The TV series "Journey of No Confusion" is being broadcast, and at the beginning I mainly went to the cast, Chen Jianbin, Mei Ting, Tu Songyan... So many powerful actors, enough to support a play, but later, I was attracted to different female roles in the play. Simple, Zhuo Xiaoting, Lin Wanrou, Wang Yiru, Qiao Qingqian, they are all in their 30s, with different backgrounds, different educational environments, different appearances and personalities, and their fates are also very different, some of them are simple and persistent, some are good at intentions, some are crazy for love, only few people can live as they want...
This also makes people wonder, how should a 30+ year old woman live for herself?
As Malevin said in the play, "You are not young, you have no money, and your appearance is very ordinary, what else do you want?" “
Reality is indeed a bit harsh for women of this age, coming from deep-seated social prejudices and from emotional kidnappings from close relatives. Unmarried will be urged to marry, single women will be pointed out, married women will be promoted, those who have a child will be asked when to have a second child, at home with a baby will be asked why they do not go to work, going to work will make more time to manage the children... It's like a bottomless whirlpool, a circle, sucking the woman into it, printing it into a similar majority, the look of the worldly standard, the so-called stable life of the parents, the look of the husband expecting the good wife and mother...
Fortunately, the modern woman's sense of self and independence is awakening, and there are many brave women who are beginning to rebel and begin to pursue the life they want. I also have many examples of this around me, such as my girlfriend Fangfang.
Before, work and busyness were her main themes. There was no rest and relaxation, no sleep, no possibility of chatting, snorting melon seeds, letting her sit on the couch, she felt panicked. When we go shopping together, she also stops at any time to chat with customers. She feels that the world is developing so fast, 10 years later, parents are old, children's tuition, houses, cars, etc., think about it is panic and terrible.
But in recent years, as we grow older, the body will have emergencies from time to time, and she has hung up several emergencies in the middle of the night, so that she suddenly realized that we really need to sacrifice all the present and change to a so-called beautiful future?
She finally found that work is actually only a part of life, and she can't think of a better future without the comfort of the present.
Now, in her dictionary, health has become number one. Eating is no longer a casual takeaway, no longer what you want to eat, but how to eat nutritious and healthy.
To this end, she also bought a microcrystalline refrigerator for the family, this refrigerator has a very strong preservation function, especially for meat and seafood ingredients, can do a week without freezing the original taste, she likes to eat salmon, according to her previous rhythm of life, she would not have the opportunity to eat the same taste as the Japanese food store at home.
Because this refrigerator also saves her a lot of time, she only needs to go to the supermarket once a week to purchase ingredients, meat and seafood are placed in the microcrystalline cabin, and can be taken out at any time of the week to cook, without thawing, nutrition and taste are as fresh as the newly bought. It is also because of this refrigerator that she now often shows off her exquisite lunches with me, salmon sashimi, fried snowflake steaks, steamed sea bass...
This refrigerator has AI intelligent control function, her family bought strawberries, blueberries and whatnot, placed in the fruit and vegetable cabin, one by one are brightly colored, delicate and dripping, even if put for a week will remain very fresh, dried fruit ingredients, can also be well preserved, will not return to the tide.
In addition, this refrigerator is also smart enough to connect to the Midea Mercure APP, which can remind her at any time which ingredients in the refrigerator are about to expire and which ingredients are suitable for what kind of meal. She said that now the family is like a caring housekeeper, and every day she also learns a few new dishes and makes a few chic desserts through the freshness cloud housekeeper of this refrigerator.
In her words, eating fresh and nutritious is the beginning of loving yourself, and it is also the beginning of living for yourself
Exercise is no longer just something that exists in her schedule, join the WeChat movement, bracelet upper body, and walk thousands of steps every day. I also signed up for a yoga class, and even if I don't have time, I will practice yoga at home by myself.
Now, she found that she began to add herself in front of her children, the elderly, and her lover, giving herself more time. Add health, exercise, diet to the busy life... Plus your own needs at the moment.
Every night, every weekend, she would leave herself a space to be alone. Read the books you want to read, write the words you want to write, and even go in a daze. Feel yourself in life, become your true self, and understand yourself, so that you know life.
Wilde once said: Loving yourself is the beginning of a romantic life. I also hope that every 30+ woman can live the way she wants! Love yourself, starting from three meals a day, the wealth of rice, oil and salt in life is full of meaning, and it does not live up to this life!