No man wants his wife to be like a mother and mother. The mother-in-law relationship is the most difficult sutra that every family has to read.
The cool weather in autumn makes people feel more comfortable. But Xiao Bo was distraught, and he had no intention of appreciating this natural yellow leaf and red flowers, blue sky and white clouds. He reluctantly drove the car to the riverside and parked it, and couldn't help but burst into tears. Xiao Bo foolishly looked at the boats coming and going on the river, that year "a thousand sails have passed through a thousand sails are not" "The man is there, where the lights are dimmed"... Xiao Bo cried loudly, and he finally divorced his wife. In his wife's words, he was letting her have a way to live. From marriage to divorce, Xiao Bo simply had a dream.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > kind and capable single mother</h1>
Xiao Bo originally had a happy family, his father ran aquatic products and sold fish and shrimp in the market. At home, her mother took care of the fish pond and took care of Xiao Bo and her sister Xiao Ling. Doing business is very hard, and my father starts pulling his own domestic aquatic products to the market at three or four o'clock every day. Then he waited for his mother to take over his job, because his father also had to deliver fish and shrimp to wine and other small restaurants according to the order.
The children of the poor family have long been in charge, Xiao Bo has been very sensible since he was a child, and since he was six years old, he has helped his mother cook and clean up the housework, and taken care of his sister, who is three years younger. Often Xiao Bo came home from school or a cold pot and cold stove, he would clean up the house, make meals well, do his homework on the side, take care of his sister at the same time, and wait for his parents to come home.
As long as the parents saw Xiao Bo's brothers and sisters, all their tiredness and grievances were dissipated, and they felt that it was worth it to eat all the suffering.
Although Xiao Bo has to do a lot of housework every day, he has not lost anything in his studies, on the contrary, he is a good student of the class leader every year, and his sister is also very obedient. Every evening after school, Xiao Bo also took his sister home with him.
Happy families are all the same, unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
Xiao Bo's happy life came to an abrupt halt when he was in the third year of junior high school. In the off-season, Xiao Bo's father was introduced by relatives to dig sand on a private boss's sand boat. What kind of work his father was responsible for, Xiao Bo did not know and did not go. The father said the job was a bit dangerous, but the salary was high. Xiao Bo's father was ready to go home after the last time. I also didn't expect to be in trouble, I heard that my father was smashed into human form by the steel plate laid down by the sand boat.
The mother and Xiao Bo brothers and sisters did not have noodles, because the boss took care of the mood of the family, and the one sent home was already an urn. Representing the mother and son trio is Xiao Bo's cousin. After burying his father, the family completely collapsed, because the father was the pillar of the family.
Xiao Bo once mentioned that he did not go to school to help his mother do business, which made his mother very angry, and slapped the door: something that is not controversial, tired and tired is to let you not be busy with life every day like me in the future. You're good, don't read anymore. Are you worthy of your dad?
Under the threat of their mother, Xiao Bo and his sister still went to school. The family business is carried out by the mother alone. The mother told the brothers and sisters: just study well, and they don't have to worry about other things.
The father was gone, and the mother picked up the beams of the family with her weak shoulders. She transferred the family's fields to others to plant, and only gave the three mothers and sons enough rations to eat. Every day before dawn, I go to fish and shrimp to sell, prepare a small amount to put in the market, first send the store to the end, and then go home to catch some and bring it to the market to sell. He also planted various vegetables, melons and fruits in front of and behind his house, and raised some chickens and ducks. Vegetables, melons and fruits can not be eaten to the market to sell, their own native chickens and duck eggs sell at high prices, but also very popular.
Xiao Bo's mother was busy from morning to dark every day, and she was often so tired that she couldn't stand up straight. Xiao Bo looked at the pain in his eyes. Because of her perennial labor, my mother also had some hunchbacks on her back, and people under fifty years old had all white hair. Sitting with your peers, it was as if you were ten years older.
