preface:
A clean and innocent relationship is the real support of friendship, and only by knowing how to divide inches, maintain boundaries, keep distance, and not cross boundaries can this true friendship be long and precious. Without a certain sense of boundaries, the ending will not be too good.
Everyone comes to earth hoping to meet their "soul mate". Born lonely, the most feared is that there is no one around who is in touch with their own hearts, at this time, friendship is a very important emotion in a person's life.
Friendship itself is a particularly deserving emotion in life. But when the friendship is two opposite sexes, then the relationship becomes somewhat sensitive. It is necessary to grasp the scale and spatial distance, otherwise it is easy to produce ambiguous relationships.
The most frightening thing between the opposite sex is that you understand her pretense and reservedness, and he understands your non-division of thoughts.
Therefore, in the relationship between the opposite sex, if you want to maintain a precious friendship, you should grasp the boundaries between each other. Any ambiguous behavior will eventually only cause the loss of the relationship, and the gain will not be worth the loss.
The so-called ambiguous relationship: above friendship, lovers are not enough.
When two members of the opposite sex not only trust each other and talk about the pain of life, but instead begin to enjoy the joy and romance brought by this emotion, it shows that the two people have crossed the line and become ambiguous, resulting in the inability to be normal friends.
Therefore, when interacting with the opposite sex, we must maintain a good spatial distance in order to maintain a long-term friendship relationship.
In real life, because of the trust and dependence between friends, they will make each other more and more in tune with each other, more and more at ease. Then do not plan this pure friendship as a confidant, a girlfriend of a man and a woman, and even when they are together, words and deeds, details, and eye contact will have an impact on each other's relationship.
Therefore, the opposite sex between the interaction, do not have the following 5 ambiguous behaviors, otherwise it is easy to cross the line, and finally develop into an ambiguous relationship, if coupled with some scenes, it will make the two people finally break the last layer of window paper.
The most beautiful thing in the world is to meet a person who makes him feel at ease, has a sharp heart, and is happy and happy.
However, when accompanying each other, a comfortable distance and a basis of trust should be maintained.
When two friends of the opposite sex take chatting as their daily habits, and thus bring a great sense of satisfaction and excitement, over time, they will chat with each other as a habit, a dependence.
Since then, inexplicably paying attention to the information and caller ID of the mobile phone, inexplicably waiting for the other party, inexplicably just want to contact him immediately.
Even the two people have established a tacit understanding of the concept of time. Whether it's asking each other at mealtime, saying goodnight, or reminding each other to wear thick clothes and bring an umbrella in rainy weather. It seems like a simple concern and chat, but this content has made each other feel cared for and favored.
So if you break the connection for a few hours, you will become unruly, you will also worry about what happened to the other party, worry about the safety of the other party, worry about whether the other party is sick, so do everything absent-mindedly, just want to contact each other immediately, small understand what happened to the other party?
Such performance and chatting habits have obviously crossed the line, not only to see the other party as very important, but the other party has penetrated into their own lives.
This kind of no triviality in life, no cumbersome oil, salt sauce and vinegar tea, no conflict of positions, as if it is a pleasant feeling, from then on obsessed with contact, just want to know what the other party is thinking, what to do. I even want to hear the other person's heart.
Such frequent contact is actually an ambiguous relationship, so it is easy to cause unnecessary trouble and easy to cross the line.
Whether single or married, if there is no sense of boundaries in the interaction with the opposite sex, it will be easy to lose measure, hurt yourself and hurt your partner from then on.
As the name suggests, everyone has their own personal items that are used to.
For example, water cups, many people are not used to their own water cups being used by others, and feel that there is an inexplicable sense of depression in their hearts, unless they are the closest people can share them.
In normal intercourse, there is certainly no private property of the other party, there is no such mind, and the other party is not allowed. However, when two people share personal belongings, and the heart rejoices, even like sharing personal belongings.
Well, the relationship between these two people is already very ambiguous.
They have become accustomed to each other's breath and even think that sharing personal belongings can bring a special emotion.
It's clear that they've gone beyond a certain friendship. If it is not necessary for friends of the opposite sex to use each other's personal belongings with each other, then it is not a good thing for both parties.
Such behavior and behavior can clearly feel that it has exceeded the normal range of friendship, but it still will not end such behavior immediately.
In the end, it is nothing more than no measure and boundaries, no distance and space, emotional deterioration, causing irreparable harm.
At the beginning of many feelings, to be able to judge whether the other party is sincere to themselves, you only need to distinguish a person's eyes.
