An incident of a woman borrowing money from her brother to buy milk powder sparked heated discussions on the Internet. Because the woman gave birth to a second child and the family was financially tight, she borrowed 1,500 yuan from her brother, but she didn't expect her brother to not only transfer 5,000 yuan, but also said some harsh words, which hurt the woman very much. Netizens have different opinions on this matter, some think that my brother's words are not rough, and some think that my brother hurts my self-esteem too much.
The woman had financial difficulties when she gave birth to her second child and asked her brother for help
It is reported that the woman is 32 years old this year, and already has a 6-year-old baby, and gave birth to a second baby last year. She and her husband are both ordinary salarymen, their incomes are not high, and the expenses for raising two children are very large, especially Erbao's milk powder money.
Because she has to take care of her children, she has no job for the time being, and can only rely on her husband's salary to support herself.
Recently, Erbao's milk powder was about to run out, and the woman urgently needed to buy new milk powder, but she didn't have any extra money on hand, so she thought of her brother and sent him a WeChat message, hoping that he could lend her 1,500 yuan.
The elder brother was generous to help, but he did not forget to teach his sister a lesson
The woman's brother has a stable job, a good income, and usually loves his sister very much. After he saw his sister's news, he didn't think much about it, so he immediately transferred 5,000 yuan to her, so that she didn't have to pay him back, and said that the 19,000 yuan he lent her before didn't have to be returned.
The woman was very grateful when she saw her brother's transfer, but her brother's next words made her very uncomfortable.
My brother said that he looked down on people like her and her brother-in-law, and he didn't know how to live, and he couldn't even take out 1,500 yuan of milk powder money, so he was embarrassed to borrow money. He said that he was her brother, so he didn't care, but she had to change herself and stop being so useless.
The woman felt her brother's indifference and refused to accept the money
The woman felt very hurt when she listened to her brother's words, she felt that his brother did not understand her difficulties and did not respect her choice, and would only sneer.
She felt that her brother's money was with contempt and lessons, and she didn't want it. For the sake of self-esteem, she replied that she thanked her brother, this money is no longer needed, and the money owed to him before will be repaid as soon as possible, which bothers him.
She returned the money transferred by her brother and decided to find a way to solve the problem herself.
Netizens have different views on this matter, some support their brother, and some sympathize with their sister
This incident was posted on the Internet by the woman's friend, which attracted the attention and comments of many netizens. Some netizens think that my brother is doing the right thing, he not only gave his sister money, but also gave her sister education, so that she can know her own problems, stop relying on others, and be self-reliant. They say that my brother's words are not rough, and his self-esteem is earned by himself, not by others.
Some netizens feel that his brother is too much, although he gave his sister money, but he hurt his sister's feelings, did not understand his sister's difficulties, and only said cool things. They say that it is really difficult for young people to make money now, and my sister is not marrying her brother-in-law for money, she is willing to accompany her brother-in-law to endure hardships, and she is also a good girl, and her brother should care more about her and blame her less.
Midnight view
Personally, I think that both the brother and the woman have a certain amount of truth, but they also have some problems.
As a relative of the woman, the elder brother has a good starting point, he wants to help the woman solve difficulties, and he also wants the woman to realize her own shortcomings and improve her living standards.
However, his approach was too direct and stimulating, not taking into account the woman's feelings and self-esteem, nor respecting the woman's choices and values.
His words may make the woman feel that he is showing off his superiority rather than genuinely caring about her. As the younger sister of her brother, the woman's situation is more difficult, and she needs her brother's help and understanding.
However, she can't completely rely on her brother either, she should have her own plans and goals, try to improve her life, and don't always reach out to her brother.
Her reaction was also too sensitive and impulsive, and she should thank her brother for his kindness, and she should also listen to his advice, instead of blindly rejecting and refuting.
I think that the conflict between the elder brother and the woman is actually a problem that many families will encounter, that is, how to find a balance between family affection and money.
Family affection is priceless, money is limited, both are important factors in life, but neither can be the only criterion for interpersonal relationships.
I think that both the brother and the woman should communicate more, understand more, be more tolerant, blame less, argue less, and care less. Only in this way can they truly maintain their family affection and make their lives happier and better.
What are your thoughts on this matter?
