The child is "diagnosed with autism."
● Some parents will think that this "diagnosis" may be temporary, and that the child is still young and will become better when he grows up.
As everyone knows, it is precisely because of this idea that the children's situation is not taken seriously.
● When some parents learn that their children are special children, they are either shocked, sad, or self-blamed, thinking that they must have done something wrong to make their children become like this, drowning themselves in helplessness and guilt.
In fact, although the cause of autism is still unknown, it is definitely not a punishment from heaven, and it is also related to the lack of care and care time after the birth of the child, let alone the need to blame the husband and wife for each other, thinking that it is caused by the inheritance of the family.
What is more important at present is how to work together to help children and how to face the problem of children's upbringing. Here are some suggestions we might as well try:
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Jump out of the rigid cognition of autism
As a parent, it is inevitable to find that your child has autism and sadness, but after grief, you must get out of the haze in time and bravely face reality. No one knows how to deal with all this at the beginning, and in the face of a hurdle called "autism", we have to cross it together.
First, all we can do is acknowledge the stress and status quo we are experiencing right now. Think of it as a diversity of life, even a unique gift from Heaven.
At the same time, it is necessary to understand this symptom, but it cannot be limited to our current scientific understanding. In some ways, our current cognition is too solidified and rigid.
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Discover the characteristics of your child
The child is unique, you can't limit him with ready-made concepts, but create a new idea, a new perspective.
Observe your own child and understand his uniqueness.
At the same time, we need to rationally develop a rehabilitation plan for the child, so that we can focus on the lack of training in the child's core.
This plan can be divided into short, medium and long term, which is conducive to maintaining confidence, but also can be done without chaos, maintain the continuity and stability of training.
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Try to interact with your children more in life
Autistic children are less able to endure setbacks, so teach a new skill, first find the part he will, first give him a sense of accomplishment, and then teach step by step.
For improving the stereotypical behavior of autistic children, try to help him find things he is interested in, use other activities or toys to attract his attention, do not let him do nothing, lest he feel too bored and repeat the same action all the time.
In addition, making these repetitive actions meaningful is also one of the ways to improve stereotyped behavior.
For example: If your child likes to spin things, you can teach him to play with a gyroscope; if your child likes to shake his body, you can play music and let him swing his body with the music in different ways.
If the child is accompanied by communication obstacles, when encountering setbacks or unpleasant things, it is easy to express in the way of crying or self-harm, so he should usually observe more things he likes to divert his attention, and more importantly, help him express in any way, find out the reason for crying, and understand his emotions.
Children usually do not like to actively contact people, so it is important to use various opportunities to let him have more contact and interaction with his siblings or other neighbor children, and you can find some activities or games that he is interested in to attract him and increase his interaction with others.
Children suffer from autism, and the saddest thing is the parents.
For the growth of a child, the role of parents is very important. Parents' expectations, requirements, educational methods, and educational mentality all directly affect the growth of children.
How parents' educational mentality actually determines the future development direction of our children. I hope our parents can cheer up and keep hopeful!