Some kind people in the village saw that Xiao Bo's mother was tired like this, and took the initiative to help her find a wife, which could be shared. However, Xiao Bo's mother refused one by one. She was afraid that Xiao Bo's brothers and sisters would suffer, and she was afraid that her stepfather would look down on the children. If the people of this village do not help, they will also come to Xiao Bo's house to help with some physical work.
Because of their mother's strength and hard work, Xiao Bo's brothers and sisters did not suffer too much because of their father's departure. They grow up physically and mentally, which is inseparable from their mother's efforts! No matter how busy the mother was, she never relaxed her discipline of her two children.
Fortunately, her mother's hard work paid off, and Xiao Bo and her sister Xiao Ling were admitted to college successively. This made my mother cry with joy. Both brothers and sisters are frugal, in addition to studying and not relaxing, they will use the holidays to work and study, sell things, wash dishes, and help people clean. Both brothers and sisters worked very hard to reduce their mother's burden as much as possible.
The unfortunate boyhood made Xiao Bo pay special attention to his family affection and heartache for his mother.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > he and his wife genuinely love each other but their mother does not like it</h1>
Xiao Bo met his wife Xu Yun at work after two years of work. Xu Yun looks average, his family is ordinary, but he has strong working ability and is very considerate, especially Xu Yun also cooks a good dish. Xiao Bo liked this hard-working and self-reliant girl. After six months of dating, the two identified each other. Sister Xiao Ling has also met Xu Yun and thinks that she is gentle and amiable, has a good temper, and believes that this future sister-in-law will definitely treat her mother kindly.
Xu Yun valued Xiao Bo's honesty and loyalty, stability and reliability. She first took Xu Yun's parents to two daughters, and Xu Yun was the older sister. They didn't have too many requirements for Xiao Bo's family, they only hoped that Xiao Bo would be good to his daughter, and the bride price would just look at the form of giving a walk.
Xiao Bo was very grateful to Xu Yun's parents for being reasonable, and he said that he would be good to Xu Yun for the rest of his life.
When Xiao Bo and Xu Yun began to communicate, they told Xu Yun everything about the family, and Xu Yun said that she didn't care. She looked for him to live together, as long as there was a place to live, the two of them did not work too badly, and they had everything after a good struggle. Xiao Bo was still uneasy and said that since his father passed away, his mother had gritted his teeth for himself and his sister. She's used to our obedience, can you two get along well? Xu Yun said very sincerely, if I get married, my mother-in-law is also my mother, and I will love her too!
Xiao Bo and Xu Yun have a very good relationship for half a year, Xiao Bo has been thinking since his father left, in the future, he must find a wife who treats his mother well.
Xiao Bo led Xu Yun back to his hometown during the Labor Day holiday. Sister Xiao Ling went back to the house a day early to prepare. She cleaned up the room and prepared a lot of food. Since the children worked, Xiao Po's mother, under the persuasion of Xiao Bo's brothers and sisters in turn, finally transferred the business, keeping her own small vegetable garden and a few chickens and ducks.
When Xiao Bo and Xu Yun arrived home, it was just noon, and Xiao Ling prepared the meal early, killed the chicken, cooked the fish, and The braised pork that Xiao Bo couldn't get tired of eating. Xu Yun quickly greeted Xiao's mother after seeing him: Auntie is good. He handed over his carefully prepared gift. Xiao Bo's mother didn't answer either, just looked xu Yun up and down with her eyes, and hummed in her mouth: Hmm. Then he beckoned his son to wash his hands and eat. The first time Xu Yun came to the door, he was uncomfortable, and his heart was slightly unhappy. Fortunately, Xiao Ling's eyes reacted quickly, and she quickly accepted the gift for her mother, and then pulled Xu Yun to wash her hands while washing her hands: Sister don't blame, my mother is too happy, yesterday she said to her that she still didn't believe it, saying that my brother has such a good life, can find such a good girl? Xiao Ling's mouth was sweet, and a few words coaxed Xu Yun to be good. And the mother's original words are: This girl is too ugly, and you are not worthy of your brother! It's that the conditions at home are better. Wouldn't have wanted to meet.
