Wen | Mingxin's mother
Today, why is the filial and sensible 4-year-old obviously unusual, turning into a naughty bag of unreasonable trouble? In response to this performance of Mingming, Mingxin's mother was puzzled, and at night, after the child slept, Mingxin's mother read the book "Positive Discipline" and found the crux of the problem. What the hell is going on?
When I got up in the morning, Mingming suddenly said, "Thank you Mommy and Daddy for nurturing me, you have worked hard." "The word nurturing instantly made me feel that this child's language expression ability is beyond my imagination, and the obvious gratitude mentality is really a model for my sister and mother to learn!" Mingming is also considered by Mingxin's mother to be the most talkative and emotionally intelligent person in the family. At breakfast, I praised the two children for making great progress in recent times, especially Mingming, who has made great progress. The sister asked in her heart, "Mother, where has my brother made great progress?" ”
I told my sister about my brother's excellent performance when he got up in the morning. The sister also quickly praised the younger brother: "The younger brother is awesome! ”
Just like that, I had a great morning and morning with the kids.
At noon, I shouted to beat my back, and my heart was happy to run to my side, just about to prepare the hammer, but at this time, Ming ming also came to my side, silently blocked in front of my sister, rushing to beat my mother's back, I subconsciously felt that MingMing was small, and the hammer was not good, so I said to Mingming: "Baby, you stay on the side, let your sister hammer." "Who knows, not only did he not listen, but he deliberately did not leave. Still in front of my sister. At this time, I shouted to the heart to come to the bedroom hammer, hoping that the little guy would not bother us again, who knows, this little guy followed us like a little tail - can't shake it off. Still in front of her sister and beating her mother's back. His sister took the opportunity to hammer twice, and he also angrily hit his sister twice.
I saw that I obviously didn't understand things like this, so I scolded mingming that I shouldn't be rude, and the little guy saw that I was angry, and I was reprimanded, and all of a sudden I cried. He also said grievously: "My mother doesn't like me anymore." ”
How can a child be like this? I have always been sensible, and I was overwhelmed by my unreasonable performance this time.
In the evening, after the child went to sleep, I flipped through the parent-child education book "Positive Discipline" that I recently bought, and saw a sentence that made me feel even more that I was doing something wrong in the matter of beating my back, and I did not take care of the feeling of taking care of the child.
The book says: Children are disobedient because children need a sense of worth and belonging. In the matter of beating my back, I only gave the opportunity to enhance the sense of value and belonging to my heart, and I did not take into account the psychological feelings of Mingming, no wonder he was unreasonable to make trouble, it turned out that he wanted to earn a sense of value and belonging from his mother.
If I had believed him at that time, given the child the opportunity to show his full performance, I believe that the child would be just as polite.
There is no poor teaching of children, only parents who cannot teach, it seems that this sentence is not unreasonable.
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