Wu Mi is a famous master of Traditional Chinese Studies in China, who not only single-handedly founded the School of Chinese Studies of Tsinghua University, but also made great achievements in education, such as Qian Zhongshu, who was his proud protégé. Yet this knowledgeable and talented man has been emotionally criticized. In particular, his entanglement with Mao Yanwen, a female doctor who returned from the sea, was even more talked about by later generations, so what kind of love and hatred is this?
(Wu Mi)
Before Wu Mi met Mao Yanwen, she had read many of her letters through Mao Yanwen's fiancé Zhu Junyi.
Of course, the letter was written to Zhu Junyi.
Speaking of which, Zhu Junyi is Mao Yanwen's cousin who has not yet served five times, and the age difference between the two is 4 years, which is the feeling of Qingmei Bamboo Horse.
In fact, Mao Yanwen had a marriage contract in his early years.
When she was 9 years old, her father betrothed a marriage for her.
The marriage eventually ended with Mao Yanwen's escape.
It was Zhu Junyi who instigated Mao Yanwen to escape from marriage. It turned out that before this, Zhu Junyi and Mao Yanwen had a lifelong private engagement.
After the incident, Mao Yanwen's father had to lose some money to the other party, which was considered to calm the storm.
When Mao Yanjun was 18 years old, with zhu Junyi's efforts, his family was persuaded and engaged to them.
At that time, Zhu Junyi was studying at Tsinghua University, and his table mate was Wu Mi.
During his studies, Zhu Junyi, who was in love, often showed Wu Mi the letters mao Yanwen had written to him.
From these letters, Wu Mi met Mao Yanwen, and at the same time, Mao Yanwen's literary style left a deep impression on him.
After graduating from university, Wu Mi and Zhu Junyi went to Harvard University and Columbia University to study abroad respectively. Mao Yanwen also won the first place in Zhejiang and was admitted to Beijing Higher Women's Normal College to study foreign languages.
In 1918, Chen Liexun, a former tsinghua university classmate, wrote a letter to Wu Mi.
It turned out that Chen Liexun wanted to introduce his sister Chen Xinyi to Wu Mi.
(Wu Mi and Chen Xinyi)
Chen Xinyi graduated from Zhejiang Girls' Normal School and has been working as a primary school teacher since graduation.
Due to the high mood, the average man can't look at it, so he has been dragging on until he is 24 years old and has not yet married.
Chen Liexun said that Chen Xinyi admired Wu Mi's talent very much and had always had the intention of associating with him.
After reading Chen Liexun's letter, thinking that there was actually a woman who admired her, Wu Mi couldn't help but feel relaxed and determined to return to China to meet Chen Xinyi.
Coincidentally, Wu Mi heard Zhu Junyi say that Chen Xinyi was a good friend of Mao Yanwen. Out of caution, he asked Mao Yanwen about Chen Xinyi's interests and hobbies.
Mao Yanwen then wrote to Wu Mi and told him earnestly that it was quite appropriate for Chen Xinyi to be a xiannei helper. But if you want to marry a new-style wife who is sociable and english-speaking, it is best to make another plan.
However, Wu Mi didn't seem to have seriously thought about this problem, but felt that she must go and see this woman who admired herself.
Therefore, he hurried back to China and visited Chen Xinyi in Hangzhou.
Unexpectedly, at Chen Xinyi's place, he saw Mao Yanwen.
Chen Xinyi was a gentle and well-behaved woman, and Wu Mi did not seem to be dissatisfied with her.
However, when he was at Chen Xinyi's house, Mao Yanwen came to bid farewell to Chen Xinyi because he wanted to return to Beijing to study. Her appearance left a deep impression on Wu Mi again.
It turned out that Mao Yanwen was not only better looking than Chen Xin in her life, but she was generous and more handy in communication.
Although she was impressed, she was the fiancée of a good friend after all, so Wu Mi had to hold back her good feelings for Mao Yanwen and soon after she and Chen Xinyi held a wedding.
In 1924, Wu Mi and Zhu Junyi both returned to China and served as professors at Nanjing University.
At this time, Mao Yanwen was 26 years old. At that time, this age was already an old girl, so if she didn't get married, her age was a bit unbearable.
(Zhu Junyi)
Unexpectedly, Zhu Junyi wrote a letter to Mao Yanwen, saying that the two of them were close relatives and must break the marriage contract for the sake of future generations.
At this point, Mao Yanwen was dumbfounded. You must know that they have come together after several struggles, and they can talk about marriage and marriage, and the other party has actually ruined the marriage.
In desperation, Mao Yanwen found Wu Mi and his wife, hoping that they could mediate between them.
Unfortunately, Wu Mi's mouth was worn out, but she still couldn't change Zhu Junyi's decision.
Despite his grief, Mao Yanwen had to agree to break off the marriage contract.
Mao Yanwen fell out of love, and Wu Mi felt responsible for comforting her. In the process, Mao Yanwen also learned more about Wu Mi.
Soon after, Wu Mi was hired at Tsinghua University. There, he attended the wedding of his colleagues Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman.
The combination of Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman was full of storms in the city at that time. The accusations and obstructions have been numerous. Although their union was seen as a great rebellion, they still resisted the ridicule and ridicule of society and eventually came together.
