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The Dragon Boat Festival is here, and I am finally going back to his hometown with my boyfriend Li Jin for the holiday. Li Jin is my college classmate, we have been in love for two years, and the relationship is very stable. I like him a lot, but his hometown is in the southern countryside, and I haven't been there before, so I don't know if it will be embarrassing to meet his parents.
"Don't worry, my parents are very nice, you just take it easy. Li Jin comforted me on the phone.
"Well, then I'll pack up and go. Drive carefully on the road and don't make quick turns!" I instructed.
"Got it, don't worry, I'm driving very steadily. See you then!"
Li Jin's family lives in a small village with a unique rural style. We got off the highway and bumped on the country road for about an hour before we finally reached our destination. Li Jin's hometown is a typical southern farmhouse courtyard, with red walls and green tiles, which is very lively from a distance.
"When I'm home, I'll introduce you to my family. Li Jin took my hand and walked into the courtyard, pointed to the middle-aged woman in the blue apron and said, "This is my mother, she is very nice." The white-bearded old man sitting in the next house is my father, don't be frightened by his serious appearance, others are very. ”
"Hello uncle and aunt!" I said hello a little nervously.
"Come in and sit!" Mother Li smiled and served me tea.
"Dad, this is Xiaoqing, the girlfriend I mentioned to you. Li Jin put his arm around my shoulders and introduced to my father.
"Oh, good, good, welcome, welcome!" Father Li nodded, his expression grim.
"Don't mind him, you can take a break with fruit. Li Jin whispered to me.
The courtyard was bustling, and Li Jin's two sisters went home for the holidays. The eldest sister was chatting with her parents-in-law, and the second sister helped a pregnant woman with a big belly into the house.
"This is my sister-in-law, who is now eight months pregnant. Li Jin said to me.
"Hello, I'm Li Jin's girlfriend Xiaoqing. I smiled and greeted the pregnant woman.
"Hello, just call me Zhang Ni. She touched her stomach and nodded at me.
"Need help? You're so busy with your big belly. I asked with concern.
"Oh, I'll just take my time, you're a guest, rest. Zhang Ni smiled and rejected me.
On the day of the Dragon Boat Festival, Zhang Ni was still in full swing preparing a lunch for eight people. Her husband, parents-in-law and mother-in-law were all drinking tea and chatting in the yard, and they didn't come to help at all. I couldn't stand it, so I took the initiative to go into the kitchen and ask Zhang Ni if she wanted to help her chop vegetables or something.
"You're wonderful! Cut some potatoes and cucumbers. "Zhang Ni finally agreed to my help.
Zhang Ni was busy cooking lunch for eight people alone, and I was distressed when I looked at it. She has successively made meat sandwich buns, poached eggs, zongzi, spicy tang and other Dragon Boat Festival foods. I advised her to take a break, but she refused to listen and insisted on finishing the meal.
Finally, when lunch was about to stop, Zhang Ni sat on the stool, and she didn't even have the strength to speak. I quickly poured a glass of water and helped her massage her legs and waist.
"Thank you for your hard work, how can they let you do so many things by yourself!" I couldn't help but blame her family.
"It wasn't intentional, they probably forgot that I don't have mobility anymore. Zhang Ni gasped and said to me.
I looked at the food on the table, the quality was uneven, some were undercooked, some were too salty. This is obviously the result of Zhang Ni's physical exhaustion, which makes me feel very uncomfortable.
"Let's go and call them to dinner. "I helped Zhang Ni to the yard and called everyone.
"Let's eat!" Zhang Ni said weakly. I helped her to sit down in a chair and served food to everyone.
The family finally sat down and began to eat. I found that Zhang Ni was only scooping rice and vegetables, and she basically didn't eat anything.
"Eat some too, don't go hungry later. "I handed her the meat bun.
"I can't eat it, you can eat it. She waved her hand and excused herself.
I watched other people behave while eating. Li Jin's parents and his eldest sister's family only cared about eating, and they didn't care about Zhang Ni's feelings at all. I'm so angry!
After lunch, they then sat under the pergola and chatted, ignoring Zhang Ni to clean up the mess alone. I couldn't stand it anymore, so I mustered up the courage to speak: "Zhang Ni has made such a sumptuous meal by herself, you should also cooperate with her and help clean it up." A pregnant woman is so hard, I feel distressed when I look at it. ”
Zhang Ni's husband also came over to help her to sit down on a chair, and said to himself: "It's all my fault, I shouldn't let you do so much work alone." ”
At this moment, my heart welled up with infinite emotion. Through my reminder, the family finally realized what the problem was and immediately took action to take care of the pregnant woman. I am sure that this incident will also be an unforgettable lesson for them.