Xiao Ling said that good-looking people are all liked and loved. There are many fewer people who are talking about it in an ordinary way, the brother is honest, and the ordinary people have a sense of security and rest assured. She patiently explained that after a night, she finally got her mother's work done. Although the first meeting was unpleasant, fortunately, Xiao Bo's brothers and sisters could resolve it in time, and it had no impact.
Xu Yun also took seriously in front of Xiao Bo's mother and performed well, and she hoped that this future mother-in-law could like herself. As long as she receives a salary, she will buy various gifts for her mother-in-law to please her.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > cousin helped finally have a lover and finally become a family</h1>
Although her mother reluctantly received Xu Yun, she did not immediately agree to the marriage. Xiao Bo thought of his cousin, and after receiving the call, the cousin put down the matter in his hand and went to Xiao's house. The mother was very happy to see Xiao Bo's cousin, whether it was her brother's son and had been married for several years, his mother still listened to his words. The cousin did not know what she had said to her mother, but she took the initiative to mention her son's marriage.
Xiao Bo's family is not very well-off, his mother sent their brothers and sisters to college, and there are few children in the family. The house was newly built when Xiao Bo was in junior high school, and the room furnishings were semi-new and not old. Xu Yun is a real girl, she said that in the future life will have to rely on herself to work hard, she does not care about these.
The next step is to take it for granted: the two parents meet to discuss the marriage, Xiao Bo's family proposes to the family, writes invitations, sets the banquet, arranges the wedding room, and looks at the day.
By the end of the whole wedding, Xiao Bo's two sons were tired. Although they were temporarily married in the old house of Xiao Bo's hometown, both of them decided to buy a house in the future. Xiao Bo had been worried that his mother would be embarrassed by Xu Yun at the wedding, but fortunately, everything went well. Her mother and Xu Yun's parents got along well, and they did not deliberately embarrass Xu Yun. There are all kinds of etiquette, and xu Yun is also given the respect he deserves. Considering the situation of Xiao Bo's family, the Xu family symbolically asked for 20,000 yuan. When it came time to get married, Xu Yun's parents doubled the number of times for their daughter to bring over.
After marriage, Xiao Bo and his wife went to work as usual and temporarily lived in a rented house. Originally, Xiao Bo wanted his mother to go to the city to live together, but his mother refused considering that there was no house, and it was inconvenient to squeeze together: After having my own house, I will go to take my grandchildren.
Sister Xiao Ling and Xiao Bo are in the same city, and she often goes to see her brother-in-law and bring them some eggs, ducks, and vegetables grown at home. Xu Yun is also very good to this little sister-in-law, and she can always think of Xiao Ling if she has any good things.
Xiao Bo felt particularly satisfied, and his life was complete after his mother came. So after marriage, he worked harder. However, if he can see what will happen in the future, he would rather not buy a house or a car, and not work hard to earn everything.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="04" > hated her daughter-in-law for the sake of her child, Xiao Bo's mother</h1>
The days of hard work and struggle are always full and comfortable. Xiao Bo and Xu Yun agreed: after three years of hard work, buy a house of their own, and then consider having children. Xiao Po's mother did not think so, thinking that her son was married, and only by giving birth to a grandson early could the marriage be completed. A family with children is home, Xiao Bo is her only son, and she is still anxious to be a grandmother.
At first, Xiao Bo's mother did not give birth, but after waiting for half a year, Xu Yun's stomach still did not move, and she could catch fire. When Xiao Bo and his wife returned home in the New Year, they always looked for an opportunity to hint at Xiao Bo Xuyun that which family in the village had added grandchildren again; which daughter-in-law of which family had given birth to grandchildren when they entered the door; whoever was in the family of relatives and friends was a grandmother again, and who was a grandmother again. The more I listened, the fool knew what was going on.
Xiao Bo knew and quickly told his mother: he did not have a decent home, first buy the house and arrange the home, you can have children. Otherwise, I don't have this ability, and I will make money to buy a house while raising children.
Mother disagreed: When I gave birth to your two brothers and sisters, did I not raise your two brothers and sisters strongly? Not stupid or stupid. Your dad and I were doing everything at that time to earn ourselves. When you get married, you are born! A dewdrop of grass!
