Have you ever heard of a multiple-choice question like this? "Who will you save first when your mother and wife fall into the water?"
Some people will say that saving my mother because she gave birth to me and raising me is really not filial piety. Some people say that saving my wife, although I can't bear the death of my mother, my wife is the one who really accompanied me through my life. Others will say, I will save my mother first, or my wife first, and then jump down and accompany either of them to death.
I think this problem is unsolvable no matter how you choose it, and he is too difficult to choose.
Although we cannot encounter such problems, as a family, large and small choices and contradictions are still inevitable, such as the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is particularly prominent.
So how do you maintain stable family harmony? I remember a scholar who said that the mother-in-law relationship is an extremely special existence in the family relationship, neither blood relations nor marriage relations, but a special relationship formed by these two relationships as a medium, and this relationship has no stability of marital relations and no coagulation of blood relations.
Secondly, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a combination of two other people living in their respective families, living environment, family background, and cultural differences. If the two people cannot integrate and accept each other, they will be full of contradictions, forcing tension in the relationship, which in turn will lead to rifts in family problems.
At this time, the most difficult thing to do must be the man, the mother's son, the wife's husband.
For the wife the husband is dependent, it is a solid arm bend. For the mother, the son is an emotional sustenance and a spiritual dependence.
Leaving aside the father, as an important pillar of the family, the responsibility of the man is self-evident, and it is necessary to exert great effort to maintain this relationship.
Smart men will try to dredge emotions in the middle, play a role in regulating family affection, try to do it, be impartial, and treat it out of a public heart.
Let the filial piety to the mother try to let the wife try to express it as much as possible, the love for the wife is reflected by the parents as much as possible, and the mutual respect and expression of love will definitely make both parties feel warm. Promote more to achieve family harmony.
It is not easy to fall in love, it is not easy to form a family, life is not easy, tolerate each other, and do and cherish will make life better.