressed and didn't know what to do? Give up, or ask him for an explanation? Maybe from an outsider's point of view, the little girl is still too tender.
Played by an old man and helped him count the money? In fact, she really lacks experience in the relationship between men and women, and she does not understand that married men cannot touch it.
Men with the Lord will burn themselves sooner or later, and this matter, if it is replaced by a mature woman, will stop the loss at the beginning and will not give the old man a chance.
But it was a little girl, she couldn't see the true face of the other party, let alone his dirty greed. In The words of Wu Xin, on the road to growth, who has not met a few scum?
It is precisely because of the encounters that I have reshaped such an excellent you today.
Secondly, meeting bad people is the norm, and it is important to improve your own rank.
A boy who takes his girlfriend to a roadside stall to eat always can't avoid meeting bad people, but if a boy takes his girlfriend to a five-star hotel for dinner, the ending will be different.
Five-star hotels, unlike street food, don't always have rogue access.
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This is the difference, the same thing, we have to see the essence through the phenomenon. When girls always meet bad people in love, don't blindly complain that they are sucking scum physique.
Change your thinking, change your way of life, there will be different gains, if you used to like a person always on the catch, upside down, backwards chasing.
Now you may wish to spend more time cultivating yourself and improving your quality, just like you like a butterfly, not desperately trying to catch up, but to plant flowers, to plant grass, to fertilize, to irrigate.
When it is spring, the flowers are in full bloom and the flowers and butterflies come. The same is true of love, rather than forcing someone who doesn't like you to love you.
It is better to choose a two-way love in the beginning.
Third, good love is not encountered at the beginning, but most of it comes from running-in and cultivating.
In "Goodbye Lover", Guo Keyu said such a paragraph. His ex-husband Zhang He is handsome, there are quite a few little girls around him who like him, and before they were together, he also had some emotional experiences.
She was grateful to his former girlfriend for shaping him up to be what she is today.
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That is to say, behind every excellent man, it is exchanged for the blood and tears of countless women, and he is very protective of you and tender.
It seems that he understands women very well, every word you say, every action, every expression, he can understand, and even empathize with you.
You'll be happy and pleasantly surprised, but come to think of it, has he always been like this? Obviously not, many boys are well-dressed and taught by their ex-girlfriends.
Many boys love to be clean, but also the good living habits cultivated by the ex-girlfriend, many boys do not smoke, do not drink, what is not the ex-girlfriend's tears in exchange.
Some boys said that when they were walking on the street and suddenly saw their ex-girlfriend, their instinctive reaction was to quickly cut off the cigarette butt in their hands.
On second thought, we've all broken up? Think about how funny that picture is, maybe, this is love, it is carved in the bones, into the blood of love, otherwise there would be no such physical reaction.
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Meng Fei once said: "Whose new love is not someone else's old love?" "Admittedly, when we meet someone, it can't be 100 percent perfect and fit the heart.
He will certainly have a lot of shortcomings and deficiencies, smart women, will not turn around immediately, but to give each other a chance, but also to give themselves a chance.
Go and try it, is there any other possibility? Maybe after two people run together, they become the other half that is not separated from each other?
Love is like this, at the beginning look at this person is very scummy, playing with other people's feelings, maybe, in your hands, he has grown and matured.
Used to be a prodigal, see a love one, after being with you, learned preferences and exceptions, and gave you the best of everything in the palm of your hand.
This is deep love, bad people often have, the key is, when he comes to you, what he is like, this is particularly important.
If he has a lot of emotional experience and is well educated by his ex-girlfriends, why should you care about the past, the focus is on the future.
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