Zhang Ni's family finally realized the seriousness of the problem. I see that everyone is sincerely reflecting on themselves and taking the initiative to help Zhang Ni share the housework, and I am very happy in my heart.
Li Jin also came over to talk to me about it. He said that he was usually too accommodating to his parents to express his opinion on important issues, and this time thanks to my reminder, otherwise they might have been in a state of ignorance.
"Actually, I also have a responsibility, I should have cared more about Nini's feelings. Li Jin blamed himself, "In the future, I will pay attention to helping her, and I will communicate well with my brother so that he can also take on his due responsibilities." ”
I nodded and said, "Actually, you don't have to blame yourself too much, the important thing is to be aware of the problem and correct it in time." And everyone in a family has to care for each other, and you can't just do it alone. ”
This incident made me rethink a lot of issues in family relationships. Maybe inadvertently, I will also snub the feelings of the relatives around me. In a happy family, everyone must learn to put themselves in each other's shoes.
"In the future, when we get married, we will actively communicate and understand each other, won't we?" Li Jin held my hand and said softly.
When I heard him talk about our marriage, a little fear rose in my heart for the first time in a long time. I looked directly into Li Jin's eyes and asked softly, "Do you really think that when we get married, we won't be like your brother and sister-in-law now?"
Li Jin was silent, and then said to me solemnly: "I promise, I will never let you bear too much alone, let alone ignore your feelings." Can you just trust me?"
I nodded, deciding that I still believed in Li Jin, believing that our love can overcome all problems. I can't deny my relationship just because someone else has failed. Instead, use this experience as a source of inspiration for the future and reach a consensus with your lover on important issues in advance.
"Well, I believe you. By the way, do you think it's better for us to rent a house and live by ourselves when we get married next year, or live with your parents?" I asked Li Jin with a smile.
I am very pleased with Li Jin's answer, because I can feel his love for his family. This gave me more confidence that as long as we communicated the issues in advance and understood and supported each other, our marriage could be happy.
Although there were some episodes in the Dragon Boat Festival to my boyfriend's hometown this time, it filled me with good expectations and confidence in Li Jin's future marriage.
Before leaving, I went to find Zhang Ni, who was still resting, and asked her if she was okay.
"I'm fine, I'm just a little tired. You've really helped me and my family a lot!" Zhang Ni said gratefully.
"I'm glad I could help you. You also have to take a break and don't push yourself too hard. I told her.
"I see. They will care more about me in the future, and this time I learned a lesson. Zhang Ni smiled and nodded.
"That's good. The most important thing is that your family is harmonious. I said with a smile.
When we got into the car, Li Jin's parents came out to see us off.
"Xiaoqing, it's great to have you here this year. Be careful on the road and keep in touch when you look back!" Mother Li waved her hand and said.
"You must also take care of your health, especially Sister Zhang Ni. I admonished.
"Don't worry, we will be united and take care of each other in the future. Father Li said with a rare smile.
On the return car, I leaned on Li Jin's shoulder and sighed: "Your family is actually very good, but there are too few opportunities to exercise and communicate." ”
I nodded and said, "Me too." Whatever happens, we support each other to get through it. ”
"By the way, I'm going to talk to you about buying a house and having a baby. I will take care of the baby with all my might, and I will never leave you alone. Li Jin said seriously.
"Okay, let's take a look forward. The future is long and beautiful, and I am very happy to be able to plan with you. I smiled and kissed him on the cheek.
In a family, everyone has different ideas and needs. If you can't communicate honestly, it is easy to cause estrangement and misunderstanding. This time, Zhang Ni's sister-in-law took on the heavy housework alone, because her family did not understand her needs during pregnancy in time.
In the same way, Li Jin's family and I also need to continue to communicate and run in in the future. Each of us has different personalities and Xi habits, which need to be gradually adjusted through frequent communication. I will tell Li Jin all these thoughts, and we can think about how to ask similar questions.
"What you said is very reasonable, and I will pay attention to communicate more with my family. Li Jin agreed with me on the phone.
"In fact, communication is also a skill that needs to be trained in life. I added, "We can now cultivate the Xi of listening and understanding each other, and cultivate a healthy communication style." ”
This weekend, let's try to talk for half an hour every night and share today's life and mood with each other. If there is any dissatisfaction, it can be discussed directly. Li Jin gladly accepted my suggestion.
