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In every child's life, the mother is the real superstar.

The mother is the person who brings the child into the world, and it is also the guide for the child's growth.

In the movie "Mysterious Superstar", the actor Who plays Yin Xiya's mother, Mei Vija, said: "In every child's life, the mother is the real superstar. "

Children and their mothers get along day and night, day and night together, under such a subtle subtlety, the children are of course the most profound and long-term influence of their mothers.

Therefore, what kind of personality mother will raise what kind of fateful child.

If you want your child to have a better destiny, then try to be a gentle and determined good mother.

Only such a mother can take her child all the way forward in the direction of dreams and grow all the way!

How to be a good qualified mother

01

Before entering the door, forget your unpleasantness

Before entering the house, mom must remind herself: forget all the unpleasant things in the unit, and now begin to assume the role of mother. Children need their mothers to be happy, and never transfer bad emotions that have nothing to do with children onto children, because children are innocent.

A moody mother can't raise an emotionally stable child. When the mother will appreciate the child, let the child feel that he is loved, and will shout at the child, let the child feel that he is hated, and the child grows up to be wary and become extremely difficult to get close.

02

A child's little honor is important

When a child excitedly tells his mother that he got a five-pointed star or a small red flower at school today, don't show boredom or disdain, and be sure to praise him as happily as your son. The most appropriate way is to say whether you can let the mother see and share this happiness with him, because this honor is very important for the child.

03

"Ignorant" mom

When a child comes to ask his mother, "How to pronounce this word" and so on, the mother had better not answer him immediately, and the worst answer is "How do you not even know this word" and so on.

Mom took one look at it and said, "Oh, I don't know either, let's look up the dictionary together, okay?" After a few times, the mother taught the child to use the dictionary, and at the same time, the child will have a sense of accomplishment after looking up the dictionary and knowing the word, and after many times, he will develop the habit of consulting the information without relying on the mother.

04

Calm, calm, must be calm

When the child tells the mother that the exam is not good today, the mother must restrain her emotions, absolutely can not be angry or gloomy, the child is nervously observing the mother's face at this time. Therefore, it is best for the mother to show that there is no emotional change, let the child take out the paper, and analyze what is wrong with the child.

If the child already understands what is wrong, the mother does not have to dwell on it anymore. But finally encourage him: you see, you figured out that you can't go wrong with the next exam.

The mother's mood is peaceful, and even if the material is not so rich, the child is happy.

Lao She described his mother's life with emotion in the article "My Mother", saying that the education given to him by his mother was the education of life.

He said: "My mother's soft and hard character has also been passed on to me. I adopt a peaceful attitude towards all people and things. "

05

I used to be a coward too

When the child shows timidity before the exam or before doing something more important, the mother must not be dismissive or reprimand him for being timid or acting more nervous than him, which will aggravate the child's psychological pressure and cause the child to be unable to play normally.

At this time, the mother had better say to the child very easily, no matter how you do, mom and dad are not as good as you when they are as old as you, don't worry. At this time, the child will have a lot of confidence and confidence in his heart, and he will play better than usual.

06

In the face of failure, we are a little stronger

When the child suffers failure or setbacks, the mother should show strength and never give up, calmly telling the child that failure only represents a moment, does not represent the child's lifelong failure.

Don't let the mother act hopelessly in the first place when the child doesn't think she has to give up. The worst thing is to use harsh language to ridicule him, to count the children to nothing, and even to calculate the old accounts together. Children educated by such mothers will be extremely inferior and even give up their own bright future.

07

"You have to...", "You should..."

Mothers should not preemptively express their own views before the child has expressed what she wants to say clearly, whether the child wants to or not, in the tone of "you must..." and "you should..." to order the child to represent the child's point of view with her own point of view, and ask the child to carry it out.

Mom must not be synonymous with "authoritarianism". Children who grow up in this situation lack self-determination and lack the ability to judge right and wrong. Mothers and children should have an equal relationship (equality is not unprincipled) and know how to respect each other.

08

Hurt comes from those closest to you

Mothers have to control the way they speak in front of their children.

The mother knows the child best, so the mother knows best where the child's weakness is, if the mother often points directly at the child's weakness when she speaks, with sarcasm, criticism or blackmail, or knowing that the child cannot do it and deliberately asking the child to do it, this is undoubtedly the sharpest weapon constantly stabbing the child's sore spot. The child will be hurt inside because the hurt comes from the people closest to him.

09

"Short language + silence" > nagging non-stop

Mothers control the number of languages in front of their children. Don't nag, in fact, the most frightening thing for the child is the silence of the mother, so instead of nagging and nagging the child endlessly, it is better to tell the child in short language where he has made mistakes or what he should pay attention to.

Next, the mother's silence is certainly more useful than continuing to speak, do not think that the child does not understand, although he pretends to be indifferent, but is actually observing whether the mother takes what she says seriously.

Therefore, the mother's personality, language and behavior affect the child's life.

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