Many years ago, I heard an extremely touching love story.
A young girl named Lai Min is terminally ill.
After her condition deteriorated rapidly, she was paralyzed in bed, and her boyfriend, who had been in love for many years, abandoned her.
Just when she calmly accepted her tragic fate, the appearance of Ding Yizhou, a classmate at the elementary school table, completely changed her.
A dog, 200 yuan, a wheelchair.
In this way, Ding Yizhou rode a bicycle and pulled a wheelchair with his seriously ill girlfriend to start a romantic journey around China.
The love is separated by mountains and seas, and the mountains and seas can be flat.
Their romantic love story was widely reported by the media, which moved countless netizens to tears.
But now, many years later, the hero of the story says:
"I'm not the good man in the report, there are no good and bad people in this story, only two young people who are unwilling to be calm fall in love, and it has nothing to do with illness."
The real life of Ding Yizhou and Lai Min is far less romantic than the media packaged.
But without the packaging, I think their love is still moving.
Before the onset of the disease, Lai Min never dreamed that her life would need to be redeemed by others.
She is naturally laughing, cheerful and lively.
When she was in school, she was known for her popularity, and many of her classmates were willing to play with her.
After being admitted to college, she talked about a good boyfriend, and the two lived happily and happily.
After graduating, she found a job as a tour guide, and her marriage to her boyfriend began to advance.
If there are no accidents, she will live an ordinary and beautiful life in the future.
But God doesn't fulfill people's wishes.
2014 was a turning point in Lai Min's life.
Her father died in a car accident.
Before Lai Min could recover from the blow, her mother died of a "penguin disease" attack nine days later.
Penguin disease sounds cute, but the reality is cruel.
The disease causes the cerebellum to shrink, making people unbalanced and swaying from side to side like a penguin.
And this disease cannot be cured, only people can die painfully under the torture of illness.
What's even more terrifying is that it's also hereditary.
Lai Min did not escape the catastrophe.
Soon, she noticed that her limbs began to disobey her calls, and sometimes she would fall inexplicably.
When her boyfriend's parents found out, they mercilessly asked them to break up.
The strong opposition from her family, coupled with the fact that her boyfriend did not have the courage to bear the dilemma of marrying her, finally chose to break up.
has been in love for 7 years, but after all, it still can't withstand the cruelty of reality.
This practice is certainly criticized, but this is human nature.
Both parents are dead, he is seriously ill, his boyfriend is gone... Only a dog named Po was with her.
Because of his illness, Lai Min had to quit his job as a tour guide and find a job in telesales.
I only have an income of 800 yuan a month, and my salary pays the rent, so I can't even buy medicine.
The successive blows made Lai Min lose hope in life.
In despair, she left an almost desperate text on QQ:
"What if one day I die?
What would you do without my laughter?
What would you do without me?
Miss me, what do you do? ”
These words may be her farewell to this world.
But just when she was desperate, the god of luck quietly came.
She caught a glimpse of the skylight.
Ding Yizhou, Lai Min's primary school tablemate.
Unlike Lai Min's lively and cheerful childhood, Ding Yizhou was introverted when he was a child and didn't like to study.
As a result, they were paired up with teachers to help them.
"She is different from others, she doesn't dislike me for my poor studies, and she often plays with me."
Lai Min's bright smile was one of the few bright colors in Ding Yizhou's childhood.
The wind blows the treetops, and they are good friends who talk about everything.
But no matter how good the relationship is, it can't withstand the distance of space.
After graduating from junior high school, they went their separate ways.
Ding Yizhou experienced the divorce of his parents, his grades declined, and finally chose to drop out of school.
During the confusion stage, he worked as a waiter in a restaurant and also worked in sales.
Later, he began to learn hairdressing.
It wasn't until I became a hairdresser that my job stabilized.
He earned about 10,000 yuan a month and bought a house in Liuzhou.
During this period, he fell in love several times, but each time it ended in nothing.
I have a girlfriend who is talking about marriage, and the marriage house has been bought, but the conversation collapsed.
With an attitude of indifference to the future, he shuttled from bar to bar after work, and even had sex with twenty or thirty women.
Before meeting Lai Min again, he had nothing to do with the good man in the report.
By chance, he saw that desperate sentence in Lai Min's space.
This shocked Ding Yizhou.
The impression of Lai Min is a lively and cheerful girl.
He didn't know what the other party had gone through to say such a thing.
Out of curiosity, he contacted Laimin.
When he learned about the other party's experience, Ding Yizhou's mood was indescribable.
"She's so miserable, it's as miserable as the screenwriter of an idol drama made it up!"
Ding Yizhou, who was stunned, decided to go to Nanning to visit Lai Min.
How can the goodwill of the student period be maintained for more than 20 years.
At that time, Ding Yizhou's idea was very simple.
"I'm doing well now, and for my old classmates, I can help if I can."
Before going, he thought that he could help as much as possible, that is, to send his old classmates to a nursing home for one or two thousand a month.
But ideas can never keep up with change.
When I met Lai Min, she lived in a rental house of more than ten square meters, with a small space, and she had to fall several times every time she went downstairs.
Every month's salary is not enough to buy medicine.
Despite this, she still showed a big smile on the day the two met.
This bright smile has a strong contrast with her current life situation, which has brought a lot of impact to Ding Yizhou.