Xiao Bo had no choice but to say: Mom, the times are different now! We also have our own agendas. I want my child to be in better condition in the future.
The mother is angry: it is natural to have children, and the times are different, and it is also necessary to raise children. I don't care what you plan, I have to hurry up and give me a grandson." The old Mrs. Wang in the village, she is a grandmother again! Daughters-in-law are all secondborn.
When my mother finished speaking, she left in a rage. Before leaving, he also glared at Xu Yun viciously, and Xiao Bo did not notice the look in his mother's eyes. But the wife saw the evil of her mother-in-law in her eyes, and she was extremely wronged in her heart, and she could only say nothing.
Xiao Bo knew in his heart that his mother just wanted to hold her grandson. On their own terms, to fulfill their wishes to settle down in the city, they will definitely need the support of their wives, and if they want to have children now, the quality of life of the family will be greatly reduced. He comforted his wife Xu Yun: The old man's thoughts are different from our young people. The next time you talk about children, you'll be sure I don't want to be that early. The wife is very grateful for Xiao Bo's maintenance, and also said kindly: Follow the fate, or let's borrow some money to buy a house first? Enough down payment to have a home first? Xiao Bo did not agree, he lived too much under pressure, and he did not want his wife and children to suffer with him.
Xiao Bo's mother was not happy, and the son she raised with her own hands has always listened to her own words. She didn't want to get married and only listened to her daughter-in-law's words, so defending her daughter-in-law made her very unhappy. Besides, it's just to let her have a baby early, not to let her do anything else!
Maybe the mother-in-law is not bad, maybe the daughter-in-law is not bad, but the conflict of ideas and concepts between the two generations, and everyone's position is different. The mother-in-law wants to hold her grandson, and seeing the next generation is an instinctive thought. The daughter-in-law wants her children to come at the right time, which is also right, children are not only offspring, but also responsibility.
Xiao Bo's mother always thought that Xu Yun was blowing the wind in Xiao Bo's ear, making her son become disobedient to his own words. Originally, Xiao Bo's mother did not look up to Xu Yun very much, so Xiao Bo's mother actually hated this daughter-in-law that she did not like very much.
Unbeknownst to Xiao Bo, his mother hated his wife. He always comforted his wife that when the family was ready, the family's life would be better. He thought about buying a big house to take his mother and sister to live with, and his sister herself, it was okay to work hard to earn money. He and his wife both worked, and her mother came to ask her to spend more time with the old ladies in the city. Although Xiao Bo did not want his mother to stay away from his hometown to adapt to urban life, but his mother was alone in the family, in case something happened, he would be uneasy and regret for a lifetime.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="05" > house, car, child ticket, wife entangled, home is not peaceful</h1>
Just when Xiao Bo and his wife were struggling for their ideal life and saving money, their wife unexpectedly became pregnant. Xiao Bo looked at his helpless wife, and he advised his wife: Since the child has come, it is a fate to give birth.
Xiao Bo had to advance his plan: he took his own salary from work before working odd jobs, plus his wife's saved wages, and the part that was not enough to find his cousin and a few relatives borrowed a little, and then paid a three-bedroom and two-hall house in the city, and the house decoration was also helped by his cousin. When the new house was fully renovated and could be moved in, Xiao Bo was tired and almost softened.
His wife is pregnant, he can not let his wife do it without letting her worry, every day to tell her things, let her give advice. Xiao Bo's mother heard that her son had bought a new house, and she was so excited that she said that her child was resting and bought a house in the city. She also dressed more energetically, and every day in the village her waist was straight.
Xiao Bo drove his mother from his hometown to the city, and when the mother saw her son coming to pick her up, she had mixed feelings: This is good, this is good, you finally have a rest. If your dad is still good, he will be very happy to know. Xiao Bo suddenly heard his mother talk about his father, and his heart was suddenly lost: No matter how well I fight, there are still people who love me who can't see it, is it a pity? He did not dare to be distracted, a tear slipped from the corner of his eye, maybe this is a human life, right? Xiao Bo advised his mother: The son should be happy that his mother should be happy! Right? In the blink of an eye, there was laughter in the car again...