So this weekend, Li Jin and I began to practice "heart-to-heart communication time". Let's find a comfortable environment, and then open our hearts and talk about what we have been thinking and feeling lately. Sometimes we talk about work pressures or family chores, sometimes we talk about inner emotional changes, or some of our plans for the future.
In the process, I found that Li Jin also became more and more able to express his own thoughts, rather than just passively listening to me. I also learned to listen more attentively to him and put myself in his shoes.
"I think there's a deeper understanding between us. Li Jin said to me with a smile one night.
"I think so too. I also smiled, deeply feeling that a relationship requires two-way dedication and communication, which is the key to long-term development.
I know there's still a long way to go; The future will not be easy. But with the bridge of communication, Li Jin and I will definitely be able to overcome all difficulties hand in hand and maintain a happy family full of love and understanding. This will also be the best Dragon Boat Festival gift I can give myself.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, it is the Dragon Boat Festival a year later. During this time, my relationship with Li Jin has grown steadily, and we have gradually developed excellent communication skills.
Now, I have officially married Li Jin and become a member of his family. I remember when I first got married, I was worried that I wouldn't be able to adapt to this new identity. But Li Jin's thoughtfulness and the communication channels we established allowed me to quickly integrate into this family.
"Sister, let's make zongzi together!" My mother-in-law smiled and handed me the zongzi skin.
"Come on, come on, I'll wrap a pig's foot shape for my uncle!" I happily wrapped the rice dumplings and brought them to my uncle, who was playing mahjong.
"Okay! I like to eat my sister's dumplings the most!" Uncle took it with a smile, and everyone laughed too.
In the evening, the family sat in the courtyard for dinner. I can't help but think of the scene of Zhang Ni's sister-in-law working hard to cook alone a year ago, and I am full of emotion.
"Nini, don't work hard, I and Sister Feng will help you cook together. I smiled and said to Zhang Ni, who had already given birth.
"Thank you. I'm still a little weak now, and I need to rest. Zhang Ni said while teasing the baby in her arms.
"I have everything, you and the baby can rest!" Zhang Ni's husband also came over to help hold the child.
In the dead of night, Li Jin put his arm around my shoulders and said to me, "It's been more than a year, and I feel that the two of us are getting closer and better together!"
"Yes, thank you for your understanding and care this year. I looked at Li Jin gratefully.
"In the future, every year during the Dragon Boat Festival, we will all be reunited as a family. I've thought about many days like this. Li Jin said softly.
I nodded, thanking God for giving me such a happy home. There is still a long way to go, and we will walk slowly together. All this happiness comes from mutual understanding and tolerance between family members. This is also the most precious revelation I have received from this home.
Dragon Boat Festival, Thanksgiving;
Heart to heart, love to the beam;
Family reunion and longevity.
Early in the morning, my parents-in-law got up and prepared the festive food. I also hurriedly got up and went to the kitchen to ask my mother-in-law, who was still making zongzi, if she wanted to help.
"Come on, come on, let's pack it together!" My mother-in-law smiled and pushed the exquisite zongzi wrappers to me.
I carefully rolled up the filling of the rice dumplings and wrapped them into a tube. In the process, I felt a long-lost joy of crafting, as well as a sense of intimacy with this family.
"My sister's zongzi skin kung fu is getting better and better!" The mother-in-law said approvingly.
"Thank you mother-in-law for your guidance, I will continue to work hard. I smiled shyly.
At lunchtime, a table of hearty zongzi made everyone praise. I also received a lot of praise for the rice dumplings I made myself, and I was very happy. This feeling of being needed made me really feel like I was part of the family.
After lunch, Zhang Ni came out with the child in her arms and sat with us.
"Nini, let me hug this little baby. I smiled and asked her.
"Okay, it's time for you to practice being a mother. Zhang Ni gently handed the child into my arms.
"Oh my God, the little girl is so cute!" I gently shook the little baby in my arms, and my heart was full of love.
"Seeing that you get along so well, I can't wait to be an uncle!" Li Jin said happily.
I blushed and nodded. Holding my baby in my arms, I look forward to the day when I become a mother.
This year, I really found a sense of belonging in this home. Everyone here is warm and friendly, and I feel extremely lucky. and Li Jin's future has become better and more determined. No matter what awaits us, this sense of home will make us brave and move forward together.