Introduction: Although most people now have some understanding of children's autism, when they really encounter autistic children, they often can't avoid some strange ideas and attitudes. Even, some people have some stereotypes about autistic children, and it is difficult to have some bad prejudices and incomprehensions.
Before a friend of the editor met a child casually took his own things, she subconsciously felt that she had met a "bear child", and then the child's mother came to apologize, saying that her child had "autism" and would not ask herself like this. Friends are very suspicious of this, will children with inferiority complex take things from strangers?
Here, the first thing that Xiaobian needs to make clear is that in children who have not established enough awareness of property rights, whether they have autism or not, there will be a situation of taking other people's things at will. Because children do not understand the behavior rules of "things cannot be taken randomly" at the beginning, and every child will take other people's things with their own behavioral motivations.
Therefore, here we can briefly understand the fact that autistic children take things from strangers at random, and what are the reasons for this:
1. Children have personal needs and desires
Children will take other people's things at will, then the initial motivation and thought is "I want", so they will satisfy themselves in the way they know. Similarly, the "self-inflicted" of autistic children is also based on the premise of such a need and desire, and being able to take things is equivalent to having a need.
Under normal circumstances, if we want to meet our own needs, we often have to go through a set of conventional rules of behavior, such as you want something, you can get it through the way of purchase, you can also ask the other party if you can take it, and we can take it after the other party approves it. However, for children with autism, they tend to be more direct in meeting their own needs.
2, children have stereotyped behavior
We will find that autistic children can't teach in many things, and after many years of education, they will still behave in their own way. This is not only because the child does not have enough "property rights" cognition, but also because some of the child's repetitive, difficult to change behavior is an important manifestation of stereotyped behavior in autism.
In the world of autistic children, there is also their own set of comfortable rules of behavior and cognition of the world, once these things are disrupted, the child will become irritable and painful. Therefore, children will use constant repetitive behavior to maintain their inner sense of order, so in the mind of autistic children, something, or its own behavior, is a need to maintain a sense of order.
There is no other way to change this situation, only through continuous practice, continuous repetition of prompts and education, so that this or that kind of material rights consciousness beyond the surface cognitive memory, and into the child's subconscious. Let the child form a habitual thinking, and when they have a need for other people's items again in the future, they can learn to ask others first, and then take it after obtaining permission.
In our daily lives, after understanding children's autism, we should also give them more tolerance and understanding, because this is not that they are "impolite" or the so-called "knowingly committing crimes", but that children have really not yet learned our way of behaving. Things that are easy for us to imitate are often huge chasms that are difficult to cross for children with autism.
Therefore, we can't be too prejudiced against such things, which can easily cause harm to autistic children and families.
Important: Before establishing a sufficient sense of property rights, all children will have the behavior of taking other people's things casually, and this is not only in autistic children. And autistic children will take things, but also have their own certain needs and desires, and will be affected by their own stereotyped behavior, we need to give more tolerance and understanding, do not hold too much prejudice.
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