The eyes are the windows of the soul, and through a person's eyes, it is often possible to see the truest thoughts and emotions in his heart.
It's a feeling of empathy, and if friends of the opposite sex get along, eye contact is the easiest way to communicate with each other. Well, the relationship between the two people has been blurred.
When one party will always look at the other party tenderly, and the other party does not refuse such tenderness, but some are embarrassed, some shy, and dare not look directly into each other's eyes. I am very nervous in my heart, afraid that the other party will catch my shortcomings, but I hope that the other party will always pay attention to me. Such behavior has already belonged to an ambiguous relationship, and even produced an infinite reverie and fantasy, setting off ripples in emotion.
Such an ambiguous relationship, but the lack of an opportunity, the lack of a fueling scene, it is easy to make such a relationship become complicated, and even some entanglement.
This requires reminding friends of the opposite sex in life, do not often stare at each other with affectionate eyes, if it is a normal friendship relationship, no one will notice these details, but if there is already ambiguous feelings in the heart, the heart will naturally not be calm.
Interactions between the opposite sex must have principles, distances, boundaries, and learn to avoid suspicion in order to maintain true friendship for a long time.
In daily life, we often say: Brothers and sisters settle accounts.
This is a very realistic way of life, unless couples are financially inseparable from each other because they live together.
Between friends of the opposite sex, it is normal to have economic exchanges, it is to help each other, it is to save each other's emergency, but it is not a good and unlimited economic exchange, and each other does not count, even if they try to do all kinds of ways for each other, they must support.
Among friends, it is normal to have financial assistance. But not too often, not even ever.
The opposite sex can help, but it must be measured, not never rejecting each other, and always considering each other.
When the other party returns, it will not accept it, and feels that the relationship between the two people is too deep, and there is no need to calculate the account.
But we know that money is a good thing, but in the face of money, some relationships will deteriorate and become sensitive. If the two sides always have economic exchanges, or even do not count returns, such a relationship can easily be affected.
It is also possible that some unnecessary behavior will arise because of economic exchanges. Let the other party always remember your goodness and rely on your goodness, so as to treat this goodness as a kind of hazy love.
It is also possible that it is not an ambiguous relationship, but a utilization relationship in the real society, then it is doomed to have no sincerity, just a scene, and eventually affect the real friendship relationship.
No matter how good friends of the opposite sex are, they do not maintain a certain distance, cannot easily have physical contact, and cannot say some ambiguous words, thus causing misunderstandings by others and giving each other a vague feeling.
When one party is in trouble, the other should lend a helping hand to the other.
However, when helping each other, the two people are always alone and always pay attention to each other's words and deeds. Once the other person has some emotions or some words out of control, they will give the other party a hug or touch their head, or always promise the other person: don't be afraid, there I am.
In fact, between friends of the opposite sex, there are things to say, there are difficulties to help, there is no need to always pay attention to each other to an umbrella, protect each other, and always appear as the protagonist, a sentence with me has already contained more emotions, but also beyond the friendship between friends.
Similar to having me, paying attention to each other, the physical contact between the two people is more frequent, and it has been proved that the relationship has been ambiguous. If the other party does not refuse, indulges the other party's excessive behavior, indulges the gentle words of the other party, and even all this is what is expected in their hearts, do not respond, do not refuse. Just silent acceptance.
This is also the reason why many heterosexual relationships cannot go to the end and cannot persist for a long time. It is nothing more than no measure, physical contact is intimate, and the language is ambiguous, resulting in a relationship that cannot be normal.
summary:
For such ambiguous behavior, whether it is others or oneself, it is obvious. So don't say you can't feel it, and don't think it's just a friendship relationship, after all, it's just yourself deceiving yourself.
For the opposite sex, once the distance and boundary between normal friends are exceeded, even a slight transgression can be immediately captured, because the relationship between the opposite sex is too sensitive.
Therefore, if you want to maintain a friendship relationship, cherish the hard-won friendship. Do not easily have the above five ambiguous relationships, even if you accidentally have one of them, you must learn to refuse, learn to remind each other with words, so as to correct this ambiguous behavior and behavior in time.
Especially when both parties have their own partners or marriages, it is more important to pay attention to the relationship and distance between the opposite sex. Don't hurt your family and partner, and don't let other people talk about it.
Whether a relationship is ambiguous depends on whether both parties know the measure, understand the advance and retreat, and keep a distance.
And between heterosexual relationships, the most important thing is that there can be no lending relationship, and the money relationship is often the most difficult to integrate and the most realistic.