Xiao Ling knew that her brother had bought a house and moved, so she came to celebrate. The family had a reunion dinner at the hotel. Xiao Bo specifically told her mother that she was going to be a grandmother. At this time, Xiao Bo's mother finally smiled happily, and she was happy to keep picking vegetables for her daughter-in-law: eat more and let her grandson gain weight.
Mother and sister moved in. At first, when his sister refused, Xiao Bo said to his sister: If you want to live in, you are also helping your brother. Your sister-in-law and I have only been married for two years, and now that she is pregnant again, I am afraid that they will not be able to deal with any contradictions. Brother, I always have to go to work, where do I take care of some things? You're good at talking, aren't you? Sister Xiao Ling lived in.
Maybe not every man is so sensitive to see the problem, right? His mother and sister moved in, Xiao Bo felt that his life was a little complete, the melon was ripe in October, and his wife had another child.
Xiao Bo thought badly, in his opinion, his family was qi, but there were more contradictions.
Xiao Bo wants his wife to go home and rest, and raising a fetus is also to cultivate the feelings of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After all, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law still spend a lot of time together. Xiao Bo's mother was indignant: What is this? I was still working a few minutes before I gave birth to you, and I was born in less than half an hour. When you give birth to your sister, you are also working, and you are born in an hour. Which woman doesn't have children? How can there be such a squeamishness?
Xiao Bo sincerely argued: Mom, everyone's physique is different, Xu Yun's physique is not very good, and he has never rested before going to work! We haven't suffered in our generation! If Xu Yun went to his mother's house with a child, his mother would not have kissed in the family after that. You take good care of Xu Yun, and when your mother is old and can't move, she will be good to you. He loved Xu Yun and his mother, just like the two hands on the left and right, neither of which could be less.
My mother was not happy: now I have to pay off so many debts when I buy a house, and I have to raise an idle person at home! No way! Xu Yun, the quarrel between Xiao Bo's mother and son, could hear clearly. Because her son has been protecting his wife, the mother-in-law is more and more disgusted with Xu Yun, and blames Xu Yun for hurting the mother-son relationship. Xiao Bo did not want to make his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law discordant, but his mother's unreasonableness made him very embarrassed. I have to go to work again, and I don't have much time to take care of my wife and unborn children.
Xiao Bo couldn't, so he had to discuss with his wife that if not, his wife would go back to her mother's house. Fortunately, my wife's home is not far away, and I can drive myself for an hour. Xu Yun looked at Xiao Bo with a worried face, and she comforted her husband: It's okay, rest assured. The wife returned to her mother's house, and Xiao Bo ran to his father-in-law's house at both ends for three days. Every time he saw his wife, Xiao Bo was always ashamed in his heart.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="06" > reality and dream life are always far apart</h1>
The wife returned to her mother's house, and this new home seemed to have the laughter of the past. Sister Xiao Ling also sighed silently after hearing it, she knew that her mother was not right, but her brother had already said her mother, and she couldn't bear to say it again. The mother would also think that both brothers and sisters were protecting outsiders and not protecting her.
Xiao Bo really couldn't understand why his mother, who had always been generous and kind, suddenly became unreasonable. Is it really as other colleagues said? A woman can be a good daughter, a good woman, a good wife, a good mother, is it rare to become a good mother-in-law? Xiao Bo had to keep himself busy all the time and work hard without thinking too much.
Ten months later, the wife gave birth to a beautiful daughter. Everyone was overjoyed, except for the mother who lost her temper without holding her long-cherished grandson. Xiao Bo said to his mother: Both men and women like it, and they are my children. Mom loves boys, and we'll have one more later.
