As many parents realize that their children's learning and growth need to be supported by concentration, many parents have also begun to feel anxious about their children's inability to calm down and not to learn seriously.
In fact, for family education, it may be possible to buy books and listen to lectures to help parents supplement the dry goods in the training mode, but in fact, what we need to do more is to take our own knives, do not do the adult who always disturbs the child.
When we recognize some of the key points of the child's concentration level, we can really slowly let go of the kind of interrupting the child's mind, and can we create a scene for the child to truly achieve a high degree of concentration. Here are some of the main points you're worth a look.
Concentration is a universal skill
First of all, we must understand that concentration is a universal skill.
To develop this universal skill, the most important thing we can do is to let our children be their own teachers. When they are able to immerse themselves in it, their level of concentration is truly elevated.
Sometimes children are concentrating on playing with toys, which is actually a state of their concentration, and they can exercise concentration. But parents may interrupt their children because they want to eat or do something else.
For example, when children play with blocks when they are young, some parents will be next to them: "Eh, this building block is not spelled like this, you see how good it is." "It's been so long, hurry up and drink some water!" You see you get it all over again, and you'll clean it up yourself in a moment. ”
For example, when the children are older and begin to learn to write homework, some parents sit next to them and stare: "You see what you wrote this word, erased and rewritten!" "Yeah, that's a good thing to write, that's it!" What does the title ask? See clearly! "Half a day I wrote three questions."
There are also children who let their children write homework in the dining room and living room, and their parents eat, brush their mobile phones, and watch TV next to them.
Many parents are doing this, and in retrospect, they have to blame the child for not paying attention, so we must remember that these practices not only can not help the child, but also greatly damage the child's concentration.
This is because we do not understand that concentration is a very low-level ability, and we neglect the care of the child's state of concentration in the details of life. So from now on, parents must pay attention to the fact that it is important to exercise concentration, but it is more important to protect the child's concentration and stop depriving those children of the time to focus on doing things.
Concentration nourishes learning
Learning itself is a very energy-intensive thing, because the brain needs to be running at full capacity all the time, dealing with what has been learned and what will be learned. In this process, the human brain itself is very easy to distract, a little interference, may lead to children out of the state of learning.
Some scientific statistics say that during an hour of concentration, if there is a one-minute disturbance, it is likely that the child will need to spend more than 10 minutes to return to the state of concentration. This period of recovery time actually has an impact on their concentration on learning, bringing unnecessary consumption to children.
So our parents should bother their children less, which can help their children really win a coherent learning experience, and the learning results they get in immersive learning are often more significant. The result of such a great joy must also be what we all want to see.
Short-term focus can accumulate growth-term focus
Without accumulating steps, it is impossible to go thousands of miles, and the improvement of concentration requires long-term accumulation. Do you encourage your children in your life to play with blocks, play chess, and tell stories? These activities are actually good activities to help children train short-term concentration.
Everything is actually a task, a task added up, not a step to reach the goal. Helping children train more short-term concentration can actually drive children to gather the concentration of the growth stage with little by little in the long-term effort.
You know, only when we really care about people and things that we really care about, can we use so many obvious long-term concentrations. Many times we focus on short-term tasks to combat interference.
Therefore, the direction of parents' efforts should also start from short-term training, and then remind children to learn from each other, and take the short-term anti-interference experience to practice in the long term. In this way, children's concentration cultivation can be done more with less.
Try joining the child instead of interrupting the child
Many parents may still be worried about how their children behave throughout the process.
The original intentions of parents are actually very beautiful, so we must pay attention to the method of integration, so as to ensure that the efforts we want to make will not change the taste in the end.
Try to integrate into the child's focused situation, such as helping the child to overcome a problem they are currently facing, asking questions together, looking for information together, rather than splitting the face and ordering the child to make it quickly.
When we turn the idea of doing something for the child into the idea of doing something with the child, it's easy to see that you and the child are more connected, and you're actually sharing focused time together. Only in this mode can we interact with the child and maintain the child's state of concentration.
As a parent, there is always a risk of doing bad things with good intentions. Disturbing our attentive children is one of the risks. The more this is the case, the more we must know how to avoid the deviations that may occur in our own body in advance. Think more about how to get your child to focus, rather than making yourself the protagonist more of a nuisance. I believe that our changes can bring a new experience to children's concentration training!