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These days, chasing the TV series "The Right Way to Open Life", the more I chase it, the more addictive I get, and I can't wait to watch eight episodes a day. In the play, Huang Bo plays a middle-aged man with a family and a business, Bian Liang, who vividly interprets the embarrassment of middle-aged men in the rising period of career and the crisis in marriage life, making thousands of viewers shout "real", lamenting whether he installed a camera on himself. And Bian Liang's love and care for his wife is even more envious of everyone.
Bian Liang is a middle manager of a company, in order to give his family a better life, he was very busy, and finally got a promotion opportunity, but he did not expect that the company temporarily changed its policy and suspended his promotion plan. Although Bian Liang felt uncomfortable in his heart, he still did not forget to care for his wife and told her to eat on time and rest early.
As a housewife, she has always been diligent in the affairs of the family, and she has complained about the repetitive and boring life, but it has been resolved by her husband's understanding and love.
Bian Liang shows his love and care for his wife all the time: his ex-girlfriend suddenly appears, he tries to keep his distance from him, and takes his wife and ex-girlfriend to dinner together to help his wife declare sovereignty; Knowing that his subordinates liked him, he quietly invited his subordinates to his home as guests, and showed affection with his wife, wanting to make his subordinates retreat.
Every woman wants to have a "preference" that belongs only to herself, which will make them feel safe, and then firmly believe that the man in front of them will not be taken away by anyone. It is Bian Liang's "exclusive favor" that makes him and his wife love each other more and more.
You must know that ordinary life has always consumed each other's emotions, and if the wife does not feel enough thoughtfulness and care from her husband, the final result is likely to be a parting of ways. As a man, you must give a woman a unique existence and "favor" her. If this man is not willing to only warm you, then the probability is hypocrisy, and the discounted love will deteriorate sooner or later, such a "central air conditioner" is not enough.
The following details can tell whether the man is "spoiling" you or perfunctory.
01. Give you exclusive time
In the TV series "My First Half of Life", the heroine Luo Zijun originally had a particularly happy family, her husband had a successful career, and her children were healthy and happy. But with the development of the company, the husband is either on a business trip or working overtime, and the time to accompany Luo Zijun is getting less and less. Even when the husband is home after work, he has no interest in his wife, and will not chat with her, go shopping, or help her share the burden of taking care of the children.
At first, Luo Zijun thought it was her own problem, until she found out that her husband had a mistress, she knew that her husband's heart was no longer on her, and her husband gave all his time to mistress.
Later, Luo Zijun and her husband went to court in order to fight for the custody of the child, and Luo Zijun, who was not working, did not have an advantage, but a document allowed her to win the lawsuit.
This document is the list of days for the husband to travel and work overtime, 360 days a year, the husband is on business trips for more than 200 days, the remaining more than 100 days are working overtime, and only 20 days can really go home on time, and there is no time to care for his wife and take care of his children. It can be seen that where a man's time is, his love is there.
In life, there are many such scenes: the wife who has not seen her husband for a day, just wants to share what she saw and heard that day, but the husband says that he is very busy and asks his wife to be quiet for a while; The wife showed her husband the newly bought dress with great interest, but the husband did not lift his head, and his eyes kept glued to the game; The anniversary is approaching, the wife asks her husband's opinion, and the husband says "whatever you want" while playing a game ...
We can understand that men are busy, but you have to know that no matter how strong love is, it cannot withstand the erosion of busyness, and love cannot wait for you to be free to know to cherish it. People who really love you, even if they are so busy that they are physically and mentally exhausted, and too busy to do anything, will not be too busy to forget to care about you.
A man, if he really cares about you, will be willing to take the time to respond to you, maybe just a hug or just a few words of information. Even if he was really busy at that time, he would find you as soon as possible after he was busy, calm your uneasy emotions, and "respond" to you.
The man who truly loves you will never keep you waiting, no matter how busy he is, he will give you exclusive time. If a man "favors" you at this point, congratulations, he must care about you very much. Because, true love, is to be available to you at all times.
02. Give you exclusive patience
A dead end in marriage is that it is dull and tasteless and has no novelty, and slowly loses patience with its partner, which is the biggest fatal injury of marriage.
The other day, there was a video that flooded the circle of friends. In the video, a couple is having dinner together, and the wife gushes to her husband about what she has seen and heard, and the husband is obviously absent-minded, perfunctory with "um" and "oh".
After dinner, the wife talked to her husband about the grievances she suffered in the workplace, but the husband thought that his wife was making a fuss, complained that she was too calculating, and hurriedly ended the topic.
