Xiaoming is a particularly active child, he is very active, not afraid of suffering, not afraid of tiredness. He is particularly diligent in class labor, and often can do the work of several people by one person.
But such a hard-working child has a fatal flaw.
He was particularly good at lying, often running trains with his mouth full and not hearing a word of truth.
Especially when he did something wrong, the teacher talked to him, and he was lying. When he confronts him after verification, he will immediately find a new excuse, which makes teachers and parents a headache.
Children like Xiaoming actually have a lot of them around us. They either intentionally or unintentionally, or they aim to achieve a certain goal. He often tells lies to teachers, classmates, and parents.
The most common is that they will always unconsciously try to cover up the truth with lies because they are afraid of being criticized or punished.
Children develop the bad habit of lying and not telling the truth from an early age, and the consequences are self-evident. Such bad habits will not only affect children's good morals, but also seriously will make them go astray and even eventually embark on the road of crime.
What is worrying is that the problem of children who love to lie is often not paid attention to by parents.
Many parents hold the fluke psychology of their children who are still small, stubbornly think that "the tree is big and straight", and always fantasize that when the child grows up, these bad habits will naturally disappear.
As everyone knows, it is precisely because of this wrong concept that parents ultimately miss the best educational opportunity.
Studies on children's lying behavior show that children's motives for lying cannot be generalized. Some children have no intention of lying. For example, for perceiving things, the memory is not clear, the concept of time is not accurately mastered, and the moral standards of poor willpower are not clearly understood, which eventually leads to children telling lies and inconsistent words and deeds.
Other children deliberately lie, such as lying in order to please others, get something, win praise from others, or lie to avoid doing wrong things for fear of punishment, cheating, and shirking responsibility.
Therefore, when facing children lying, we should first find the cause, recognize the lesion, and accurately implement the policy to get rid of the disease.
First of all, let the child fully realize the harm of lying.
Parents need to be positively educated when they find out that their child is lying. Help your child recognize the dangers of telling a lie. Children can be guided to understand the importance of honesty to a person. It can also lead a child to recognize that lying is a shameful act, and guide them to realize that lying will not only destroy their personal image, but also affect the relationship of mutual trust between him and his friends. Eventually make yourself an unwelcome, disrespected person.
Parents can also often discuss moral issues with their children. Evaluate the behavior of a character in a textbook or TV series together. Evaluate with your child that a social phenomenon that occurs around you is something that occurs around you. This raises their awareness of the problem of lying.
Secondly, parents should change their educational concepts and accept their children's problem behaviors from the bottom of their hearts, so as to help their children tide over difficulties. Many times, children lie only to escape criticism or punishment from parents and teachers. This is a subconscious act of the child out of self-preservation. People have the instinct to avoid evil, and this is true for adults and children.
When children sabotage something or learn badly, once they tell the truth, what awaits them is often the harshest criticism from parents and teachers, or even scolding, in order to escape these unpleasant experiences. They will naturally resort to lying and trying to avoid risks.
Therefore, we should strive to establish a close and mutually trusting relationship with our children. Just find out that the child has made a mistake, parents must first suppress their own anger and use love to impress the child. When the child tells the truth, we must remember not to reprimand the child immediately and even punish the child. On the contrary, we should be calm, talk to them, use love to dispel the doubts in their hearts, and educate them not to lie in the future.
Many times, the parent's attitude determines the child's subsequent reaction. When encountering problems, parents can first be calm, calmly face the problem, and give their children help with their hearts, so that children can fully understand the advantages and disadvantages of things, and education can do more with less.
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