Wang Yiru in "The Journey of No Confusion" is born well, his appearance is high, his father is the principal, and he has also gained a self-righteous love marriage because of his family situation, after all, Malevin wants to get the feelings of this princess, and must have paid a different kind of warmth. But the ideal is very happy, the reality is very cruel, and the woman whose marriage has failed has a mental breakdown and even suffers from mental illness.
Later, after the woman was treated, her mental state gradually improved, and what she most hoped for was to get forgiveness from her husband and forgive herself for the mistakes she had made in cheating. In the face of the repeated proximity of his ex-wife, the man is driven by a sense of responsibility and has more scruples about his former father-in-law, so he has been in a state of avoidance.
Wang Yiru said that Malevin is still the same as ten years ago, running to the study as soon as he encounters something, or even staying in the company directly without going home. From the woman's accusations, it is not difficult to imagine how a woman like Wang Yiru, who is extremely eager for love, can withstand the snub and loneliness in the emotional relationship.
Wang Yiru cheated and made a big mistake, and the stains on his body naturally could not be washed away, but the culprit who caused all this was actually the "good man" Malevin, who seemed to be a victim.
Those who looked gentle, tolerant, calm, and gentlemanly in his body were like a blunt knife, consuming the love of the woman, consuming the feelings of the two, and finally parting ways. A man like Malevin is the devil in the relationship, he needs to borrow strength to get closer, after getting it, he wants the other party to cater to himself, can not continue to be a good actor, and has no patience or know how to manage his feelings.
Indifference leads to "cold violence"
Through Mar levin and simple getting along, it can basically be inferred that he is a giant in thought and a dwarf in action.
He can talk about theory, but he can't turn it into practical action. He can recite every passage in the original work with emotion, in addition to liking the work, but also allowing himself to live in the enclosed space of the book.
He was confused by the simple guidance of betrayal, telling her that she should have the courage to resist, and when she encountered problems in simple work and impulsively wanted to leave, a set of big truths blamed her for not growing from failure, and when it was his turn, he did not dare to have any confrontational behavior.
Everyone remembers that Wang Yiru is a woman who longs for love, and meeting Malevin is what she thinks is lucky, but it is also the beginning of misfortune.
Malevin such a poor boy, out of the crowd to be recognized, is too important for him, even if the day is on the right track, the sense of crisis and self-encouragement consciousness can not be stopped, when the man continues to do his best for the cause, naturally can not put his wife in the first place, a lifetime to care for her like a little princess.
But if he can communicate in a more appropriate way, let women experience their situation, maybe the ending will be different, but he always looks down on people and things that he thinks are tacky or childish in a condescending attitude, he feels that there is no need, or that you do not understand, I insist on only completely ignoring his wife's feelings in his own world.
Wang Yiru's needs are not necessarily right, women who love more than the sky are also doomed to their own tragic lives, but men choose the power of women's family situation, they should do a good job of corresponding continuous payment, stepping stones also need to be given back, can not be used later, but let their ladder to cater to themselves.
Wang Yiru wants to live a good life, but wants to live the life she hopes, Malevin wants to live a good life, but pursues the life of his dreams, if the man is not cold treatment, he avoids problems, so that his wife feels that he is snubbed, and having a virtuous wife with taste like Yiru may not be happy.
Malevin is a good "rotten good guy"
Malevin is a "good man", divorced his ex-wife tomorrow morning, but has been shouldering the responsibility of taking care of his wife, even if he bears the name of stealing love, he has not said his marital status, he takes care of the feelings of his children's wives and the people around him, worried that they will be hurt, so he has no complaints even if he has more pain and guilt.
And the assistant at work, Lin Wanrou, also mentioned in the plot that the two people did have deviant behavior, but obviously could not give people a name, but also very regretful afterwards, but still entangled in the relationship, there is no decisive and clear let the woman die.
Such kindness can only make the ex-wife have illusions that there is still a chance to start again, so that the women who can be close to him feel that there will be opportunities to develop in the future, and there is a kind of "kindness" that can only bring harm to more people, whether it is the ex or the future lover.
If you can't let go of the past, if you can't live well in the present, it is naturally difficult to have a good future.
Indecisively dragging mud with water
Malevin and simply put it, he lives in a quagmire and can no longer pull others in.
But his misfortune is not that he has no choice, but that he has too many indecisive concerns about his own character.
He feared hurting his ex-wife, afraid that her spirit would be stimulated and hurt more deeply.
When Wang Yiru and Simple rowing, it can be seen that she is just a simple sick child at the moment, who needs protection and care, and even if the audience looks at it, it will produce a trace of pity and heartache, not to mention that the initiator of this state has the responsibility of Malevin.
At the same time, in addition to his indebtedness to his ex-wife, he was also more jealous of his former father-in-law, looking at the old principal's phone call, Malevin's trembling little appearance, if Wang Yiru was not the daughter of his mentor, I am afraid he would not be so embarrassed.
Malevin cares too much about what others think of him, and he cherishes his hard-won feathers, so he does not dare to bear the possibility of the cost of rebellion.
It is also the man's attitude towards emotional handling, so that after recovering from the disease, Wang Yiru thought that men also had nostalgia for themselves and wanted to restart the feelings and life of the two.
Of course, the daughter is also a factor that he is worried about, after all, Mu Jia is the heart of Malevin, how willing to make her daughter sad and sad.
When his daughter sat in a wheelchair with a leg injury, he was worried about affecting his daughter's health, and after his daughter recovered, he was worried about affecting his child's studies, according to his personality logic, he was afraid that even if the child graduated, he would still worry that his daughter would affect the mood of marriage or the mood of pregnant women.
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Text/Emotional Transit Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.