Recently, after watching a few episodes of "Journey without Confusion" starring Chen Jianbin, in the first three episodes, the biggest impression on me was that it was difficult for adolescent children to ---, I don't know if you have this feeling?
Simple - an excellent teacher in Sichuan County, quit his job and went to Beijing to find his boyfriend. He was introduced to the home of the bookseller "Malevin" to do tutoring work and to take care of his daughter --- Ma Mujia.
Ma Mujia --- a girl full of personality who once broke her leg due to skiing abroad. When He came to this high-end community, he was told by the security guards that three teachers had been kicked out. It can be seen that this little hostess is "difficult", simply came to Malevin's home, and sure enough, Xiao Mujia was not welcome to this new teacher, nor was he friendly, let alone accept her to tutor her homework. Mu Jia saw Simple come in, and immediately pushed the wheelchair into the bedroom, and then turned on the sound of the room sound very loudly, which immediately embarrassed Simple. Simply shocked, in her hometown, she is also a beloved and extremely respected teacher, but here it is not. In addition, she was also surprised to find that Xiao Mujia was a girl in a wheelchair, and the nanny Dong Jie told her that Mu Jia's temper had always been like this, and she had already taken away several teachers.
When he entered the house and saw Mu Jia playing the game intently there, he didn't mean to go to class, so he said, "We don't have a class, let's talk?" Silent and unresponsive. Then simply read to Xiao Jia, just read for a while, Xiao Jia instead memorized in French, contemptuously: "I only read French books", a simple face blindfolded... Not accepting, ignoring, disrespecting...
If you were simple at the time, how would you react mentally?
On Mu Jia's birthday, dad took mom home from the nursing home, and mom specially prepared a table of dishes. But she did not appreciate it, and Mu Jia saw her mother's gift to her, and suddenly fell to the ground, angry and angry... A good family dinner was so noisy!
Here we see a child who is difficult to get close to, I wonder if there is such a child in your home?
I have a deep experience in my heart, that is, when my daughter was in the second year of junior high school, she was also catching up with the "new crown epidemic" and could not go to school, and the state of learning had declined, in this case, she was more laissez-faire. Don't get up, don't finish your homework, let me talk to her, don't listen, you talk too much, you get impatient. We're both like detonators, on the verge of erupting!
One day, war broke out, and we quarreled, and I said a lot of ridicule, and I hit her...
That sleepless night, standing by the window sill, looking out in a daze, tears flowing silently, I hurt her...
The "Ma Dad" and "Ma Ma" in the plot all want to make their children better in their own way, both academically and physically, especially "Ma Ma" wants her daughter to be the way she is in her heart. We have too many expectations for our own children and force a lot of things into them.
But is it really right for us to do that?
When you stand at the next intersection and look back, you find that there are many mistakes, we should no longer love them in the way we think we are right, but should be close to them and see what they need in their hearts...