In the world of the autistic, understanding is the most appropriate companion.
Many people may think that autistic children look strange or have a lot of confusion, but today, I want to share with you two books" "I want to fly into the sky" and "Children who watch the wind, thank you for fulfilling me", written for children who want to understand the stars.
"I Want to Fly into the Sky", the perspective of autistic children themselves
The author of this book, Naoki Higashida, was born in Chiba Prefecture, Japan in 1992, was diagnosed with severe autism at the age of 5, wrote this book at the age of 13, won the Future Dream Award at the 21st Century Future Expo, and has been widely reported on by Japan's NHK, and he himself has been insisting on writing and speaking out for the autistic community.
The author of the painting of this book, Zhang Han (Dabao), a native of Nanjing, was diagnosed with autism at the age of 3 and began to paint at the age of 5, and more than ten years of rehabilitation training and the patient teaching of his parents have made great changes in his life.
This book records a total of 58 questions about autism, and Naoki Higashida presents them in the form of questions and answers from his own point of view, telling us one behavior after another that we seem not to understand, which is very easy to read, and we will also find that the heart of an autistic child is quite rich.
The American "Cox Review of Books" commented: Naoki Higashida gives people a glimpse of his heart as an autistic child, as long as it is a person who tries to understand autism, he will be very grateful for the existence of this book.
1. How does Naoki Higashida view autism?
When he was very young, he didn't know he was a special child, he only learned it from other people's mouths, and of course he was lucky that his parents taught him to use a computer.
"Although people with autism are physiologically similar to other people, they are actually different in many ways," he said. We were more like travelers from the distant past. ”
When asked, do you want to be normal? He put it this way: "I have realized that every individual human being needs to work hard, whether flawed or not, and only in the process of struggle will you find happiness." ”
2) Say something about some common questions about people with autism
Q: Why do you always move around?
A: In fact, when you are not moving, you will be more restless, and if you move, you will be more relaxed. However, the people around us do not understand, always moving around will make them think that we are very irritable, but also in the words of the people around us gradually perceive that there are some occasions we should not move.
Q: Why is there no eye contact when talking?
A: Making eye contact with the person you're talking to can make you feel uncomfortable, so try to avoid eye contact. And the attention will be focused on the voice of the other person,trying to understand what the other person is saying.
Q: Why do children with autism often cover their ears?
A: Because some noises that we ordinary people don't notice can cause trouble to autistic children, these noises may make them afraid, or lose their sense of orientation and be overwhelmed, so covering their ears is to regain a sense of orientation. However, they are also struggling to adapt.
Q: Why did you get lost from your home?
A: Because the body has been attracted to something in the outside world, it has walked out, and it will always go, and it cannot go back, otherwise it will feel that it will slowly cease to exist.
Q: Why do you keep repeating an action?
A: It seems that the brain constantly sends the same instructions, and when it is repeated, the mood will be very happy and very gratifying. And the brain is always directing itself to do things, whether you like it or not.
And why are your expressions so limited, why do you like to go in circles, why do you like to stay in the water, why do you want to jump? Why do you always have to run away suddenly? There are answers in this book.
"The Child Who Watches the Wind, Thank You for Fulfilling Me", from the perspective of a mother of an autistic child
The author, Goya, has been the editor-in-chief of Chongqing's "New Women's Daily" for 11 years and has published 3 column collections. Her child, Huowa, was diagnosed with an autism spectrum when she was more than two years old.
For various reasons, divorce, taking children to live in Dali, one day, she was asking the children by the window, what do you see? Huowa said, I saw the wind, she was very happy, perhaps, the title of the book comes from this.
This book tells the story of myself and the autistic child from the perspective of a mother, and I am of course very touched by the part of being a mother, how to reconcile with myself.
If it weren't for the child, she said, she might still be in the Chongqing newspaper to discuss the pressure of promotion and consider the relationship with colleagues, but because of the child, this has all changed.
She said that parents of ordinary children want their children to be admitted to Harvard or something, while autistic parents only hope that their children can live on their own. Let me talk about a few touching points:
1, compared with "everything for children", adults must first meet their own needs, so that their hearts are smooth and stable, otherwise companionship is just pressure.
2. "I prefer to use special children/special needs children" to replace "abnormal children" and "lead/lead" instead of intervention. However, some parents always regard the difference of their children as a problem, and when the child has emotions, they should reflect more on whether their parenting methods need to be changed.
3, do not let the child feel, "I am a waste, I drag you down", autistic children are very sensitive in their hearts, he can feel, but will not express.
4, about the second child, Huowa's father wants a normal child, so he especially wants a second child, and the mother believes that in an irresponsible attitude to have a second child in order to have a "normal" second child, this is an escape.
This story is a mother's love and persistence, I am particularly guilty, guilty that I am obviously very lucky, but when raising children is still so harsh.
Best wishes.
I am Midsummer Shuxiang, the mother of a 5-year-old boy, who has not read books for ten years after graduation, because of the child, I have picked up books again and have been active in the field of parenting.
Here, there is no lofty parenting theory, just some sincere sharing since I became a mother; every stroke is an account of my past self; I feel that the article has gained, and you are welcome to like and share it with good friends.