After a while, the phone rang. It turned out that her husband's hair was ostracized by her colleagues, and she was in a bad mood, and called a few buddies to go out for a drink. After the husband hung up the phone, he left without hesitation, leaving his wife's lonely figure and inner monologue: I was also bullied, why didn't he have the patience to accompany me?
This video has made countless women empathize, and many men are picky about their partners after entering marriage. They dislike each other's sloppy and busy with housework without trimming; disgusted with the other party's loud voice, in order to save money; Disgusted with the other party is too pretentious, every day the owner of the Li family is short.
But in fact, if a man really loves you, he will be willing to give you all the warmth, tolerance and patience. No matter what you say, he will listen attentively and take everything and every word of yours to heart.
In the current popular TV series "Crazy", Gao Qiqiang's love for his sister-in-law Chen Shuting is like this. No matter how evil and ruthless he is outside, he also greets his sister-in-law with a smile.
He gave all his tenderness and patience to his sister-in-law, even if he was full of anger because of the bad business, he would suppress his emotions and listen carefully to his sister-in-law's speech; I coquettish my sister-in-law at every turn, I can't stand being separated for a long time, and I immediately open my arms and hug my sister-in-law when I meet; I will discuss anything with my sister-in-law, and I will never allow others to talk about my sister-in-law behind my back.
Love, never just talk, really love someone, even if you are a super bad temper, you will unconsciously be patient with your lover. may make your lover angry, but you will always put your lover first, full of her, and "pamper" her in every detail.
If a man is willing to give you exclusive patience, it means that you have lived in his heart, and you must be very important to him.
03. Give you exclusive loyalty
In fact, whether a man loves you enough or not, you can feel it in the process of getting along. As the saying goes, a man's mouth, a deceitful ghost. But if this man really loves you, he will not deceive you, and will give you the truest feelings in the world.
In the TV series "Golden Years", "Playboy" Wang Yongzheng has never lacked a girlfriend, and he also enjoys this kind of life and feels that this is life. It was not until he later met Jiang Nansun and couldn't help falling in love with this girl that he changed his normal attitude and took the initiative to break off relations with other members of the opposite sex.
And these changes were not what Jiang Nansun forced Wang Yongzheng to do, but Wang Yongzheng did it from the heart, because he knew that Jiang Nansun lacked a sense of security, and only absolute loyalty would make Jiang Nansun feel at ease to hand him over.
Since falling in love with Jiang Nansun, Wang Yongzheng's eyes only allow for one person, even if a girl takes the initiative to show favor, he will directly refuse and draw a line with the other party. When Yuan Yuan put down his dignity and took the initiative to confess, he firmly told Yuan Yuan that he had a girlfriend, and directly cut off the other party's thoughts; When others questioned Jiang Nansun, he did not hesitate to stand with his girlfriend and accompany her to face the current difficulties.
The kid of the game world is gone, replaced by a Wang Yongzheng who cares for Jiang Nansun wholeheartedly. It is this "exclusive favor" that makes Jiang Nansun, who has been hurt in love, feel true love, and the love of the two has the possibility of blossoming and bearing fruit.
There is a hot topic on Zhihu is, what should I do if I meet someone who is attracted to my heart after getting married?
The answer to get high praise is: if a man is loyal to you, he will only have you in his heart, and will never make you feel a sense of crisis because of other women; If a man is loyal to you, he will take the initiative to keep his distance from the opposite sex and will never let others take advantage of it; If a man is loyal to you, he will reject all temptations for you and will never let desire break through reason.
Perhaps many people have had such confusion after entering marriage. At this time, whether you can restrain your instinctive impulses is the key to whether this marriage can be maintained.
Chen Daoming once said
"Marriage will run away, but the main thing is to see whether you will put it into action and whether you have self-control."
I think so.
If this man really loves you, he will naturally only warm you alone, give you all his favors, and will no longer be ambiguous with other people, nor will he make your heart full of anxiety.
04. Mei Niang said
The 500 times of looking back in the past life were exchanged for the passing of the present life. In the vast sea of people, it is not easy to meet people who are heartwarming, and there are even fewer who can fall in love with them.
The man who "favors" you alone will give you exclusive time to carefully understand your preferences; It will also give you exclusive patience, watching you make trouble while he laughs; It will also give you exclusive loyalty and soothe your anxiety and anxiety.
Know that no one is obligated to be nice to you, a man who treats you gently like this, just because he really loves you. The best relationship between men and women is not to love vigorously, but that the other party can "pet" you alone.
Such love is warm and deep, some people may never meet in their lifetime, if you do, how lucky you should be! After all, not everyone can give you such a "unique favor", and if you meet such a man, please cherish it!
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