After Xiao Bo took his wife back from the hospital, he took a month's leave to take care of the mother and son despite his busy work. Xiao Bo held the child every day, washed small clothes, and was very busy. The mother saw her son stretch out his hand from the small coat to open his mouth, and now let an outsider support the group, and his heart was not happy, and he was at home all day pointing out mulberry and cursing locust. Xiao Bo was angry and had a headache, he bought a big house just to want to live a family and a beautiful life, wife and children hot kangtou, is this not every man's dream? Suddenly, he regretted it, nostalgic for the days of renting a house, and how nice it was for his husband to sing with his wife.
The house was bought, and he and his wife and children had nowhere to hide. Every time Xiao Bo wanted to communicate with his mother well, as long as he talked about his wife Xu Yun, her mother was angry. But you can't let your wife and children live in your mother's house all the time. Xiao Bo said two words, and his mother began to cry and hang himself again, so his relatives said that he did not have a daughter-in-law and forgot his mother. Xiao Bo also did not understand, obviously he has been communicating, this road is more and more blocked...
Sister Xiao Ling also gives her mother a reason every day: You don't want your son to be a bare stick, right? But I didn't expect that my mother-in-law hated Xu Yun even more. No matter how good Xu Yun's temper was, he couldn't stand her mother-in-law targeting her everywhere, and couldn't help but argue for two sentences. This time the king exploded: the mother-in-law contradiction officially declared war! The two of them argue at home every day! As big as who has a problem with how much money, as small as a few grams of salt in the stir-fry, and even a sparrow flying on the roof is the fuse for the quarrel between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law hated Xu Yun for not going to work to earn money to raise her son, and he was not beautiful, and he gave birth to a handsome film... Xu Yun grew up with his parents where he suffered from this kind of anger. No matter how much she loved Xiao Bo, she couldn't take the child while doing housework and respectfully listening to her mother-in-law pick bones in the egg, so she also unceremoniously fought back.
The family often chickens fly and dogs jump, and the little life is full of chicken feathers. Xiao Bo felt that his mother had changed, and his wife had also changed. The wife is no longer gentle as water kind and generous, an old lady, do you care so much? But he really couldn't afford to buy a second house.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="07" > family turned into a battlefield wife finally divorced</h1>
Xiao Bo has been dependent on his mother and sister since he was a child, and he cannot send his mother back to the countryside. If he did this, the villagers would scold him for not knowing how to be grateful. He didn't understand why his mother targeted his wife everywhere.
His wife told Xiao Bo that her mother-in-law even had to manage a few inches of her hair, and she really couldn't stand it. It is already very hard to take the child at home, she is not afraid of suffering, she just can't stand her mother-in-law targeting herself everywhere. Buying a dress for my mother also blames me for using the money indiscriminately, buying a lollipop for my child and saying that I will not live a life. Let's get a divorce.
Freezing three feet is not a cold day, and those seemingly inconspicuous little things, accumulated over time, will also become the straw that crushes a family. A straw cannot crush a family, unless it is already dug into a hole.
Xiao Bo was speechless, looking at the extremely wronged woman in front of him, he did not have the courage to leave her. When we first met, she was beautiful and said that she was not pretty, but she was very attractive. And now his face is yellow, and his whole body is still a little puffy. Xiao Bo's eyes were full of tears and he was very reluctant. His daughter wasn't even a year old yet.
However, Xu Yun insisted on divorce: let me have a way to live, I am not suitable for your family. I can't try any harder, your mother really doesn't like me. My daughter was taken away by me, the mortgage and car loan were not paid off, and if the house was transferred to my daughter's name, I would continue to repay the loan together. If not, then divide it as you want.
Xiao Bo was silent again, he thought that even if his mother did not want to, he would like it in the future, but his mother still did not like it.
In the end, Xiao Bo divorced his wife, and his daughter left with his ex-wife. She was a month away from turning one year old.
It is not that women have repeatedly given in and endured to seek the quiet of the years.
The mother-in-law was originally the family's difficult scripture. Xiao Bo still hasn't figured out what was wrong with him. It's just that this is good, the mother does not like her wife, divorced will no longer have to look at each other and hate it! Mothers love sons, wives love husbands, why can't we find a balance between two kinds of love?
What is puzzling is that after Xiao Bo's divorce, his mother said that he let his cousin introduce him better...