Wu Mi was greatly impressed by Xu Zhimo's courage, and at the same time he also felt that since he loved Mao Yanwen the most, why couldn't he emulate Xu Zhimo!
After that, Wu Mi began to approach Mao Yanwen for various reasons. Even after Mao Yanwen returned to Hangzhou, he also deceived his wife on the pretext of "going to Guangzhou to do business" and hurried to Hangzhou to meet Mao Yanwen.
For Wu Mi, although Mao Yanwen was indifferent to his pursuit, he was more in love with Mao Yanwen.
For Mao Yanwen, Wu Mi was talented, personable, and a professor at the university, which was a good object. However, the fly in the ointment is that he is a husband with a wife.
(Mao Yanwen)
Just when Wu Mi was feverishly in love with Mao Yanwen, his wife Chen Xinyi peeked into his diary and discovered the secret.
Chen Xinyi was already a mother of 3 daughters at the time, and she did not want to lose the family that she had run. So when Wu Mi returned, she told Wu Mi directly that as long as Wu Mi and Mao Yanwen did not have intimate behavior, she could act as if none of this had happened, as long as Wu Mi did not interact with Mao Yanwen from then on.
However, Wu Mi believes that his love with Mao Yanwen is a spiritual love, and this precious feeling must not be defeated by reality.
In order to defend his family, Chen Xinyi wrote a letter to Mao Yanwen behind Wu Mi's back, hoping that she would not interfere in his family.
Mao Yanwen swore that she and Wu Mi were just friends and not lovers. And she also said that she never thought of having a romantic relationship with Wu Mi.
Mao Yanwen's reply, Chen Xinyi did not show Wu Mi. Wu Mi is also tormented by Plato's love affair, and is bent on finding a job for Mao Yanwen in Beiping so that she can get closer to her.
However, the job was found, but Mao Yanwen refused his kindness and prepared to study at the University of Michigan in the United States.
Wu Mi, who was rejected, could not help but blame herself in her heart, believing that she had failed to give Mao Yanwen a sense of security. Therefore, after thinking about it, he ignored the persuasion of everyone and went through the divorce procedures with Chen Xinyi.
After completing the divorce formalities, Wu Mi immediately went to Hangzhou to meet Mao Yanwen and expressed her fanatical love to her again.
However, Mao Yanwen calmly told him that even if he was forced by the situation and had to get married, he could only find a first-time married man.
Just when Mao Yanwen was studying abroad, Wu Mi also began to travel to European countries.
During this period, Wu Mi wrote many letters to Mao Yanwen. When he traveled to Paris, he sent a telegram to Mao Yanwen, saying that if Mao Yanwen did not come to get married, he would break up with Mao Yanwen.
At this time, Mao Yanwen was 32 years old, and because Wu Mi had been pursuing her bitterly, her heart had also undergone great changes. So she went to Paris with the purpose of marriage.
However, when the two met, Wu Mi hesitated. In a hurry, he promised Mao Yanwen to wait another 4 months to return to China and get married.
(Mao Yanwen and Xiong Xiling)
After the two returned to China, Wu Mi not only did not mention the marriage to Mao Yanwen again, but also transferred her affection and ran to Hangzhou to court the talented daughter Lu Baohua.
Mao Yanwen accepted the marriage proposal of Xiong Xiling, the former premier of the Beiyang government.
At this time, Mao Yanwen was 37 years old, and Xiong Xiling was already 66 years old.
What about Wu Mi at this time? Since Lu Baohua rejected his courtship, he was thinking of going back to talking to Mao Yanwen about marriage. Unexpectedly, I received a wedding invitation from Mao Yanwen.
In addition to remorse, Wu Mi had to write his feelings for Mao Yanwen in a poem. It is said that he wrote more than 30 poems, not only published in the newspaper, but also read to the students in class, which made the whole school laugh at him.
Wu Mi's friends felt that he was really detrimental to the dignity of intellectuals by doing so, so they sent Jin Yuelin to persuade him.
Jin Yuelin gave him an analogy, saying that he had no problem writing poetry, but the involvement of Mao Yanwen in the poem became a private matter, and it was not easy to get a private matter in the newspaper and publicize it. It's like going to the bathroom every day, who's going to make a big publicity about it!
After Wu Mi listened, she was furious and slapped the table and yelled: "My love is not going to the toilet!" ”
Jin Yuelin also felt that his analogy seemed inappropriate, so he stood there quietly and listened to Wu Mi scold him in vain.
Mao Yanwen and Xiong Xiling's marriage lasted only two years, and Xiong Xiling died of illness.
After Wu Mi heard about it, she had mixed feelings and pursued Mao Yanwen again. However, in the face of Wu Mi's courtship, Mao Yanwen was indifferent and never gave him a chance since.
So, when Mao Yanwen first agreed to come and marry Wu Mi, why did he refuse? Some people think that Wu Mi's so-called love is actually just a kind of spiritual love. This kind of spiritual love is only exceptionally beautiful if it is not obtained. Once it came to the practical problem of talking about marriage, Wu Mi could not accept it, so she was afraid to escape.
Maybe there's some truth to that, who knows!
(References: "Wu Mi's Diary", "Past Events", etc.)