Not long ago, the girlfriend posted a picture in the circle of friends, first look at this picture
Inside the house, it was as if it had just been robbed.
The girlfriend's blood pressure suddenly rises, and every time she sees the messy appearance in the living room, she will be breathed to chest tightness and shortness of breath.
She said in the circle of friends: Is there a baby of the same model? Is there any way to get them to clean up the house?
As a result, in her comments here are something like this:
A-model Mommy: Exactly the same as my family, I used a word - "roar", the children saw my "Hedong lion roar", their hearts were scared, and they began to obediently clean up. B-type Mommy: After I came home from work every day, I was so tired that I couldn't catch my breath, and the bear child not only made a mess of the house, but also made the wardrobe at home like a "chicken coop", I went straight up and beat it... C Mommy: My work of 24 a day is to accompany the baby, so I am used to it, and when the children fall asleep, I will slowly clean up the "battlefield" by myself.
Do the mothers feel that they are also the "victims" of them? The bear children who littered with things gave moms a headache.
And subconsciously believe that children throwing things away is a "bad problem" and must be stopped immediately.
In fact, the mothers only see the "naughty and mischievous" side of the child, but they do not know that the child loves to throw things when he is young, which is actually the sensitive period of action. Mothers should not stop blindly, learn to observe the child, understand the child's true thoughts, and protect the child's curiosity.
The sensitive period of action generally lasts from birth to about 6 years of age.
The baby begins to suck and grasp from birth, followed by sitting, climbing, standing, walking and other actions. They slowly learn to control their bodies and constantly explore more movements and postures. This helps with its limb development and brain development, allowing your baby to become smarter and smarter.
My family's second treasure recently especially love to throw things, every time I pick him up, and throw it again, I pick it up again, often a move we have to repeat more than twenty times, he laughs haha, I bitter haha. In this iterative process, the child not only reaps the pleasure, but also exercises motor development, including large muscles and small muscles.
Children love to throw things around, what is the reason? After understanding the reason, my mother couldn't bear to stop it
Reason one: The child is learning about the outside world
Children before the age of 3, full of curiosity about the world, they are eager to understand everything in the world, when children are playing with a toy, they usually not only touch with their hands, but will bite with their teeth, use oral touch to "recognize" objects, hit with their hands, and even throw them out hard, these behaviors, are children in the understanding of the world, they will improve their sense of touch, smell, taste, etc. through these ways, which will promote the development of children's cognitive ability, they understand the toys that have been broken, What kind of consequences will occur, by throwing away toys to understand the laws of the world.
Reason two: The child is exercising his fine movements
Fine movement refers to the movement of small muscles or small muscle groups in parts such as hands and fingers, and it is very simple for adults to throw toys out, but for children with imperfect development of fine movements, it takes "a lot of effort" to complete.
When a child around 1 year old picks up a relatively small toy, he needs "hand-eye coordination" to pinch things up, and then throw things out forcefully through the strength of his arms and fingers. When a child completes a task, the child's brain receives "new stimuli" that help the child gain a sense of accomplishment and promote brain development to become more confident.
Reason three: The child is regulating his emotions
Children have their own "emotions" from birth, and when they are hungry, they will cry, when they see their mother, they will dance with their hands, and when they meet strangers, they will be nervous.
Therefore, "emotion" is the baby's bridge to explore the external world, when the baby is unhappy, they can only express their dissatisfaction by "throwing toys" due to imperfect language ability. They originally did not mean to destroy the toy, but just wanted to attract the attention of their parents by throwing the toy.
What should we do in the face of children throwing things around?
Provide a safe and comfortable environment for children
Montessori once said: As long as a free environment is prepared to match the development stage of children's lives, children's spirits and secrets will spontaneously appear.
Children before the age of 3, the body is still developing rapidly, they not only learned to walk, but also learned more complex actions, such as carrying, tapping, building blocks, etc., they need a comfortable and safe environment, in order to meet their desire to explore, such as designing a "children's dollhouse" for children alone, can let children play in a safe environment, "do whatever they want", let children learn to "use their brains", promote their healthy growth.
But it can't be limited to a small space, so that children can actively choose a place to play.
When children play, the most important point is safety first. Children before the age of 3, like to stuff small parts into the mouth, Bo Mama's small treasure, 19 months, every time he let him play alone, he will "specifically pick up some special small items" in the mouth to taste, at this time, Bo Mama will use more novel toys, and Xiao Bao exchange things in the mouth, must not shout loudly, so as not to swallow the child, danger.
Therefore, parents try not to let babies under 3 years old play alone, after all, the baby's life safety is the most important.
Play throwing toys as a "game"
When a child throws toys all over the floor, most parents will think that the child "does not know how to cherish toys" and create more housework for the mother, so they want to stop the child's behavior immediately. At this time, the mother can't help but ask the child, "Baby, why did you throw away the toy?" ”
If your child is emotionally stable and finds it fun to throw toys. Then, the mother should cooperate with the baby, throw away the toy, and then throw it to the baby, so that the "throwing toy" becomes a "parent-child game", finally, the mother can find a large box, throw all the toys inside, the baby will also learn the mother, throw the toy into it, over time, the baby not only in the toy when throwing, get happy, but also slowly learn to clean up the toy.
If the child is more irritable and deliberately throws away the toy, the mother does not have to stop the child immediately. Mom can try to say, "Baby, are you feeling a little unhappy now?" "Children usually ignore their mothers, mothers should be more patient, and do a good job of demonstration, for example, pick up a toy, throw it in mid-air, and then catch it," Let's play together to eliminate the "big monster", appropriately guide the child to vent his emotions, and let the child gradually learn to adjust his emotions.
Children throw things is a process that must be experienced in growth and development, smart parents will not immediately stop children from throwing things, but use "throwing things" to exercise children's fine movements, help children learn to regulate emotions, and let children lose more and more smart.
If your child "threw toys" at home, would you stop it?
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