The author | Dong Lin Fu
The United Nations General Assembly has designated April 2 as the "World Autism Awareness Day", and on this special day, I want to say something for these "angels from the stars".
Everyone comes to this world with their own mission, although the conditions of birth are different, but every life deserves to be respected.
I know a parent of an autistic child, her name is Ruoyun, and she told me that people often say to her: "With a sick and stupid child, don't want to turn over for a lifetime." ”
At first, ruoyun would also be sad and tearful when he heard such cool words, but the days would go on, as a parent, the love for the child was the same. Whether the child is smart and clever, or seriously ill, they are the blood of the parents, carrying the expectations and love of the parents, Ruoyun said, no matter what kind of child the son is, she and her husband will love the child unconditionally.
1. Parents of autistic children will not lose any love for their children.
Since the child was diagnosed with autism by doctors at the age of 2, Ruoyun quit her high-paying editorial job, and she and her husband have a clear division of labor: she is responsible for taking care of the children at home and taking the children to rehabilitation institutions for treatment, and her husband is responsible for earning money to support the family.
Unlike many families, because with such a special child, the relationship between Ruoyun and her husband is closer. The couple runs their little home in great unity in order to make the child as rehabilitated as possible, to allow the child to live like a normal person.
Doctors say that 2 to 6 years old is a critical period for autistic children to intervene, and if autistic children are over 6 years old and then intervene to treat them, the effect will be much worse.
After more than ten years of hard work, Ruoyun's son's autism is much milder, basically able to study with students in ordinary schools, the grades belong to the middle and upper grades, and it should not be a problem to study in the future and work and live independently like normal people.
Among them, Ruoyun and her husband's dedication to their children, the sweat and tears shed countless times.
But Ruoyun said that as the parent of an autistic child, she is lucky, the child's autism is mild, the husband has a sense of responsibility, and does not abandon the family, because having such a son has aroused the husband's professionalism, over the years, the husband's career has been successful, and the family conditions belong to the well-off level.
In turn, Ruoyun's husband is also full of gratitude to his wife. He thanked Ruoyun for giving up his thriving career for the child, for the family, and was willing to take care of his son at home full-time and raise his son so well.
Ruoyun and his wife made me deeply appreciate the meaning of a sentence: husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken.
More than ten years have passed, many friends around them have divorced because of the expansion of the mentality of the rich couple at home, there are also because they can't make money, the poor couple is divorced, and only ruoyun couple, in the face of an imperfect son, the husband and wife have a clear division of labor, face the dilemma, whether in spirit or materially, they have lived out their glory, and the children have developed to a better and better state.
Life is a practice, and you can accept everything you encounter and find a way to resolve it. The bittersweet and bittersweet of life have been tasted one by one, and it is a complete life. Without running away, without complaining, indifferently facing difficulties and working 100% hard, I admire Ruoyun and his wife's attitude towards family, life and autistic son.
2. Autistic children need social understanding and help.
No one can decide where they come from. Autistic children, also known as "children from the stars", are angels with broken wings and live in their own world, but they are more independent individuals who deserve to be respected and helped.
Wang Ji's son was born in 1993 and is now almost 30 years old, but his intelligence is similar to that of a 6-year-old child. Wang Ji's son looks 1 meter 8 tall, quite handsome, but unfortunately suffers from autism and intellectual disability.
Since the child was found sick at the age of 1, Wang Ji's family tried their best to treat their son and spent a lot of money, but the effect was not obvious.
Wang Ji has repeatedly said in public that she is most relieved by this son. Wang Ji even said that the parents of autistic children like her are a group of parents who are "dead and blind", because they are afraid that after they are gone, there will be no one to take care of their children.
I remember once Wang Ji said in an interview that if one day she was gone, if her son could eat a scrambled egg with tomatoes, she would be satisfied.
This sentence makes people cry, and vividly interprets the old mother's love and deep sense of helplessness for her autistic child.
As a well-known actor, Wang Ji's family conditions are particularly good, and we also believe that Wang Ji's daughter will take good care of her brother, but Wang Ji is still worried about what to do with her autistic son after a hundred years.
Ordinary people's families are even more helpless if they have autistic children. Therefore, we call on children with autism to be discriminatory, let alone ridiculed, and to help autistic children and help autistic families out of difficulties within their own capabilities.
According to the Blue Book of the "Report on the Development of China's Autism Education and Rehabilitation Industry II" released on December 3, 2016, the existing autistic population in China exceeds 10 million and is increasing at a rate of at least 200,000 per year.
While we are looking forward to more developed medicine and better treatment for autistic children, we also call on everyone in society to give more understanding, care and help to autistic children and autistic families.
3. Children with autism at home can also live optimistically, happily and strongly.
I was once "teased" and "laughed" by the words of an autistic child's father, and this father was Cai Chun Pig.
Cai Chun Pig's son is called Xihe, when he was more than 2 years old, he was diagnosed with autism, and since then, the life trajectory of Cai Chun Pig and his wife has undergone earth-shaking changes, and Cai Chun Pig has also written a book for his son "Daddy Loves Xihe".
When his son was diagnosed with autism, Cai Chun pig wrote: Your father is out of shape, crying while driving, and the image he has established for more than thirty years is not easy! That day was ruined.
Your father repeated these words as he drove: "Oh my God, why are you doing this to me?" What did I do wrong? "Your grandmother's lips were tightly closed, she didn't say a word, and she hugged you tightly, as if to prevent me from throwing you out of the window."
Your mother didn't cry, she didn't cry because she was stronger than your father, and the space in the car was too small for one person to cry. As soon as your father's crying stopped, your mother continued, so smoothly and naturally. Is this the long-lost "seamless crying" on the rivers and lakes?
This passage truly reflects the sadness and helplessness of the whole family after the child was diagnosed with autism. Although Cai Chun Pig is humorous and tries to tell the reader about the big things at home, he still makes people cry after reading.
Now that more than ten years have passed, although his son Xihe has brought a lot of "shocks" to the family, as Cai Chun pig said, his life has not changed much, the child is going to school, and he has been doing what he likes.
Father and son get along, although they are slightly different from normal children, they also enjoy the joy and beautiful family life between parents and children.
Of course, this does not affect Cai Chun pig and his wife Ai Xihe and Xihe living happily under the nourishment of love.
As a parent of an autistic child, accept the child, face the positive reality, and face life optimistically, life will not be too bad.