After giving birth to a child, bao mom's emotional collapse, what conditions are met, and women are willing to have a second or third child?

In real life, what kind of family will have a second or third child?

Leaving aside the economic conditions, as a woman, I think the understanding and support of the other half is very critical.

After I gave birth to my eldest daughter, I stayed in the hospital for a few days, and at that time, every night, mr. took care of us.

He clumsily changed the diaper of the little girl, carefully studied the way the diaper was worn, and observed the reaction of the little girl, afraid that she would not be comfortable.

He patiently fed her milk powder, from the hot bottle, soaked milk powder, and then poured out a little milk on the back of his hand to test the temperature, each procedure he carefully and carefully.

After feeding the little girl's milk powder, he picked her up, rested her little head on his shoulder, and gently burped her with one hand.

He held her tenderly, coaxed her to sleep, talked to her, and his eyebrows were full of joy.

And I, because there was not enough milk at that time, was resting most of the time. In fact, I gave birth to a regular child, and I can get out of bed and walk on the same day.

But I was content to enjoy my husband's care and was glad to have him by my side when I was a new mother. It was his thoughtfulness and care that made me feel that having a baby was not as difficult as I thought.

As soon as the little girl was blowing, even if he was too sleepy to open his eyes, he would tell me, "I'll go get it, and you rest." ”

Looking at their father and daughter, I had a feeling that the years were quiet.

A few years later, the second girl was born, and the husband took care of her with ease, and did not take care of the big girl in the first place.

Admittedly, as a stay-at-home mom, most of the time I am taking care of the children, and my husband has very little time with the children because he is busy with work.

But he played with them as soon as he had time, squatted on the ground with them to watch the ants, accompanied them to see the flowers in the spring, played with the water in the summer, not to mention that he did housework as soon as he had time, and I was very content with this.

Because I know that raising children, I am not alone, with him in it, I am not alone.

For women, having children is a hard and risky affair.

When a woman is willing to have children, the care and understanding from relatives (especially husbands) is particularly important. On the contrary, if there is no one behind her, especially if her husband is cold, uncaring, and unaccompanied, Baoma's emotions can be imagined to be very lost.

There was a mother of three children, and the day before she gave birth, she was still working.

On the day of giving birth, she went to the hospital herself, and no one even cared about eating, or the nurse looked at her pitifully and gave her a few slices of bread.

The child threw up, and no one cared.

Bao Mom's mood became more and more depressed, and she left the hospital alone and returned to the house she rented.

She asked herself why she had to give birth to the third eldest, and whether there was a mine at home? Not really.

Her husband is in poor health and has been taking care of a pair of children in her hometown, and she has been working in the city for ten years.

Sad, lost, angry, aggrieved, helpless, BaoMa's emotions suddenly collapsed.

She is not afraid of hard work, and ten years of part-time work have already honed her. She could not retreat, middle-aged, and the responsibility on her shoulders supported her. But what makes her shudder is that when she gives birth to a child, when she is most vulnerable and needs to be cared for, her husband is not around.

This loneliness, after all, crushed her.

The cow and cow mother I know is also a three-treasure mother, she has both children, because she likes children, when pregnant with cows and cows, she consulted with her husband and gave birth to the child.

At that time, Niu Niu Dad was working in the field, and although he came back a day or two a week, as soon as he returned, he was busy taking care of her and the children, which made her feel very pleased.

Coupled with the fact that her mother was helping her at that time, she felt that the life of the third child was not so tired.

Half a year later, the mother returned to her hometown, and the husband could not come back for a long time because of work, and the cow and cow mother suddenly collapsed.

One day, she took niu niu to send her second son to kindergarten, the weather was a little cold, niu niu was blown cold, and it was fever and spitting up milk, and she suddenly collapsed.

She made a video call to her husband, threw a hysterical tantrum at her, and the husband on the other end of the screen let her vent, and when she calmed down, he gently comforted her.

After crying, life will continue, and the cow and cow mother will continue to be strong.

A few months later, her husband submitted his resignation to the company and found a job in our local area.

"He said the child was still young and didn't want me to work too hard." Mother Niu Niu finished speaking and smiled sweetly.

Raising three children is hard, but the couple works together, and the difficulties and challenges can still be overcome.

Having children is never a woman's own business, and raising children requires the joint efforts of both parents.

If a woman is willing to endure the deformation of the body, vomiting during pregnancy, swelling of hands and feet, the hardships and sufferings of sleeping well, and getting up every night to breastfeed, the man who walks into the marriage with her, please be kind to her, understand her, be considerate of her, accompany her through the stage of having a child, and raise children with her, and take responsibility.

Perhaps only in this way will a woman be willing to have a second or third child.