On the way home, he felt genuinely sorry for the other party.
"She's a girl, what will she do with her next life?
Both of her parents have died, there is no one to take care of her, and her condition is getting worse day by day. ”
Ding Yizhou decided to take her away.
When they met again, he didn't give Lai Min a chance to choose, packed up her things, and even took the dog "in one litter".
He took Lai Min back to the three-bedroom apartment he had bought for marriage.
At that time, the two were still friends, and no one pierced through a layer of window paper.
Ding Yizhou goes to work early and returns late, and Lai Min is responsible for cooking and cleaning at home.
After dinner, the two took a walk together.
Sometimes Lai Min's shoelaces are open, and he will habitually squat down to help her tie them.
At first, helping Lai Min was out of kindness, but after a long time, Ding Yizhou's mind changed.
Lai Min didn't seem to rely on him much, but bought his own vegetables and cooked, optimistic.
"I have a very wild personality.
She is the kind of person who is strong and gentle at the same time, soft in everything, even strong is soft. ”
One drunken night, the two establish a relationship.
Ding Yizhou decided to raise her in the name of her husband.
After Ding's mother found out, she only felt that her son was crazy and actually provoked a sick woman.
In order to oppose this relationship, Ding's mother even threatened to sever the mother-son relationship with him.
But this time, Lai Min didn't lose.
Because Ding Yizhou chose her without any hesitation.
At this point, the relationship between mother and child once fell to the freezing point.
It wasn't until the story of Ding Yizhou and Lai Min was constantly reported, and the neighbors praised her for having a good son, that Ding's mother's attitude changed.
In order to treat Lai Min, Ding Yizhou took out his savings of 300,000 yuan.
But it didn't work very well.
It wasn't until later that Lai Min said to him:
"I don't want to die in the hospital."
So, Ding Yizhou made a decision and took her outside to have a look.
At that time, Ding Yizhou only had 200 yuan left on him, but he didn't think this was a reason why he couldn't go.
On January 1, 2015, two people and a dog set off with only 200 yuan.
Starting from Liuzhou, bypassing Beijing, I drew a trajectory of love with my footsteps on the map.
They go very slowly, very slowly.
When he ran out of money, he stopped to set up a stall to give a haircut or herd sheep to a shepherd.
Wait for a few thousand dollars, and then start again and rush to the next stop.
They couldn't afford to stay in a hotel, so they pitched their tents.
Winter nights are cold, but it's sweet and warm for the two to lean together.
They became the most important people to each other.
During the trip, passers-by took photos of them, which attracted media attention.
Their story gradually spread online.
In Lhasa, those who listened to their stories gathered with them in front of the Potala Palace Square.
Without Lai Min knowing it, Ding Yizhou held fresh Gesang flowers in his hand, knelt on one knee, and shouted the belated confession to Lai Min:
"Will you marry me?"
Seeing this scene, Lai Min cried, cried and cried, and she laughed again.
In April 2016, the two held a wedding in Litang, Sichuan, and received everyone's blessings.
Including, his mom.
Lai Min's first pregnancy was an accident.
Lai Min, who learned that she was pregnant, was very excited and named the child "Ding Luyao".
The implication is that the road is far away, and the road of life is also far away.
Ding Yizhou didn't want this child.
Because the heritability of "penguin disease" is as high as 50%.
But Lai Min especially wanted this child.
Her idea is very simple, if one day she is gone, there can be someone to replace her to accompany Ding Yizhou.
During her pregnancy, she wrote 10 letters to her unborn child.
From 1 to 18 years old.
They also shared their joys and worries on stage at The Reader.
At that time, they were still waiting for the test results in a rented house in Beijing to check whether the child had inherited the disease-causing gene.
This is 3 months.
Unfortunately, the fetus inherited Laimin's "penguin disease".
The two argued over the child's whereabouts.
Lai Min said that even if a child is sick, he has the right to be born.
Dante asked rhetorically:
"Can you guarantee that our children will meet the next Ding Yizhou? Who will take care of this child in the future? ”
In the end, Lai Min cried and had an induced labor operation.
In honor of the unborn child, they sold their story to a film and television company.
With the 500,000 copyright fees, they opened an inn in Litang and named it "Luyao Starry Sky".
In 2019, Lai Min became pregnant again.
This time, they gave birth to a healthy daughter.
And named the child "Ding Anning", nicknamed "Bubu", hoping that the child would be healthy and safe.
Although childbirth has brought great pain to Lai Min's body, she does not regret this decision at all.
It turns out that when a woman loves a man to the extreme, she can't help but want to give him a baby.
In Lai Min's opinion, this man who gave everything for himself deserves it all.
They weren't without their quarrels.
But in the end, love depends on character.
Ding Yizhou said, no matter what happens, I can't be separated from her.
Why?
He said: As soon as I break up, she will be finished.
"Thinking about her condition, it's equivalent to killing her directly. I couldn't bear to do something like this, and I didn't want to do it. ”
Lai Min recorded what happened in the past few years and published a book called "The World is Beautiful, We Are Fine".
The day she got the manuscript, she smiled like a child:
"Husband, you see that although I am paralyzed, I am still useful, and I can still make money."
Ding Yizhou gave her a thumbs up.
My girl, you are awesome.
Birth, old age, sickness and death, never give up.
Perhaps, this is what love looks like at its best.