Last night, the child came back from school, I urged him to quickly write the homework, I went to the kitchen to make some food to eat, we agreed to do their own thing, the child was very happy to agree, but it did not take long, the child ran to the kitchen to find me, Mom, tonight's homework is a lot, and it is all arithmetic, so difficult Oh, hearing this, I did not have a good temperament to say, difficult to do ah, go to the calculation, treat the school to meet the difficulties, I was difficult to learn things I also insisted, I nagged the child and walked away.
After a while, when I went to see how far the baby's homework was written, I saw my baby sitting at the study table, stunned that a problem was not counted, it seemed that I had to think again, preaching and reasoning This trick did not inspire the child's fighting spirit at all. So I went to my bedroom, tried to calm myself down, and then communicated with the child.
The child saw that I was hiding in the bedroom for half a day and did not come out, so he found an excuse to knock on the bedroom door, Mom, I thought for half a day, or will not count, I said yes? The mother came to see what kind of problem today, so the child picked up the book and guided me to say, Mom, this is the addition and subtraction method that we have newly learned today, I can't calculate it, my fingers are not enough, haha, listening to the baby so milky said, I leaned down and touched the child's head and said, really, there are not enough fingers, then we can help us with more than the hand, the child immediately nodded and said, Mom, we can use pencils, we can use stones, we can use small squares, I said there is still, The child pretended to be calm and thought about it, picked up the toothpick cup next to him and said, we can also use toothpicks, I said, you said that the mother is very agreeable, then can we use these things to try to calculate the problem? Eva gladly accepted my proposal, and soon a problem was fast and accurate, and then I didn't bother him anymore, let him continue to do it himself, I came to do something I wanted to do, the final effect, I was very satisfied.
The same thing, a completely different way of doing things, the results received are also very different, we in the usual day with the child, is not more to adopt the mode one, we bitterly talk to the child to reason, but the feedback received is the child's "unappreciative," practice proves that the reasoning of this matter seems to be your understanding of the reason, moved by affection, can not buy in the eyes of the doll, more will make the baby have resistance, the more you do not let this do, I prefer to do this, so, as a parent of us, Stop pointless reasoning, but should lean down to first sympathize with the child's feelings, and then stimulate the child's desire to explore, let the child find a way to solve the difficulties he encounters, and give just the right help when necessary.
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