Text/Xuan Xiaolei
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No one likes nagging people, and men face nagging women, naturally annoyed and intolerable. I used to think my mom was nagging, and I nagged my dad almost every day.
I also think it's because she doesn't love him enough, that's why it's like this.
Of course, there are some reasons for this, but today I saw a couple's small theater and suddenly found out why my mother was so nagging and nagging all her life.
The plot goes like this:
The husband went home and took off his shoes and threw them here and there one by one. The wife said: "How many times have you said that the shoes are put in the shoe cabinet, don't throw them away?" ”
The husband was not happy, did not listen, and still sat on the sofa and played with his mobile phone.
The wife saw that a bunch of bottles on the table were not covered, it was the hot sauce and side dishes that the husband had eaten, the seasonings that had been used, etc., the wife said: "How many times have you said it, after eating it, you can easily cover it, how bad is it to keep it open?" ”
The husband said, "You can't just cover it, nagging..."
After eating, the husband was playing with his mobile phone on the couch, watching TV, and after a while his wife came to see that there were piles of peel confetti on the coffee table, and the garbage can was at his feet.
The wife said: "How many times have you said that the garbage is thrown in the bucket, why do you have to pile it on the table?" ”
The husband was angry: "I am very tired from work one day, and when I come back, I still have to listen to your nagging, are you annoyed?" ”
The next day, the husband brushed his mobile phone, saw a hometown delicacy, said to himself: "I haven't eaten for a long time", and as a result, when he came home from work that day, his wife told him to come quickly in the kitchen.
She heard his words, so she immediately followed the tutorial and made the dish he wanted to eat...
The husband remembers many everyday moments, such as he picks up the toothbrush and says it is too hard, the wife will soon change his soft hair, he picks up the shirt and says it is too wrinkled, she will silently iron him.
She remembered everything he said, cared about everything he said, even if it was just self-talk.
And why he was nagged by his wife was because she said many times, he did not pay attention to it, did not do it, did not change.
I think my parents are the same reason, my mother nagged those daily routines, nothing more than my father never changed the habits, such as going downstairs and never taking the initiative to take the garbage, such as never taking the initiative to clean the room and so on.
In fact, many lovers and couples are similar, and the man who feels that his wife is nagging is mostly not seriously listening to the content of "nagging", nor has he changed anything because of that woman.
Her appeal has not been answered, and naturally she can only keep saying it.
Like the man in the little theater asks, "You nag like this all day, aren't you tired?" The wife said: "Of course, tired, all day with you in the back to clean up, can you not be tired?" ”
Indeed, why does she remind you over and over again that, because you're always making things for her to do and she can't stop. Men may say, "If you don't want to take it, you don't care!" ”
But if she really didn't clean up, this home wouldn't look like a home. She can't do that, she loves this home, she will clean it up, make it neat and clean, and let herself or her husband come home in a good mood.
Unfortunately, many men can't see things in their eyes, even if the broom is down at their feet, they will not help, they either don't care about these things since they were young, it is his parents' business, or they feel that it doesn't matter if they fall to the ground, as if they don't help, the broom will stand up on their own, or when they want to use it, go to the upside-down place to get it.
Of course, this is some men, if they also love cleanliness, there will be no problems and contradictions.
If there is one person in a family who loves cleanliness and one who does not love cleanliness, the one who does not love will only create more work for love.
He will still feel very innocent and think, "I didn't ask you to help me clean up", but this is the home of two people, in a messy state, he is used to seeing, the other half is used to seeing?
If you love the other person, you will care about his feelings, you will remember everything he says, and you will either do it, change it, or help the other party achieve it.
If there is no such action, if there is no such awareness, it can only be said that it is selfish, or it is completely unloving.
If you don't love someone, you will ignore his words and live according to your own mood and habits.
But when you are in love, what the other party wants, what you want to eat, what you like, what you are asked to do, will be put in your heart, in this state of mind, you remind him which habit is not good, he will naturally think of adding trouble to you and making you tired.
So, those who always dislike their partner's "nagging" may need to self-reflect to see if it is because of their own behavior and habits that make their partner tired? Did you create more things for him to do? Did it delay his time?
Even if he loves you and is willing to help you do anything, for a long time, always cleaning up the "work" you have created, and you have no sense of gratitude, and you think that he is nagging and doing a lot of things, then he will gradually be disappointed to the point of having nothing to say.
When he stops nagging one day, he won't be behind you anymore, and he's even going to leave you next, because he's really tired, he's tired, and his heart is tired.
Only then will it be awakened, only then will it be regretted, only then will it be retained, and it may be too late.